How to Dress for a Tea Party

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A tea party is a fantastic reason to get dressed up! If you've been invited to take tea, your invitation will probably say whether it's a formal or semi-formal event so you'll have some idea of what to wear. There are lots of stylish options that will make you feel comfortable while you look your best.

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Keep your outfit modest.

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Save your plunging necklines and daring styles for another event. Tea parties are traditionally somewhat conservative when it comes to the wardrobe. You don't want to show too much skin, so wear a skirt or dress with a knee-length or longer hemline. Choose an outfit with a modest hemline, too.^{[1]
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- A button-down sweater or cardigan is a great way to add a little coverage if your dress or top has a low neckline.

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Wear a bright-colored dress.

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Dresses and tea parties are a timeless combination. Any kind of semi-formal, colorful dress will work. Leave your little black dress in your closet for this occasion—black clothes of any kind aren't usually appropriate for a tea party.^{[2]
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Choose a skirt and flowy blouse.

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Pair a skirt with a blouse for a sweet, comfortable look. This is a great example of a semi-casual outfit that works really well for tea parties. Choose a skirt that's at least knee-length—like a snug-fitting pencil skirt or flared full skirt. Then, wear a top that you can tuck into the skirt so your outfit looks polished.^{[3]
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- For example, wear a blouse with billowy sleeves and tuck it into a colorful pencil skirt. Finish the look with kitten heels or sandals.
- To make a retro tea party outfit, wear a short-sleeved shirt with a cashmere cardigan and a full skirt.

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Pick out clothes with soft colors or floral patterns.

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Reach for pale colors, fun patterns, or clothing with ruffles. Instead of dressing in bold patterns or edgy prints, choose soft, timeless looks. You might find a tea-length dress with a pale blue polka dot pattern, a light pink dress with a ruffled hem, or a soft plaid suit, for instance.^{[4]
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- In general, skip the color black for a tea party, which can look way too formal or serious. Remember, you want light, bright, fun colors!
- Choose light, flowy dresses made from cotton, linen, or a synthetic blend for spring and summer teas. Save heavier dresses made with velvet, chenille, or tweed for cool weather teas.

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Layer your outfit with a cardigan or vest.

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Soften your tea party look by putting a cardigan on over your dress or shirt. Not only does a cardigan, button-down sweater, or vest add a little warmth, it can also add a nice pop of color. If you're wearing a white dress or shirt, for instance, throw on a soft rose or pale green sweater.^{[5]
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- For something a little more masculine, wear a pale sweater vest over a collared shirt. To add a little interest, pick something with a pattern like argyle print.

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Style tailored pants with a blouse or collared shirt.

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Opt for stylish pants to create a comfortable tea time look. Dress pants or slacks are totally fine for men or women to wear as long as they're tailored to fit you perfectly. Wear a stylish blouse or shirt with the pants and consider throwing on a light blazer to make your outfit look really put together.^{[6]
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- For example, you could wear navy slacks with a crisp, white or pale blue collared shirt, and leather shoes. To give the look a more feminine feel, choose a blouse with a floral print and choose kitten-heeled shoes.
- Skip the jeans, shorts, and T-shirts since these are way too casual for most tea parties.

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Pair your semi-casual outfit with open-toed sandals or flats.

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Comfortable sandals, flats, or boat shoes are great for semi-casual outfits. Open-toed shoes are perfect for most garden teas, although you could reach for casual flats. Match a comfortable style of shoe with your look—boat shoes work well with slacks while you can find sandals that work with any dress or skirt.^{[7]
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- Avoid wearing sneakers or flip-flops to a tea party since these are a little too informal.

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Wear closed-toed shoes with a more formal tea party outfit.

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Dress up your look with stylish closed-toed shoes like heels or mary janes. For a more formal tea party, feel free to reach for heels—just skip stilettos and choose something with a stacked style so it's a little more conservative. If you're wearing slacks, wear nice leather shoes, pointed ballet flats, or leather Mary Janes, for instance.^{[8]
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- Not sure which shoes to wear? Try pairing brogues with a tailored suit or wear wedges with a flowy maxi dress.

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Choose a hat that reflects your personal style.

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Look for an elegant hat or fascinator that matches your outfit. Since there aren't rules about what type of hat you should wear, the sky's the limit! Go for a big, floppy hat if you're attending a garden tea party, for instance, or pick a small, artsy fascinator for an intimate tea party.^{[9]
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- If you'd like to complete a masculine outfit, pop on a fedora to give it a sharp style.
- Hats are usually optional at a tea party, but it's a good idea to check the invitation for a specific dress code.

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Add gloves for a formal tea party.

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If you're wearing an elegant dress, finish the look with long gloves. Save the short gloves for more casual events.^{[10]
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- Gloves aren't required at tea parties, but wearing gloves with lots of lace accents or small bows can make you look even more dolled up.
- While you don't need to remove your hat during tea, it is good manners to remove your gloves before the tea service begins.

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Complete your outfit with jewelry.

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Choose simple, elegant accessories that don't overwhelm your outfit. Accentuate your outfit without going overboard—pick one statement jewelry piece like a cocktail ring, classic watch, or a sparkly brooch, but keep the rest of your jewelry simple. If you're wearing a suit, reach for classic cuff links.^{[11]
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- For example, if you're wearing a simple tea-length dress with sandals, classic pearl stud earrings are perfect. If you're dressing up for a more formal tea, you might wear diamond studs and a simple gold necklace.
- Dressing up for a children's tea party? Break out the tiaras, feather boas, and long strands of beaded necklaces!

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Shoes, socks, ties, and belts are all accessories. They should all coordinate with each other and the suit color. For instance, if you're wearing brown shoes, you should have a matching brown suit. The socks should compliment that and the tie should coordinate.

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Hats are optional, although they are commonly worn for both afternoon and high tea.

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Bring along a blazer or shawl if the weather is cool. The blazer is great for dressing up a pair of trousers while a shawl works with skirts or dresses.

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Find out if the tea party has a theme. It may be inspired by a book, movie, or style that can help you plan your outfit.

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A bow tie is a fun accessory if you're wearing a suit at a more formal tea.

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