This article was co-authored by Katie Styzek and by wikiHow staff writer, Hannah Madden. Katie Styzek is a Professional School Counselor for Chicago Public Schools. Katie earned a BS in Elementary Education with a Concentration in Mathematics from the University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaign. She served as a middle school mathematics, science, and social studies teacher for three years prior to becoming a counselor. She holds a Master of Education (M.Ed.) in School Counseling from DePaul University and an MA in Educational Leadership from Northeastern Illinois University. Katie holds an Illinois School Counselor Endorsement License (Type 73 Service Personnel), an Illinois Principal License (formerly Type 75), and an Illinois Elementary Education Teaching License (Type 03, K – 9). She is also Nationally Board Certified in School Counseling from the National Board for Professional Teaching Standards.
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Dealing with harassment, cyberbullying, or name-calling is a seriously tough situation, whether it’s happening to you or to someone else. Use the options in the first half of this list to stop bullying in the moment, and try out the tips in the second half of the list to prevent bullying before it happens. You should always report bullying to an adult, and if you ever feel scared for your safety, call for help right away.
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QuestionHow can I avoid the person who bullies me?Katie StyzekKatie Styzek is a Professional School Counselor for Chicago Public Schools. Katie earned a BS in Elementary Education with a Concentration in Mathematics from the University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaign. She served as a middle school mathematics, science, and social studies teacher for three years prior to becoming a counselor. She holds a Master of Education (M.Ed.) in School Counseling from DePaul University and an MA in Educational Leadership from Northeastern Illinois University. Katie holds an Illinois School Counselor Endorsement License (Type 73 Service Personnel), an Illinois Principal License (formerly Type 75), and an Illinois Elementary Education Teaching License (Type 03, K – 9). She is also Nationally Board Certified in School Counseling from the National Board for Professional Teaching Standards.
School CounselorBullies tend to pick on people when they're alone, so try to hang around other people during lunch, recess, and after school. -
QuestionWhat do I do if the bully won't stop?Katie StyzekKatie Styzek is a Professional School Counselor for Chicago Public Schools. Katie earned a BS in Elementary Education with a Concentration in Mathematics from the University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaign. She served as a middle school mathematics, science, and social studies teacher for three years prior to becoming a counselor. She holds a Master of Education (M.Ed.) in School Counseling from DePaul University and an MA in Educational Leadership from Northeastern Illinois University. Katie holds an Illinois School Counselor Endorsement License (Type 73 Service Personnel), an Illinois Principal License (formerly Type 75), and an Illinois Elementary Education Teaching License (Type 03, K – 9). She is also Nationally Board Certified in School Counseling from the National Board for Professional Teaching Standards.
School CounselorTell an adult you trust, like a parent, teacher, or school counselor. They'll be able to help stop the bullying. -
QuestionWhat should I say to a bully?Katie StyzekKatie Styzek is a Professional School Counselor for Chicago Public Schools. Katie earned a BS in Elementary Education with a Concentration in Mathematics from the University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaign. She served as a middle school mathematics, science, and social studies teacher for three years prior to becoming a counselor. She holds a Master of Education (M.Ed.) in School Counseling from DePaul University and an MA in Educational Leadership from Northeastern Illinois University. Katie holds an Illinois School Counselor Endorsement License (Type 73 Service Personnel), an Illinois Principal License (formerly Type 75), and an Illinois Elementary Education Teaching License (Type 03, K – 9). She is also Nationally Board Certified in School Counseling from the National Board for Professional Teaching Standards.
School CounselorCalmly ask them to stop bothering you. If they don't quit, ask an adult for help.
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- Notify the police if someone appears to be in danger or you suspect someone is suicidal.Thanks
- Don’t get physical or fight with a bully—it will probably only make things worse.Thanks
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- ↑ Katie Styzek. School Counselor. Expert Interview. 25 November 2020.
- ↑ https://www.apa.org/topics/bullying/prevent
- ↑ https://www.stompoutbullying.org/how-to-deal-with-bullies
- ↑ Katie Styzek. School Counselor. Expert Interview. 25 November 2020.
- ↑ https://www.todaysparent.com/kids/school-age/stop-bullying/
- ↑ https://www.stompoutbullying.org/how-to-deal-with-bullies
- ↑ https://www.stopbullying.gov/prevention/on-the-spot
- ↑ https://www.stopbullying.gov/resources/teens
- ↑ https://www.stopbullying.gov/cyberbullying/how-to-report
- ↑ Katie Styzek. School Counselor. Expert Interview. 25 November 2020.
- ↑ http://www.stopbullying.gov/at-risk/warning-signs/
- ↑ https://www.stopbullying.gov/resources/what-you-can-do
About This Article
Stopping a bully is hard but try to stay calm and start by clearly telling them to stop. If they continue to harass you, walk away from the situation if you can to distance yourself from the bully. Try to be around other people, since bullies often target people who are on their own. You can also avoid places where the bully usually hangs out to give yourself some space from them. If they still don’t stop, don’t be afraid to tell someone you trust, like a teacher, parent, or counselor, who can help you deal with the bully. For more tips from our co-author, including how to help other people who are being bullied, read on!
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