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How to know if your boyfriend or husband is cheating on you with 1 or more people
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He’s been acting a little strange lately, and you can’t put your finger on the reason why. You could be in a committed relationship with him or maybe you’ve just become close recently, but either way, you’ve started to doubt his loyalty. This is a painful thing to wonder about — you deserve to have a healthy and secure relationship. To help you find out if you’re his one and only, we’ve put together a list of common signs a guy has multiple partners. Hopefully, knowing these signs will bring you peace of mind in your relationship.

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He doesn’t show you off.

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  1. If your significant other hasn’t been taking you out, introducing you to others or tagging you on social posts, you might feel like a secret. A relationship that feels secretive can decrease relationship quality. You deserve someone who is proud to be yours!
    • If they never mentioned in social media that they're in their relationship with anybody at all, it's probably because they're trying to keep their options open. If you're dating somebody or involving somebody or in a relationship with somebody, and they never post about you, it's because they don't want any of their prospects, people that are interested in them, saying that they may be talking to somebody else.
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You never see his phone.

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  1. You see him bringing the phone with him everywhere. When you notice that he’s getting texts, he’ll seem jumpy or won’t fill you in on who is trying to reach him. Privacy is one thing, but it’s unusual if he’s obsessive about it.[4]
    • You might see him consistently leave the room to answer calls or decline them when you’re together. If a lot of these calls seem mysterious — or if he brushes off your questions about them altogether — he might be talking to people behind your back.
    • Reader Poll: We asked 488 wikiHow readers to tell us how they felt about checking their partner’s phone, and only 5% felt they didn’t need to check their phone since they trust them. [Take Poll] So, while that may not be a great strategy according to our readers, try to have a conversation about your concerns instead.
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He’s spending more time on his appearance.

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He changes plans quickly.

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  1. If you’ve noticed that he’s quick to rearrange plans with you — or has tons of excuses to drop out of them entirely — then he’s not making enough time for your relationship. Late nights spent working, unexpected appointments, or long sessions at the gym are all common excuses cheaters use to hide their routine. [8]
    • Maybe you’ve noticed that he doesn’t like it when you surprise him or change your own plans. If this is the case, he might be relying on your predictable schedule to make secretive plans during the times that you’re busy.
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He avoids eye contact.

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  1. If he’s avoiding making eye contact while he’s talking, he could also be avoiding telling you the complete truth. He might answer questions about his day while watching TV or immediately turning to clean something so he doesn’t have to look right at you.[9]
    • Other signs of lying can be rolling their lips into their mouth to prevent themselves from speaking more, sweating, fidgeting with their hands or gesturing with both hands, and raising the pitch of their voice.[10]
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Lauren Sanders
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This article was co-authored by Lauren Sanders and by wikiHow staff writer, Madeline Ryan, B.S.. Lauren Sanders is a Professional Matchmaker, Dating Coach, and the Founder of Dating for the Soul. With over four years of experience, she specializes in helping singles find love. Lauren is also the author of Lipstick Faith: A Collection of Inspirational Writings and Life Lessons, You Deserve the World, Rainbows and Strawberries: 100 Devotions for the Brighter Side of Life, and Let's Go Outside Mommy. Lauren holds BS from Dillard University and a Masters from The University of North Georgia. This article has been viewed 84,151 times.
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