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If you’ve recently made a new friend, you might be considering asking them to hang out one on one. While it can feel like a big step to take, it doesn’t have to be super nerve-wracking! Read through these tips to learn how you can ask someone to hang out with you in a cool, casual way.
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QuestionHow do you ask to hang out without seeming desperate?Ebony Eubanks, MSW, ACSW, CAMS-IIEbony Eubanks is a Therapist, and Founder and CEO of Peaceful Living Counseling and Professional Services of Philadelphia, PA and in Hockessin, DE. With over a decade of experience providing counseling and coaching to individuals, couples, and groups, she specializes in depression, anxiety, couples work, life guidance coaching, and anger management. Ebony holds a Master’s in Social Work from Temple University and is a member of the Academy of Certified Social Workers. She is a Certified Anger Management Specialist-II, Level II trained Gottman Couples Therapist. and Certified Gestalt Therapist. Ebony also holds additional certifications in Advanced Clinician Training.
TherapistFocus on reconnecting with them. You might say something like: "Hey Billy, I was just thinking about you! I hope you're well—we haven't connected in a while, and I really miss talking to you. I wanted to know if you'd like to hang out at this date, or what your availability was." -
Questionive just started secondary school and am having trouble asking anyone to hang out. I'm a month in and have started to be friends with someone, but it's a bit awkward to ask them to hang out.Miles AndersonCommunity Answerfocus on finding friends in the classes that you have for the full year. You’ll get to know these people better, and an opening might come up to invite people to hang out. Also, ask your friend where they are going for their free period. You can ask them if you can come. If they say yes, you have an opportunity to ask them to hang or at least get to know them better.
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If you feel nervous about asking a friend to hang out, try texting them or asking them in private.Thanks
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- ↑ https://www.scienceofpeople.com/how-to-ask-someone-out/
- ↑ https://www.helpguide.org/articles/relationships-communication/dealing-with-loneliness-and-shyness.htm
- ↑ https://www.helpguide.org/articles/relationships-communication/making-good-friends.htm
- ↑ https://psychcentral.com/relationships/finding-new-friends-after-40
- ↑ https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3508761/
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/lifetime-connections/201503/the-13-essential-traits-good-friends
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/romantically-attached/202109/55-reasons-why-people-end-friendships
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/romantically-attached/202109/55-reasons-why-people-end-friendships