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If you know someone who needs alone time to rest and recharge, then you probably know an introvert. Since introverts are usually a little more soft-spoken and reserved, getting close to them can be kind of tough. Fortunately, there are a few ways you can get an introverted person to open up to you and form a real connection with them over time.

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Spend quality time together.

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  1. Instead of spending all your time together in a group, try to plan activities where you two can really connect with each other. Go places on your own where there aren’t a ton of people around so you can talk deeply.[3]
    • Even just spending time together while you read or go on the computer can count as quality time for an introvert.
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Try not to talk over them.

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Understand if they just need to stay home.

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  1. Different introverted people need different amounts of alone time to rest and recharge. If you’ve been hanging out with your introverted friend a lot, don’t take it personally if they tell you they need some time away from you. Chances are, when you see them again, they’ll be rested and happy to hang out.[12]
    • Many introverted people understand that it’s frustrating to hear a “no thanks” over and over. Your introverted friend will appreciate it if you don’t get mad at them for taking care of their own needs.

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    Asa Don Brown, PhD, DNCCM, FAAETS Dr. Asa Don Brown is a Clinical Psychologist with over 25 years of experience. He specializes in working with families, children, and couples, treating a variety of psychological disorders, trauma, and abuse. Dr. Brown has specialized in negotiation and profiling. He is also a prolific author having published three books and numerous articles in magazines, journals, and popular publications. Dr. Brown earned a BS in Theology and Religion with a minor in Marketing and an MS in Counseling with a specialization in Marriage and Family from The University of Great Falls. Furthermore, he received a PhD in Psychology with a specialization in Clinical Psychology from Capella University. He is also a candidate for a Masters of Liberal Arts through Harvard University. Dr. Brown is a Fellow of the American Academy of Experts in Traumatic Stress and a Diplomate for the National Center for Crisis Management and continues to serve a number of psychological and scientific boards.
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    You must establish rapport and trust first. As you develop this rapport, you will develop a healthy relationship with this individual. In time, as the relationship naturally develops, you will discover more and more about this individual, which will help your interactions.
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This article was co-authored by Asa Don Brown, PhD, DNCCM, FAAETS and by wikiHow staff writer, Hannah Madden. Dr. Asa Don Brown is a Clinical Psychologist with over 25 years of experience. He specializes in working with families, children, and couples, treating a variety of psychological disorders, trauma, and abuse. Dr. Brown has specialized in negotiation and profiling. He is also a prolific author having published three books and numerous articles in magazines, journals, and popular publications. Dr. Brown earned a BS in Theology and Religion with a minor in Marketing and an MS in Counseling with a specialization in Marriage and Family from The University of Great Falls. Furthermore, he received a PhD in Psychology with a specialization in Clinical Psychology from Capella University. He is also a candidate for a Masters of Liberal Arts through Harvard University. Dr. Brown is a Fellow of the American Academy of Experts in Traumatic Stress and a Diplomate for the National Center for Crisis Management and continues to serve a number of psychological and scientific boards. This article has been viewed 44,855 times.
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