Not sure how you feel about sex, or even about relationships? You're in the right place!
"Aroace" is a combination of aromantic (aro) and asexual (ace). Aroace people don't usually have romantic feelings or sexual desires. Of course, there's a whole spectrum of aroace people, from those who are in a relationship that isn't romantic, to those who have sex but don't feel any sort of way about it, to those who don't want either of those things.
If any of that sounds like you, we'll help you explore more about your feelings! Answer these questions, and we'll help you figure out your truth.
Questions Overview
- Yes
- Maybe, I'm not sure
- Never
- Agree
- Neither agree nor disagree
- Disagree
- Disagree
- Neither agree nor disagree
- Agree
- A "standard" romantic relationship with all the usual stuff.
- A friends-with-benefits situation.
- A best friends situation, where we're more committed.
- None of these sound appealing to me!
- Sure! Sounds like fun.
- Nah. I want a monogamous, committed relationship.
- I'd be friends, but there wouldn't be those kinds of "benefits."
- Agree
- Neither agree nor disagree
- Disagree
- All the time, and I mean it!
- Sure, but it's just fun and games.
- I would, but I get nervous!
- I’ve never really felt the desire to flirt with people.
- Agree
- Neither agree nor disagree
- Disagree
- Someone who's hot and connects with me emotionally.
- Someone physically attractive.
- Someone I connect with emotionally.
- I don't really get those kinds of butterflies.
- Looks and personality
- Looks
- Personality
- I don't want a partner.
- Romantic relationships tend to be more important to me
- Self-fulfillment is much more important to me than romantic relationships
- They're equally important to me.
- I think I might be aroace!
- I might be either aromantic or asexual, but I'm not sure which.
- I just wanted to double check that I'm not aroace.
- Just for fun!
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What does aroace mean?
Someone who’s aroace is both aromantic, meaning they don’t experience romantic feelings, and also asexual, meaning they don’t experience sexual attraction. Notice how “romance” and “sexuality” are different! In a nutshell, those terms describe emotional feelings versus physical feelings. That said, sexuality and attraction are a spectrum, and are rarely neat or simple. Aroace people might experience these attractions rarely, or not at all. They’re still aroace!
Can aroace people have sex or be in relationships?
Yes! These terms only describe attractions or desires. The reality might look a little different! Someone who’s aromantic can still be in a committed relationship and care about a partner, even if they don’t feel romantic toward them. Likewise, someone who’s asexual can still have sex, they probably just don’t desire or enjoy it in the same way an allosexual (someone who does experience sexual attraction) does. Everyone’s different, and that’s totally normal!
Are aroace people part of the LGBTQ+ community?
Yes, absolutely. Though the asexual and aromantic spectrums aren’t as well-known or as talked about, they’re still a part of the queer umbrella. It’s a given that every member of the LGBTQ+ acronym has their own unique experiences and concerns, but what unites us is a common fight for recognition and respect in a world where these identities are not seen as the norm, even though LGBTQ+ people are everywhere.
Want to learn more?
For more information about the aromantic and asexual spectrums, check out these resources:
