This article was co-authored by Ira Israel and by wikiHow staff writer, Hannah Madden. Ira Israel is a Licensed Counselor and Psychotherapist who has been in private practice for over 14 years. He specializes in teaching others about happiness and authenticity. Ira teaches sold-out Happiness and Authenticity workshops at Esalen Institute and Kripalu Center and has written over 400 articles on psychology, philosophy, Buddhism, yoga, film, art, music & literature for The Huffington Post, Good Men Project, Mind Body Green, Thrive Global, and Medium. Ira is also the author of How to Survive Your Childhood Now That You’re an Adult: A Path to Authenticity and Awakening. He attended The University of Pennsylvania and has graduate degrees in Psychology, Philosophy, and Religious Studies.
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Far too often, we look at ourselves in the mirror and tell ourselves we aren’t good enough. Embracing your flaws and accepting yourself for who you are is a great way to change your life and learn to love yourself. In this article, we’ll tell you everything you need to know about accepting yourself and embracing your imperfections to boost your self-esteem.
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QuestionHow do I stop self-sabotaging myself?Ira IsraelIra Israel is a Licensed Counselor and Psychotherapist who has been in private practice for over 14 years. He specializes in teaching others about happiness and authenticity. Ira teaches sold-out Happiness and Authenticity workshops at Esalen Institute and Kripalu Center and has written over 400 articles on psychology, philosophy, Buddhism, yoga, film, art, music & literature for The Huffington Post, Good Men Project, Mind Body Green, Thrive Global, and Medium. Ira is also the author of How to Survive Your Childhood Now That You’re an Adult: A Path to Authenticity and Awakening. He attended The University of Pennsylvania and has graduate degrees in Psychology, Philosophy, and Religious Studies.
Licensed Counselor and PsychotherapistSelf-sabotage appears in many forms, including minor things like being distracted and checking social media. Distractions are a huge sign of self sabotage, because they end up manifesting as procrastinating regarding fulfilling our purposes in life. -
QuestionHow can you be a perfect person despite your imperfections?Ira IsraelIra Israel is a Licensed Counselor and Psychotherapist who has been in private practice for over 14 years. He specializes in teaching others about happiness and authenticity. Ira teaches sold-out Happiness and Authenticity workshops at Esalen Institute and Kripalu Center and has written over 400 articles on psychology, philosophy, Buddhism, yoga, film, art, music & literature for The Huffington Post, Good Men Project, Mind Body Green, Thrive Global, and Medium. Ira is also the author of How to Survive Your Childhood Now That You’re an Adult: A Path to Authenticity and Awakening. He attended The University of Pennsylvania and has graduate degrees in Psychology, Philosophy, and Religious Studies.
Licensed Counselor and PsychotherapistThe way to accept challenges and imperfections in life is to see them as learning opportunities. It's all about perception. Some people look at a challenge and attack it, overcoming it. This usually creates a feeling of accomplishment and pride, giving them purpose in life when they're constantly learning and overcoming challenges. So, face your challenges and imperfections and you'll come out stronger on the other side. -
QuestionHow can I be proud of my appearance?Jennifer Butler, MSWJennifer Butler is a Love & Transformation Coach and the Owner of JennJoyCoaching, a life coaching business based in Miami, Florida, although Jennifer works with clients all over the world. Jennifer’s work centers around empowering women who are navigating any stage of the divorce or breakup process. She has over four years of life coaching experience. She is also the co-host of the Deep Chats Podcast along with Leah Morris and the host of season 2 “Divorce and Other Things You Can Handle” by Worthy. Her work has been featured in ESME, DivorceForce, and Divorced Girl Smiling. She received her Masters of Social Work (MSW) from New York University. She is also a Certified Health Coach, a Communications & Life Mastery Specialist, and a Certified Conscious Uncoupling and Calling in “the One” coach.
Love & Empowerment CoachTry to look in the mirror and embrace everything about your body, even the things that may make you self conscious. Be kind to yourself and give yourself what you need to become the person you would like to be. If you love yourself fiercely, including your appearance, others will as well. Remember that your relationships with others are a mirror of your relationship with yourself.
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- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/click-here-happiness/201810/how-be-yourself-in-five-simple-steps
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/click-here-happiness/201810/how-be-yourself-in-five-simple-steps
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/our-emotional-footprint/201712/our-illusions-role-models-heroes-and-idols
- ↑ https://psychcentral.com/blog/5-suggestions-for-setting-realistic-expectations-with-yourself
- ↑ Ira Israel. Licensed Counselor and Psychotherapist. Expert Interview. 26 July 2022.
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/fulfillment-any-age/201407/10-ways-feel-better-about-how-you-look
- ↑ Ira Israel. Licensed Counselor and Psychotherapist. Expert Interview. 26 July 2022.
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/prescriptions-for-life/201803/how-to-stop-comparing-yourself-to-others
- ↑ https://psychcentral.com/blog/5-quick-ways-to-recognize-your-self-worth
- ↑ Ira Israel. Licensed Counselor and Psychotherapist. Expert Interview. 26 July 2022.
- ↑ https://psychcentral.com/lib/ways-to-accept-yourself
- ↑ https://hbr.org/2021/02/a-simple-compliment-can-make-a-big-difference
- ↑ https://psychcentral.com/lib/ways-to-accept-yourself
- ↑ https://www.healthdirect.gov.au/self-esteem
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