How to Seduce a Scorpio

Co-authored by Jessica Lanyadoo

Last Updated: November 8, 2024 References

Scorpios are people that are born between October 22 and November 21. People who fall under this fixed water sign are known to be highly intelligent, passionate, and loyal.^{[1]
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Research source} Scorpios are often emotional beings that are sexually charged, demanding, and love control, which makes it hard to start a romantic relationship with them.^{[2]
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Research source} Before you try to seduce a Scorpio, make sure that you are ready for a wild ride filled with passion, emotion, and possibly some jealousy.

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Seducing A Scorpio Man

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Wear sexy and alluring clothes. A male Scorpio's sex drive is insatiable, so appealing to their physical desires is a perfect way to catch his attention.^{[3]
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Research source} The attraction he has will increase as long as you have a good conversation, especially if he’s unable to be physically intimate. The longer he is visually stimulated, the more he will want you physically.
- Wear dark red, as it’s been proven to enhance a male’s attraction to a woman.^{[4]
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- Wear something form fitting but not cut too short.
- Try picking out an outfit that complements your best assets.
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Be overtly flirtatious and tease him. Scorpios are passionate and sexually charged people so they love overt flirting. Being playful and funny with him will really get his attention, and may interest him enough to pursue you. Make sure to flirt with confidence and don’t give into all of a his demands. Try making soft physical contact with him, like a touch on the arm, hand, or back. Also remember to not give up too much information on yourself right up front. Make him work for it instead. Scorpios love discovering new things about people, so the more you hold back the more he’ll want to chase.
- Talk dirty but don’t get physical at first. The game of cat and mouse will turn him on.
- Don’t give a Scorpio a lot of hollow compliments because it will make him suspicious.
- Be flirtatious but also be engaged in the conversation.
- Don’t come off as forceful or desperate. Let him invite you back to his room.
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Act like he’s the only one. A great way to engage him is to dance with him face-to-face. Scorpios love their attention and are notorious for being jealous.^{[5]
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Research source} When you are seducing one make sure all attention is on him. Don’t mention past relationships or talk about current male friends.
- If you see someone you know, say hi briefly and then go back to giving him attention.
- Don't constantly look around the room. Keep your gaze fixed on him.
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Cuddle up to him and get physical. Stay in your comfort zone, but have an understanding that Scorpio men are highly sexual and love the sensation of physical passion. After you tease your Scorpio and have built up that mental attraction, it's time to get physical. Cuddle up close to him and let him take some control, as Scorpios are known to be dominant personalities. If he goes for a kiss, or more, fulfilling his physical desires will fully seduce him.
- You should be able to gauge if he wants to get physical towards the end of the night, if he shows interest in you, go for it.
- Since Scorpios are aggressive and dominant, you want to build up his desire for you and make it so he has no choice but to want to be with you.
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Start an intellectually engaging conversation with him. Scorpios love to be engaged intellectually on things that interest them. Having an intellectual conversation with him will turn him on mentally. Try to avoid mundane conversations about the weather and keep it interesting so that you will peak his interest.
- Maintain a straight posture and look him in the eye.
- Talk about what you do professionally with confidence.
- Try steering the conversation to something that you are mutually interested in.
- Some good topics for an intellectual Scorpio are politics, social issues, news, or a show they like.
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Exude confidence when you interact with him. Scorpios are able to tell when people feel insecure and it’s a huge turn off for them. As much as they like to have control, they also admire seeing other people in control, whether that be in the current situation on in their life. Scorpio men are capable of attracting many suitors, so there’s a chance you’ll have some competition if you are trying to seduce one.^{[6]
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- Because male Scorpios are also career driven, they will appreciate someone else who is career driven and independent, just make sure that your career goals do not interfere with his.
- Don't act overly cocky when you're with your Scorpio. Being overly aggressive will be a red flag to him as Scorpios can determine how genuine people are.

