11 Tips For Attracting an Aries Man As a Virgo Woman

Get and keep an Aries man’s attention with this flirty guide

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Last Updated: November 7, 2024 Fact Checked

Fiery Aries and calm Virgo have great relationship potential. After all, an energetic Aries guy can help you relax and enjoy the fun side of life while you keep him grounded with your practical personality. If you show him the slightest bit of interest, he'll be ready to pursue you—after all, an Aries man loves to chase!

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Flirt with him boldly, but play hard to get. Touch his shoulder, lean in close when you talk, and challenge him to get to know you—he’ll go wild!
Compliment him whenever you see him. Tell him about the qualities you love and how he’s important to you.
Show an Aries man that you like excitement and can give up your perfectionist ways every once in a while. Say yes to his adventures and enjoy the wild ride.

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Be daring and fun when you flirt.

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An Aries guy loves it when you tease and play a little hard to get. He's probably got a really great sense of humor and he'll love showing off his wit. Since you tend to be more reserved, you've got a few options—be a little more forceful than usual when you flirt, so he sees there's more to you than meets the eye, or keep quiet and reserved. He'll see you as a challenge!^{[1]
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- To be daring, you could say, "My last boyfriend never knew what I needed from him. I bet you know what a woman needs...."
- To really signal your interest, touch his shoulder, lean close, and suggest that you two go somewhere fun. He won't be able to resist his curiosity.
- It's completely fine if you'd rather be more reserved. After all, Aries can be strongly attracted to a more conservative woman because he loves the challenge of catching someone who seems emotionally unavailable.

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Wear something red and feminine.

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Catch his eye by wearing red—the passionate color associated with Aries. Red is a bold, energetic color that symbolizes courage and sensuality. To hold his gaze, wear a gorgeous red dress or skirt with a flattering top. You're probably more comfortable wearing earth tones, but he won't be able to take his eyes off of you in red.
- If red's not really your color, don't worry. You can wear red jewelry, shoes, or accessories to add a splash of his favorite color.
- Since you prefer earth tones, reach for a red that's warm with brown undertones. This can make you come across as friendly or inviting.

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Give him lots of compliments.

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Aries can be a pretty self-centered sign, so let him know he's great. To hook your Aries man, he's got to feel like you really see him and his great qualities. Show him that he is important to you.^{[2]
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Expert Interview. 12 November 2019.} It might be hard for you as a Virgo to flatter someone, but genuine admiration will really charm him.
- For instance, say something like, "I love how passionate and driven you are about learning new things," or, "You are one of the most ambitious people I know."
- Be genuine and detailed if you're thanking him for something. You might say, "Thanks for fixing my flat tire. You're a really handy guy to have around."
- Point out something you like about him. For example, tell him, "You always know what to say in a social situation. You're so good with people."

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Go with the flow.

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Let your Aries man see that you’re not fussy since he prefers someone who's laid back. Unfortunately, Virgos are sometimes seen as being picky or too detail-oriented. Show your man that you have no problem relaxing and enjoying life. This might mean that you don’t stress about making plans or insisting that things are perfect.^{[3]
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- For example, if you’re going to meet up with him, agree on a meeting time and place. Then, see where the date takes you! You don’t have to organize the whole evening.
- Aries is a cardinal sign which means he's great at taking charge and coming up with ideas. As a mutable sign, you're more flexible, so you shouldn't have trouble going along with his plans.
- You could show him your flexible side by saying, "I don't know where we should go tonight. Why don't you surprise me?"
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What do Aries men like the most?

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Jessica Lanyadoo is an astrologer with over 20 years of consulting experience. She is the author of Astrology for Real Relationships: Understanding You, Me, and How We All Get Along and is the host of the popular astrology and advice show, Ghost of a Podcast. Lanyadoo co-hosted TLC’s digital astrology show Stargazing and writes weekly and monthly horoscopes that help you heal.

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Aries like to be the boss. They are happy if you follow their lead. Aries people want you to show them that they have importance in your life.

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Say yes to his adventures.

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Your Aries guy is looking for someone who's enthusiastic and exciting. As a Virgo, you're probably perfectly happy spending the night in and binging the latest show, but he'll want to explore and have adventures together. Say yes to his suggestions to let him see that you're a willing partner.
- If you find that it's hard to go along with his plans, don't give yourself time to overthink or worry—just go for them!
- You might find something new that you love to do. For instance, maybe you wouldn't choose to go rock climbing, but you have a fantastic time doing it with him.
- Reveal things that you've always wanted to do. Maybe he'd like to support you when you learn a new skill.
- Reader Poll: We asked 338 wikiHow readers, and only 8% of them agreed that the outdoor adventure that sounds the most fun for a date is going boating or fishing. [Take Poll] Instead, opt for a hike or even a camping trip.

