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You’ve finally ended a relationship with your girlfriend and you’re ready to move on. The only problem is, she isn’t ready to let go. You'll need to be super clear that the relationship is over so she doesn't think there's a chance that you'll get back together. For more detailed steps, check out our suggestions below.
Steps
Expert Q&A
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QuestionHow do you deal with an obsessive ex-girlfriend?Cristina MoraraCristina Morara is a Professional Matchmaker, Dating Coach, Relationship Expert, and the Founder of Stellar Hitch Private Matchmaking, a luxury matchmaking service based in Los Angeles that serves clients nationwide and internationally. As a former casting director, Cristina specializes in finding the perfect partner through her exclusive global network and detailed, warm approach. Cristina holds a BA in Communications and Psychology from Villanova University. Stellar Hitch has been featured in the Huffington Post, Chelsea Handler’s Netflix documentary, ABC News, the Tonight Show, Voyage LA, and the Celebrity Perspective.
Dating CoachStop all contact immediately. Do not talk on the phone, text, email or engage on social media. It may also be best to stop seeing your mutual friends for a while in case new information about you gets back to them and provokes more obsessive behavior. Make sure your friends and family know about it. Delicate situations like these can easily escalate so don’t hesitate to get a restraining order if you feel the least bit unsafe. -
QuestionMy son's ex girlfriend is a pathological liar. I'm afraid she might be dangerous. What can I do?Community AnswerYou should encourage him to document everything she does to harass him so that he can have evidence to show to the police if he ever needs to get a restraining order.
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QuestionWhat do you do if your boyfriend's ex girlfriend will not let you talk to him?Community AnswerYou should let him know what she's been saying so he can discuss it with her. In the meantime, don't let her dictate when you can talk to your boyfriend.
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Completely detach yourself from your ex-girlfriend as a way to counteract her obsessiveness.Thanks
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Your ex may have co-dependency issues that she needs to work through in order to be in a healthy relationship.Thanks
Warnings
- Call 911 if your ex has harmed herself in an attempt to get you back. Let her family know what's happened so they can put her in touch with recovery and mental health resources.[14]Thanks
References
- ↑ https://www.thehopeline.com/when-an-ex-wont-leave-you-alone
- ↑ Cristina Morara. Dating Coach. Expert Interview. 29 September 2020.
- ↑ Cristina Morara. Dating Coach. Expert Interview. 29 September 2020.
- ↑ https://www.sanluisobispo.com/living/family/linda-lewis-griffith/article87595232.html
- ↑ https://youtu.be/_39jR2QtuV4?t=165
- ↑ https://www.thehotline.org/resources/help-my-ex-is-harassing-me-online/
- ↑ Cristina Morara. Dating Coach. Expert Interview. 29 September 2020.
- ↑ https://www.thehotline.org/resources/help-my-ex-is-harassing-me-online/
- ↑ https://www.thehotline.org/resources/help-my-ex-is-harassing-me-online/
About This Article
If you’re trying to get an obsessive ex out of your life, start by clearly telling them you want to move on. Next, be sure to let your friends know what has happened, so they don’t invite you to the same party or other event. To reduce contact, you could also consider changing your daily routine. If you see your ex often or if they try to reach out to you on social media, make some changes, including blocking them on social media. For tips on what to do if you’re being stalked, including getting a restraining order, read on!
Reader Success Stories
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"Thanks for the advice. You made me discover that I have been giving my ex so much of my time by replying back to her messages. After I blocked her and stopped answering her messages, her obsession toward me wore off."..." more