How to Start a Conversation on Tinder: The Best Opening Lines

Tons of messages to send your Match to get a response

Written by Lisa Shield | Edited by Aly Rusciano

Last Updated: December 23, 2024

Ding! You pick up your phone to see that you’ve Matched with someone super cute on Tinder. What do you do? What do you say? Worry not because we’re here to help! We’ve compiled a list of the best Tinder conversation starters to help you break the ice. Send one of these, and chances are you'll be talking all night long.

This article is based on an interview with our professional dating and life coach, Lisa Shield. Check out the full interview here.

Things You Should Know

Keep it real in your first message by asking about your Match’s day or their opinion on something.
Break the ice by hinting at something in their profile to show that you’re truly interested in them.
Spark and keep the conversation going by asking an open-ended question about your Match’s life or hobbies.
Throw in a cheesy pickup line or joke to make them laugh and start a playful banter.

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Tinder Conversation Starters

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Quick question: tacos or burritos?
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I need a good movie to watch. Any suggestions?
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Bet you I can guess your favorite color.
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Fancy meeting you here! Do you come to Tinder often?
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If you were a dessert, what would you be?
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Hey, stranger. Let’s not be strangers.
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What’s your definition of a good week?
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Hey Google, how do you tell someone they’re attractive?
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So, are you a cat or dog person?
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Your puppy is almost as adorable as you! What’s their name?
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How did you know I like blondes? 😉
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It’s so cool that you play basketball! How did you get into it?
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Has anyone ever told you you look like Harry Styles?
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Woah! I went to NYU too! What did you study?
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You seem fun! How’s the weekend treating you?
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You don’t like Harry Potter. 😲 Let’s talk!
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So, what do I have for dinner? Italian or Mexican?
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Tell me something surprising about yourself.
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What’s your secret guilty pleasure?
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Hey, it’s nice to meet you! 😊 What do you like to do in your free time?
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What’s the next thing on your bucket list? Let’s cross it off!
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So, what did your Spotify Wrapped say about you?
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I have to know…what’s your favorite type of cheese?
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If you could describe yourself in one word, what would it be?
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I haven’t been able to stop looking at your photos.
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What are you passionate about?
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You must be from Tennessee because you’re the only 10 I see.
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Woah! Someone call the fire department because someone’s smoking! 🔥
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Do you believe in love at first swipe?
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I’m resisting the urge to tell you a cheesy pickup line.
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So, where did you grow up?
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You’re the most beautiful man/woman I’ve ever seen.
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Okay, but you can’t be real. You’re too good to be true!
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Congrats! You’ve just matched with the nerdiest person on the planet 🤓
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If you could be any book character, who would you be?
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Have you ever been to the Redwood Forest? It’s on my bucket list!
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How long have you lived in Florida?
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Okay, don’t get mad, but I’ve never seen Grey’s Anatomy.
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Whoa, you went skydiving? That takes courage.
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I see you went to Spain last summer. How was it?
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Let’s get serious—favorite Taylor Swift era.
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Your job sounds so fun! What do you like the most about it?
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You’re way too cute to be on Tinder.
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What’s the last song you listened to?
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So, what brings you to Tinder?
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Unpopular opinion: pineapple belongs on pizza.
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What’s your signature dance move?
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Complete the sentence: I can’t live without __.
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Let’s exchange embarrassing stories. I’ve got a good one.
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You’re so pretty I forgot my pickup line 😉
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Do you want to grab coffee? Because I like you a latte.
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Wanna skip the small talk and go straight to flirting?
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Just so you know, we should hang out this weekend.
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So, when are we going out?
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Let’s get right to it. Here’s my number.
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Do you have a name, or can I call you mine?
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I’m honored you swiped right on me 🥰
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I’d love to make you breakfast sometime. Waffles or pancakes?
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Quick question: What’s your go-to pizza order?
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Be honest. Do you sleep with your socks on or off?
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So, are you a beer or wine person?
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I suck at starting conversations.
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It’s my lucky day. I get to talk to a real-life angel.

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Make sure your Tinder profile features why you’re on the dating site. That way, you’ll Match with people who have the same intentions.

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Don’t be afraid to bounce from topic to topic while the conversation continues. Ask whatever questions feel right in the moment.

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Look at your Match’s profile again before sending your first message. Notice anything you have in common you can comment on or think of questions you can ask based on their pictures.

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