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When you’re in a relationship with someone who has ADHD, it can feel like your arguments blow up in a matter of seconds. Understanding how your partner thinks and what their emotional reactions mean will help you defuse tough situations and have calm, reasonable discussions together. For our expert tips on fighting fair, how to avoid unnecessary arguments, and insight into an ADHD person’s mind, keep reading.
This article is based on an interview with our marriage and family therapist, Moshe Ratson, MFT, PCC. Check out the full interview here.
Things You Should Know
- When you’re arguing with someone who has ADHD, restate their words and take notes about important info so you can both look back at them later on.
- Take a 5- to 10-minute break to cool off if things start getting heated so you and your partner can gather your thoughts. Resume the conversation when you're both calm.
- Pick your battles, and let little things go in order to avoid arguments that escalate.
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Expert Q&A
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References
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- ↑ https://psychcentral.com/adhd/adhd-and-disrespectful-behavior
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