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If you’re trying to get a more detailed answer from someone, it’s important to ask them clear and concise questions. When you want a more thorough answer, you’ll have to structure your questions a little differently to get the info you want. We've put together a list of the best ways to pose your questions and how to encourage people to give the most informative responses.

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Plan questions ahead of time.

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  1. Take a few minutes to organize your thoughts and write down a few things you want to cover. That way, you can guide the conversation without pausing or thinking of what to say next.[1]
    • For example, if you’re taking a friend to the airport, some important questions you might ask include, “What time does your flight leave?” “How early would you like to get to the airport?” and “Where do you need to be dropped off?”
    • As another example, if you’re going into an interview, you might ask, “What is the company culture like?” “Where do you see the company in 5 years?” and “What duties can I expect that aren’t in the job description?”
    • When you’re actually talking to the person, it’s okay to follow the flow of the conversation into other topics, but always try to steer it back to the talking points you wrote down.
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Tailor your questions to who you’re talking to.

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  1. Vague questions can be a little overwhelming when people try to think of an answer. Choose a specific detail you know about the person to ask about instead.[2] Since the question is targeted towards them, they’ll have an easier time answering honestly.[3]
    • For example, asking “How did that meeting make you feel?” can refer to anything that happened in the meeting. A better question would be something like, “How did you feel after presenting to the district manager during the meeting?”
    • As another example, instead of asking, “What inspired your design?” you might try asking, “What inspired you to use the color blue throughout your work?”
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Pose open-ended questions for more explanation.

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  1. Use “what,” “how,” and “why” to start your questions so people can’t answer them with one-word answers. Since the person has to explain themselves more, their answers are more thorough and you’re less likely to make any judgments or assumptions from miscommunications. Some example open-ended questions include:[4]
    • “How did the budget changes affect your daily workload?”
    • “Why did you choose this font for the project?”
    • “What were the most memorable moments from the evening?”
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Follow up with more specific questions.

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  1. Listen carefully to how the other person responds and try to pick out key details they mention.[7] Instead of asking another vague question on the topic, use funnel questioning to ask about a specific point from the previous answer. That way, you keep working toward the clearest and most honest answer.[8]
    • For example, if you’re asking about someone’s night, you might start with the question, “Where did you end up going last night?” If the person says they went out to a restaurant with friends, you might ask, “Who did you end up going with?” If they mention someone you don’t know, you could then ask, “Where do you know them from?”
    • As another example, if you could start with, “How did you contribute to the project?” Once they answer, you might ask, “What was the biggest challenge you had?” After that, you could ask, “What did you do to overcome the challenge and complete your task?”
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Build up to sensitive topics.

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  1. Rather than jumping right into really personal or tough questions, ease the other person into the conversation first. Start out with some basic questions on the topic so you can get to know the person better and build a repertoire with them. Once the conversation flows easily, try peppering in a few tougher questions.[9]
    • For example, if you’re asking about why someone was let go from work, you might start with questions like, “How did you like your job?” or “What did you do in your old position?” After you talk for a little while, you can ask “What did your boss say when you were let go?”
    • If the person still doesn’t feel comfortable talking about the subject, respect their privacy.
    • Some studies have shown that some people are more likely to open up if you start with the tough questions so you can get them out of the way.
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Seek clarification if you need it.

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Ask one thing at a time.

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  1. Rather than stringing a bunch of questions together or asking something with a lot of layers, stick to one topic. Let the person answer completely before you ask them something else so they don’t get confused or miss an important point.[11]
    • For example, asking, “What can we do to resolve this budgeting issue and how will it affect our customers?” could lead to a lot of talking points and be confusing. Instead, you might try asking, “What solutions have you tried for fixing the budget?” followed by “How does this solution affect our customers?”
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Use a casual tone.

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  1. If you sound a little uptight, the other person may close themselves off and withhold information. Keep your voice relaxed and upbeat so you sound friendlier. Tell the person that you’re just having a conversation and that they can change their responses too so they aren’t pressured to give a perfect answer every time.[12]
    • For example, rather than asking, “What was the importance of adding that slide to the presentation?” you might instead ask, “What were you trying to cover on that last slide?”
    • As another example, instead of asking, “What emotions were you feeling during the climax of the game?” you may ask, “How did you feel during the final seconds?”
    • Use neutral language as well so you don’t sway their answer. For example, asking something like, “How much did you enjoy that party?” assumes the person already had fun. Try asking, “How did you feel about the party?”
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Listen intently.

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  1. When the other person is responding to you, let them answer completely without interruption. Make eye contact with them and turn your body toward them so you look open and receptive.[13] Lean in closer and smile to help the person feel more comfortable.[14]
    • Try waiting a few seconds after they finish to speak up so you have more time to process what they said.
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  • Give the other person time to answer so they don’t feel rushed. You’ll usually get a deeper and more thoughtful answer.[15]
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Warnings

  • Steer away from leading questions since they can sway someone’s answer. For example, instead of asking, “How upset were you when that happened?” you could try something like, “How did you feel after that happened?”[16]
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Christina Stathopoulos, PCC, ACCC
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This article was co-authored by Christina Stathopoulos, PCC, ACCC and by wikiHow staff writer, Hunter Rising. Christina Stathopoulos is a Certified Leadership and Life Coach and the Founder of Hear Her Roar, a coaching service for women leaders. With more than five years of experience, she specializes in leadership development, relationships, empowerment, public speaking, and work-life balance. Christina holds a BA in Chemistry and English from Mount Holyoke College. She has also received her Professional Certified Coach Credential from The International Coaching Federation and Accomplishment Coaching Certification from Accomplishment Coaching. This article has been viewed 36,986 times.
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