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Seducing A Scorpio Woman

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Be interesting and mysterious. Scorpios are curious and like solving puzzles.^{[7]
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Research source} The more you hold back about yourself, the more she will want to find out about you. If you divulge too much information about yourself too quickly she will lose interest fast. Instead of talking too much, let her chase you, and the more she’s able to uncover the more she will want to learn.
- Withhold something that you’re talented at. When it comes up in conversation, you can talk about your experiences and she will be impressed.
- Be genuine. Lying to a Scorpio woman is a betrayal of her trust, and she will have a hard time forgetting about it.
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Refrain from digging into her past. Scorpios are highly private and do not like to be poked and prodded about their past. In fact, pushing her too hard to reveal details about her past will turn her off. When talking to a Scorpio, let the conversation flow organically, and allow the Scorpio to open up when they are ready.
- Acting accusatory about the past of a Scorpio could ruin any relationship you’d have with her.
- Try to keep conversation on what you are currently doing, and your aspirations for the future, not what you’ve done in the past.
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Let them have control over themselves and be patient. It can infuriate a Scorpio woman when someone else tells them what to do. Try to limit how much you are trying to take control, and let them be independent. Similarly, they don’t like to be rushed or hurried, especially when it comes to intimacy or a romantic relationship, so let them get comfortable on their own terms.
- Don’t let them take control over you. While they like to maintain control they also hate weakness in other people.
- Some Scorpios will withhold intimacy at first to see how hard you’re willing to work for it.^{[8]
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Make physical contact. Scorpios are sexual beings and will look for that in someone else. Don’t be afraid to try new things as Scorpios love sex. Being too conservative will turn a Scorpio woman off, as intimacy is often of paramount importance to them. Start off with light touching like trying to touch or hold her hand. You can also try putting your arm around her. If she doesn’t like it, back off, and let her control the situation.
- Never be pushy or demanding. Let her become attracted to you and her lust will be insatiable.
- Remember to always work in your own comfort zone but be willing to try new things if you think it could be fun.
- Don’t dismiss your Scorpio when it comes to physical attention. If you withhold it from her, it can have negative effects.^{[9]
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- Reader Poll: We asked 178 wikiHow readers which date idea they think a Scorpio would enjoy the most, and 47% of them said stargazing. [Take Poll] This could be a great opportunity to initiate physical touch, as well.
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Try to kiss her when the time is right. If the conversation went well and you are both in a private setting, there’s a good chance she may want to kiss you. The important thing is to make sure that she wants it. Make sure that you have already established light physical contact like holding her hand or putting your arm around her shoulder. Wait for a lull in the conversation and look deeply into her eyes, while you move your face closer to hers. If she moves closer to you, and does not look down or away, try to give her a kiss.
- NEVER try to kiss her if she doesn’t implicitly show that she wants it.
- It may not be as effective, but if you are truly unsure, you can ask her if she would like to be kissed first.
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Jessica Lanyadoo
Astrologer & Psychic Medium
Jessica Lanyadoo is an astrologer with over 20 years of consulting experience. She is the author of Astrology for Real Relationships: Understanding You, Me, and How We All Get Along and is the host of the popular astrology and advice show, Ghost of a Podcast. Lanyadoo co-hosted TLC’s digital astrology show Stargazing and writes weekly and monthly horoscopes that help you heal.

Jessica Lanyadoo
Astrologer & Psychic Medium

Win their trust by respecting what they're saying and not saying. Read your Scorpio's body language and understand what they want and when they want it. If you invade a Scorpio's privacy, they won't like it.

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Seduction requires consent. Make sure that the Scorpio you’re trying to seduce wants you back.

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Scorpios are highly competitive and can be incredibly jealous.

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Don't forget your anniversary!

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Don't use or otherwise manipulate Scorpio. This will either crush them emotionally, or turn them into your worst enemy.

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Only try seducing a Scorpio if you are on a date or have met them while you are out and they’ve come back to your place.

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If the Scorpio you have your eye on says no, don’t get down on yourself. There are other, better, Scorpios you can meet.

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