Are you wondering if you’re the kind of person your partner needs? If you’re worried that you might not be “enough”—we’re here to give you the honest truth.
Answer these questions, and we’ll give you an honest outside perspective on whether or not you’re the right person for him.
Questions Overview
- Super easy.
- Pretty easy.
- Not very easy.
- I can't or don't talk to him.
- I'm not super social.
- I'm sort of high maintenance.
- I don't think I'm very interesting.
- I can be a little selfish.
- I'm a great listener.
- I put in the effort needed to make a relationship a success.
- I'm a great communicator.
- I don't know.
- Never.
- A small one.
- A big one.
- Yes, many.
- Yes, some.
- Not really.
- I don't know.
- I've had multiple relationships.
- I've had 1 or 2 relationships.
- I've never dated anyone.
- No, I'm fine the way I am.
- There are maybe some small things.
- There are some big things I'd change.
- No
- Maybe
- Yes
- Not at all.
- A little bit.
- I do feel a bit jealous, yeah.
- As someone they can trust.
- As someone interesting to watch out for.
- As just another acquaintance, or a stranger.
- I don't think most people know I exist.
- Trusting others.
- Telling others how I feel.
- Feeling confident in myself.
- Understanding how others feel.
- Yes. I like it when other people are happy.
- Sort of. My own happiness is important too, though.
- Not really. My own needs comes first
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Being Enough
When you struggle with self-esteem, it’s easy to feel like you don’t deserve things like love or a relationship. Other people seem out of reach, and you can sometimes feel like they shouldn’t be wasting their time on you. But that’s not true! In fact, it couldn’t be further from the truth. Everyone’s got baggage, but everyone is also worthy of love and respect, and deserves to be happy with someone who makes them happy.
So, how can you start believing that you’re all that? Here are some ways to start:
Ask yourself if they’re enough for you.
If you’re chasing after someone who won’t give you the time of day, or dating someone who makes you feel like you’re not the complete package, then it could be that you’re focusing your attention on the wrong person. You deserve someone who makes you happy, and who you enjoy being with. If you don’t, it might be time to consider that you might be happier with someone else. And trust us—someone else is out there!
Remind yourself of what you have to offer.
What are you good at? What are your talents, your skills? When you have something you can be proud of, it becomes much easier to see your own value. And if you’re thinking, “I don’t have any skills or talents,” we guarantee that’s not true! Are you kind? Patient? A good listener? Respectful? Encouraging? Empathetic? These are all vital qualities in a romantic partner, and they go a long, long way!
Remind yourself that they’re flawed, too.
When you’re pining after someone, or even in love, it’s easy to put them on a pedestal. After all, you’re seeing things through heart-shaped glasses. But they’re a person, too, and that means they’ve got their own flaws and shortcomings. It’s important to see them as a real person, not just to temper your expectations, but to give them the respect and consideration they deserve, and recognize them as a complex being, just like you are. If you knew your crush struggled with their own self-esteem, would you love them any less? No! So why should they want you any less?
Reciprocate the effort.
Once you’re in a relationship, or even before, the final key is to give what you get. If they’re going all-out to make you feel spoiled and loved, do the same for them! Or, show them the amount of love you want to be shown, to help them see what you need. It might take some practice to find a balance, but it’s all about telling them that they’re worth it, just like you are.
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