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Sometimes it can be difficult when you have to use the restroom in a locker room, or in any other public facility. Several factors can make peeing in a locker room somewhat uncomfortable. Maybe there are too many people around, and you are suffering from some common stage fright. Or maybe, the environment is just "off" for some other reason. Whatever the issue is, you're not alone. And fortunately, there are several ways you can make yourself more comfortable.
Steps
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Learn about shy bladder syndrome. If your fear of public restrooms makes it difficult to leave the house, you might actually have a medical condition known as paruresis. Commonly known as a "shy" or "bashful" bladder, this problem is classified as a general anxiety order. If fear keeps you from being able to pee comfortably while in a locker room, ask your doctor about paruresis.[1]
- In addition to anxiety, there can also be physical symptoms of shy bladder such as persistent pain and pressure in the bladder. If this sounds familiar, make sure to consult your doctor. You'll want to get professional advice in treating your condition.
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Rehearse success. The old saying "practice makes perfect" can actually help you pee more comfortably. When you are relieving yourself at home, note your ease and comfort level. Then, imagine you are in a public restroom, feeling equally relaxed. By rehearsing, you can help overcome your anxiety by training your brain to feel more relaxed.[2]Advertisement
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Use relaxation techniques. You can also try using some common tricks to ease your anxiety. For example, when you are preparing to pee, take several deep, calming breaths. You can also use mental imaging. Try imagining yourself somewhere else—either a stop where you know you'd be relaxed or somewhere you would feel more comfortable peeing.[3]
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Seek help. If this problem is interfering with your daily life, it is time to talk to a medical professional. One option is to talk to your regular doctor about trying medication. There are many options for different types of social anxiety. Alternatively, you could see a mental health specialist. Ask about cognitive therapy for social anxiety disorders.[4]
- If you decide to try therapy, make sure you are working with a professional who makes you feel comfortable. It can be useful to ask your primary doctor, or a close friend, to refer someone they trust.
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Know the etiquette. Maybe you do not have paruresis. Maybe you just have an aversion to locker rooms. In that case, you can make sure you are aware of proper locker room etiquette to try to make yourself more comfortable. For example, do not try to start in-depth conversations at the urinal. Also, do not urinate in the shower. For the most part, just use your manners.
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Time your visit. Perhaps using the locker room is unavoidable, but you might be able to make your visits more bearable. For example, if you have issues using the locker room at your gym, try changing up your workout schedule. Go extra early in the morning or later at night to avoid the prime time crowds. The fewer people in the locker room, the more likely it is that you'll feel comfortable peeing.
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Use the toilet stalls. Don't be afraid to use the stalls anytime you're in a locker room. While it's not the same as being in your own home, those cubicles can add an important layer of privacy. You'll also have more privacy in there to use the relaxation techniques you've been practicing. Just remember to wash your hands thoroughly after leaving the stall because they can have significant germs.
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Find an alternate bathroom. Maybe the locker room is necessary for a shower and a change of clothes, but that doesn't mean that you have to take care of all of your business in there. Chances are, there is an alternate bathroom somewhere on site. Take time to scope out the building. Is there a "hidden" restroom? Maybe it's tucked away on a floor that doesn't see much foot traffic. Don't be afraid to head there to relieve yourself.[5]
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Get some space. If you're male, the most sanitary and efficient option for peeing is at a urinal. While this can be less than ideal if men and boys are using the same restrooms, you can still make it work. Position yourself at the end of the urinal. Make sure to put an optimal amount of physical space between yourself and the other users. If the urinals are crowded, wait 30 seconds to a minute before you pee. Others will appreciate that you respect their space.
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Become an advocate. With the increasing number of openly transgender individuals, bathrooms have actually become an important political topic. There are movements to make sure that more buildings have private, comfortable restrooms. That could mean more enclosed stalls and mandatory urinal dividers! Become an advocate for more privacy, and use your voice. For example, write to your Congressman. Or to management at your gym. They might just solve the problem for you! [6]
Expert Q&A
Tips
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Don't be embarrassed. This problem is common!Thanks
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Remember that peeing is a totally natural function. Being incidentally heard while you are inside the toilet stall or seen from behind while standing at the urinal is absolutely nothing to be ashamed of.Thanks
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Don't be afraid to seek the advice of a medical professional.Thanks
References
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/overcoming-pain/201008/are-you-pee-shy
- ↑ http://www.uncommonhelp.me/articles/how-to-stop-shy-bladder-syndrome/
- ↑ https://www.betterhealth.vic.gov.au/health/ConditionsAndTreatments/shy-bladder-syndrome
- ↑ https://www.nhs.uk/mental-health/conditions/social-anxiety/
- ↑ https://www.mentalhelp.net/blogs/do-you-have-a-shy-bladder/
- ↑ http://nymag.com/thecut/2015/06/personal-politics-of-public-bathrooms.html#