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Show off your intellect.

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Your Aries man is attracted to smart conversation and clever dialogue. In fact, your intelligence is probably one of the first things about you that caught his attention. Pique his interest by having deep conversations with him instead of the usual small talk. He'll be surprised and impressed that you want to have thoughtful conversations.
- Bonus points if you can debate with him on a tough topic. You might ask him about philosophy, his religious upbringing, or his family's politics. No subject is off-limits!
- Although Aries can seem brash and superficial at times, your guy can be compassionate, too. You two actually have more in common when it comes to caring about others, so talk about humanitarian issues that are important to you.
- If you're not sure where to start, say something like, "I wonder what you think about....." or, "Have you been following along with....."

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Let him see your caring side.

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Aries is seen as one of the most masculine signs of the zodiac. To balance this out, he's looking for someone who can nurture him and soften his rough edges. As a Virgo, you're known for your empathy and reliability. Show him that you're considerate and thoughtful, as well as in touch with your emotions. You might check in on him when he's had a rough day or just call to say he's on your mind.
- At first glance, your signs seem incompatible with emotional connection, but if you talk openly with each other, you can balance each other.
- For instance, tell him how you're feeling or ask how he's doing. You might say, "You've been unusually quiet today. Is there anything on your mind?" He'll appreciate that he can confide in you.
- You can also show him that you care. Bring him his favorite meal or get tickets for a game he's looking forward to.

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Focus on your personal interests.

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An Aries man likes to see that you're passionate about something. Aries is ruled by Mars which is known for being bold and impulsive. Because of this, your guy is usually off trying new things or searching for unique experiences. He'll be drawn to you if you're also pursuing your interests, especially if you tell him all about them.^{[4]
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- Maybe you're taking classes, learning a language, or you have a personal goal you're trying to reach. Keep working toward these, so he finds you interesting and unique.
- Being busy also means that you might not always be available to hang out—this is a good thing! He'll feel like he needs to chase you in order to spend time with you.
- Find a balance between personal time and time spent with him. You don't want him to feel like you're always putting him off. Since he is a bit more self-centered, he'll assume that you don't want to spend time with him.

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Show him your practical, stable side.

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An Aries man can be volatile, but he's looking for someone who's grounded. You may have noticed that your guy can be in a fantastic mood one day and an emotional wreck the next. Fire signs like Aries are driven by big emotions. As an earth sign, you can help ground him. Ask if you can help him with something that's stressing him out. He'll quickly realize that your analytical nature helps keep you level-headed, so he can rely on you.^{[5]
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- An Aries guy appreciates that you aren't overly dramatic. Instead, you're thoughtful and considerate, so you don't usually overreact or jump to conclusions.
- Sometimes, he'll want you to be a great listener, so he can get his anxieties or problems off his chest.
- It might help if you can point out suggestions or options if he's struggling to make choices or deal with problems in his life. You're naturally analytical, so you may have an easier time with this than him.

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Let him see that you're confident.

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Virgos have a lot of strengths, so let him see you're a prize worth catching. Instead of downplaying what you're good at, like organizing things, accomplishing detailed projects, etc, be proud of your qualities. Hold your head high and don't be afraid to talk about your accomplishments. He wants to be with someone who values herself.
- He'll probably be drawn to your powers of observation, so be specific if you give him compliments or recall past conversations with him. He'll be super impressed.
- Once you feel comfortable around him, don't be afraid to show him your passionate side. Remember, Aries is an intense, emotional sign, so he'll love seeing you connect with him in that way.
- For instance, surprise him with a romantic night in. Let down your hair and tell yourself not to worry about anything. Just be open to a fun and intimate night with your Aries man.

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Accept your guy for who he is.

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Your Aries doesn’t like feeling criticized, so appreciate his strengths. Aries like to be the boss.^{[6]
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Expert Interview. 12 November 2019.} At times, you might be irritated by his brash or super energetic attitude. Instead of pointing out how he can do things differently or plan a bit more, let him be. He’ll appreciate that you like him just the way he is!
- For instance, instead of being annoyed that he's starting a new project without really thinking it through, join in his enthusiasm and be supportive. Follow his lead.^{[7]
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- Make a point of asking for his help when you know he'd really excel. For instance, if you're hosting an event, ask him to come along and chat with people since he's got great social skills.

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What type of a sign is Aries?

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Aries is a cardinal fire sign. Its ruler is Mars, the planet of aggression and assertion.

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