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If you feel like conversations are a potential minefield and you're worried about inadvertently offending someone, you're not alone. This can be especially difficult if you're delivering constructive criticism and don't want the person to be hurt by your words. Having respect and empathy for others will help you avoid offending them. Common form of advice: if this would upset you, is rude, or will offend people you probably shouldn't say that thing [1] If you do happen to say something offensive, apologize sincerely and be willing to learn from your mistake so you won't repeat it.
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Certified Professional Master Life CoachTake her feelings into consideration! If they come from a traumatic background, the worst thing you could do is just leave. When you need more space, suggest that you would “like” to take it. This is not to insinuate that you need their approval, but merely to show respect for their feelings as well.
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- ↑ https://radicalcopyeditor.com/2016/10/24/part-3-care-more-about-people-than-words/
- ↑ https://www.inc.com/lee-colan/think-before-you-speak.html
- ↑ Jessica George, MA, CHt. Certified Professional Master Life Coach. Expert Interview. 11 February 2022.
- ↑ https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5961625/
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/think-well/201110/the-art-constructive-criticism
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/think-well/201110/the-art-constructive-criticism
- ↑ https://www.inc.com/jayson-demers/the-7-golden-rules-of-how-to-give-criticism-without-sounding-like-a-jerk.html
- ↑ https://everydayfeminism.com/2013/05/how-to-compliment-a-woman-without-objectifying-them/
- ↑ Jessica George, MA, CHt. Certified Professional Master Life Coach. Expert Interview. 11 February 2022.
- ↑ https://radicalcopyeditor.com/2016/10/24/part-4-oversensitive-doesnt-apply-to-oppression/
- ↑ https://hbr.org/2019/11/getting-over-your-fear-of-talking-about-diversity
- ↑ https://www.abc.net.au/news/2016-04-15/a-ten-point-guide-to-not-offending-transgender-people/7326584
- ↑ https://rudermanfoundation.org/how-to-not-unknowingly-offend-a-minority-group/
- ↑ https://rudermanfoundation.org/how-to-not-unknowingly-offend-a-minority-group/
- ↑ Jessica George, MA, CHt. Certified Professional Master Life Coach. Expert Interview. 11 February 2022.
- ↑ https://ideas.ted.com/how-to-talk-about-politics-constructively/
- ↑ https://rudermanfoundation.org/how-to-not-unknowingly-offend-a-minority-group/
- ↑ https://hopesprings.net/when-you-accidentally-offend-someone/
- ↑ Adina Zinn, MPA. Certified Career & Life Coach. Expert Interview. 30 March 2022.
- ↑ Adina Zinn, MPA. Certified Career & Life Coach. Expert Interview. 30 March 2022.
- ↑ Adina Zinn, MPA. Certified Career & Life Coach. Expert Interview. 30 March 2022.