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After spending a wonderful holiday over the Christmas and New Year period, some people feel blue and find that it's difficult to function normally in their daily rhythm. As defined by the DSM IV, holiday blues, holiday depression, or post-Christmas blues, these commonly used terms depict the mental distress occurring after the winter holidays and festival season. This article is focused on experiencing the "blues” since this term suggests mild mental distress, a commonly occurring phenomenon when dealing with daily life stress and change.
Below are some suggested steps to get rid of your post winter festive season holiday blues.
Steps
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Expect some letdown. The holiday season is both joyful and stressful at once. There is family to get along with, gifts to buy and return, people to visit, activities to throw yourself into, plenty of festive food to eat, sales to rush to, and parties to plan and attend. Topped off with the excitement of New Year's Eve, your adrenaline has probably been pumping a lot of the time during the Christmas and New Year's period. Returning to the usual routine and probably quieter workplace than normal can dampen your spirits just by the absence of exciting things to do and look forward to. Equally, if your Christmas and New Year's Eve period wasn't as enjoyable as you had hoped, you can be left feeling down about the lack of enjoyment you'd expected and this can sour your mood. Expecting to feel a little low is a way of telling yourself that this is a normal feeling and that it will soon pass once the routine re-establishes itself.[1]
- Look at your past experiences to enlighten you as to your normal post-holiday feelings. Do you always fall into a slump after the holiday season? If you have spent period after last two holidays in despair, then the chances of this post holiday period continuing in despair are high. Look carefully about what you did last time and what relaxed you. And realize that generally this is a phase that is easily fixed.
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Choose to see the benefits of post-holiday time. The good side to the end of the holidays is that you've had a chance to rest, to relax, and to enjoy yourself. The craziness prior to Christmas has ended both at the workplace and in the home, and the restful time after Christmas and New Year's Eve has hopefully given you the opportunity to do things that are different from your usual routine. And any break in the routine is good for the spirit, providing you with the chance to rejuvenate.[2]
- Take it easy when you're settling back down into your usual routine. Your more rested self is a good thing and gives you an opportunity to take a renewed perspective on your work, routine, study, or home life pace.
- Perhaps the break has given you perspective on your life, job, relationships etc. If so, this is a good time to consider making changes to improve your situation, especially because not making the changes can prolong your blues.
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Be gentle on yourself with respect to your New Year's Resolutions. If you set the bar too high and you already feel as if you're slipping, don't berate yourself. Instead, look at your resolutions realistically and assess whether they need some tweaking to ensure that they're achievable. Discard the resolutions that required you to be too harsh on yourself and reform them into ones that can be met now that the heady atmosphere of New Year's Eve is behind you. Think of it as a double checking of the details, and simply fiddle with the fine print![3]
- Ensure that any goals you've set are reasonable and most importantly achievable. Taking weight loss as an example, targeting for a size zero is unrealistic, but looking for 1 pound loss in a span of week seems to be more achievable.
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Continue spending time around people. Some of the post-holiday season blues might be related to having been around many people over the Christmas break and then suddenly finding yourself surrounded by people you don't know that well, or even not by many people at all. Lift your spirits by continuing to stay connected with friends and family, and getting out and about to do activities where other people interact with you.
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Do things that give you cause to look forward to something. Revive the excitement of anticipation by arranging fun activities, such as having dinner with friends, starting a new class for a hobby or interest, attending a sporting event regularly, going to the movies, etc. Choose activities that meet your budget and interests, and that you know will give you a thrill.[4]
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Make healthy choices. After the many indulgences over the holiday period, it can leave you feeling a little out of shape and worse for wear in the nutrition department. Aim to return to eating healthy food, drinking healthy drinks, and ensuring that you keep getting a good amount of exercise. Eating well and keeping up regular exercise will enhance your mood and help you return to good shape and fitness levels. If you're worried about not keeping warm enough during the colder weather, have more healthy chunky, warming soups that will both warm and fill you up without carrying lots of calories. Warm salads are also an excellent choice during winter.
- Eat away your blues. Eat foods that boost your serotonin (feel good) neurotransmitters. Suitable foods containing tryptophan (the building block for serotonin) include bananas, poultry, dairy produce, and peas.[5]
- Keep exercising no matter the weather, lethargy and weight excuses. Exercise will give you the mood-boost you need and gets you moving again. If you're living in a cold climate, there are plenty of winter exercising options such as walking, skiing, and gym workouts. You could also stay inside and exercise on an indoor exercise bike if you have one. For those in a hot climate, swimming, hiking, and water sports are ideal mood lifters.
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Make this a time for getting professional help and turning around things that have been bothering you. The holiday season tends to put a hold on pressing issues at work and in your personal life because the celebrations, meet-ups, and preparations require your foremost attention. Once this busyness dies down, you're returned to thinking about your general life issues and this might just be a good time to get help from the professionals, be it for anything from sorting out your finances, redecorating your home, or dealing with the unhappy feelings you're experiencing.[6]
- If you didn't plan too well for the holidays and find yourself deep down in the debt rack, get financial advice immediately and start to sort out the finances sooner rather than later. It might reduce the indulgences for now but this is probably the best time to feel the least deprived about indulgences!
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Expect to enjoy the year ahead. Trying to keep a positive frame of mind and planning for interesting and fulfilling events throughout the year is a good way to calm your current blues. Think ahead to the changing seasons and the sorts of things you'd like to be doing as the year moves on, and the sorts of activities and events you'd like to be a part of. Doing something about the things you'd like to happen is the first step and once you're immersed in planning and doing, you'll be too busy to fret.[7]
- If you want to travel, start planning the trip and budget now.
- If you've got big plans ahead like your own or someone else's wedding, having a baby, renovating a home, taking your parents on a cruise, etc., throw yourself into planning.
- If you're yearning for certain aspects of your life to change, such as going from being single to being part of a couple, use this time to plan how you will make this happen, such as putting yourself out there more, joining a club, or spending time using specific online sites, etc.
Expert Q&A
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QuestionWhat causes post-holiday syndrome, and how do I deal with it?Anna SvetchnikovAnna Svetchinkov, LMFT is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Mental Health Advocate, and Author based in Florida. With over 15 years of experience, she helps individuals, couples, and families nationwide and worldwide overcome challenges and achieve their goals through speaking engagements and presentations. Anna is a dynamic presenter who's appeared on major media networks, including PBS, FOX, ABC, and NBC, sharing her expertise in family therapy and mental wellness. She's a published author with over 30 books for children, adolescents, teens, and adults, covering topics related to mental health and wellness. Passionate about destigmatizing mental health, she founded the non-profit "I Care We All Care." Anna has received several awards for her contributions to the mental health field and was selected as one of Florida's ‘40 under 40.’ She received a BS in Psychology and a Master’s degree in Marriage and Family Therapy from UMass Boston and is pursuing her Ph.D in Clinical Sexology from MSTI.
Licensed Marriage & Family TherapistMany individuals experience post-holiday blues as the holiday season can bring about various stressors such as financial constraints and strained relationships, among other things. However, it's crucial to remind yourself of your New Year's resolutions. Remember, you don't have to wait for the new year to set resolutions. Whenever you're ready for change, you can establish your goals. Be your own source of encouragement and affirm that you are capable of achieving your objectives by setting small, attainable milestones and keeping your overarching goal in sight. While some people may experience a dip in mood after the holidays, it doesn't determine their future success in reaching their goals. -
QuestionWhat if my child is very sad Christmas is over? She starts crying when we take everything down and everybody goes home. What can I do for her?Community AnswerRemind her that Christmas will come around again before she knows it. Maybe also mention some other things she has to look forward to in the nearer future. Let her keep a decoration or two up in her room or around the house and keep her favorite Christmas movie on the DVR or on DVD for her to watch if she wants.
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QuestionWhy do I feel so upset once Christmas is over?Community AnswerBecause Christmas is a fun time and you've been looking forward to it. Once it's over, you feel like you don't have anything to be excited about anymore.
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Tips
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Sometimes a person suffering from post holiday syndrome or post-Christmas blues can behave in erratic fashion for the initial weeks after the holiday, doing things like waking at night and sleeping during the day. This type of behavior can be attributed to heavy responsibilities which people experience during holidays. Realize that the change back to a normal routine is disruptive and ease yourself back into it.Thanks
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Before heading back to work, study, or your daily home life routine, it can be helpful to ensure that you have dealt with the vestiges of the season. Pack up the Christmas tree and decorations, take down the cards and recycle or box them, finish the leftovers, etc. Leaving these reminders around can bring on anxiety because they remain tasks to be done and can also bring on a sense of sadness. Get other members of the family or household to help you clear this up in a busy afternoon and share a delicious meal afterward.Thanks
Warnings
- The more severe form of post holiday syndrome or post-Christmas blues is referred as depression. This is an illness of persistent sadness, and is not attributed to normal holiday reaction. Seek professional help if you're concerned that you might be suffering from depression.Thanks
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References
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/depression-management-techniques/202001/7-tips-beat-the-post-holiday-blues
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/compassion-matters/201910/why-its-important-to-break-routines
- ↑ https://www.nytimes.com/guides/smarterliving/resolution-ideas
- ↑ https://psychcentral.com/lib/9-tips-to-cope-with-holiday-depression/
- ↑ Winnie Yu, What to eat for what ails you: how to treat illnesses by changing the food and vitamins in your diet, p. 289, (2007), ISBN 978-1-59233-236-6
- ↑ https://psychcentral.com/lib/how-to-manage-post-holiday-depression
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/depression-management-techniques/202001/7-tips-beat-the-post-holiday-blues
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