How to Attract an Aries Man Sexually

Co-authored by Jessica Lanyadoo and Caroline Heiderscheit

Last Updated: April 15, 2024 Fact Checked

Fiery, sensual, adventurous Aries men are hard to resist, drawing others in with their energy and smoldering looks. If one of these guys has caught your eye, it makes sense that you'd be looking for ways to be just as attractive to him as he is to you. Luckily, an Aries' sexual desires are pretty straightforward. Mainly, he'll just want you to be your fabulous, confident, and fun self. We'll walk you through all the best strategies for how to make him completely obsessed with you; read on to learn how you can attract an Aries man sexually.

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Be confident.

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Aries men can’t resist a bold, self-assured personality. When these guys make the rounds at a party, they won’t notice those chatting quietly on the sidelines or playing it safe in small circles. They love excitement and energy in all things, so when they’re looking for their next sexual experience, it’ll be the loud, striking people that catch their eyes. Don’t go for subtlety when you’re after an Aries man; show him confidence, and he’ll be hooked.^{[1]
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- At a party, find a way to liven up the room. Drag a friend onto the dancefloor, get a group game going, or tell a great story to a crowd.
- Let him know you’re interested. If you feel comfortable, walk right up and let him know you think he looks great. He'll love how daring you are.

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Go for an air of mystery.

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An Aries man won’t want things to come too easily. Men of this sign love the drama and excitement of a back and forth with their crush. You should lead with confidence, but once you’ve got his interest, reel it back a bit. Find ways to make him wonder what you’re thinking, while still hinting at your interest in him.^{[2]
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- After flirting with an Aries, leave him hanging for a bit. Do your own thing and chat up another guy, hang with your friends, or hit the dance floor.
- When things start to get heavy with your Aries crush, keep a few cards close to your chest.
- If he asks you to go home with him, drive him crazy with an elusive response: “Circle back in ten minutes. I haven’t made up my mind about you yet…”

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Let him chase you.

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To an Aries, getting to play the game is half of the fun. To really turn him on, hint at your interest, reel your attention back, and then wait for him to chase you. To men of this sign, there’s nothing more exciting than getting to pursue a crush and “win the game.” Even though he already knows you’re interested too, getting to go after you will be like the best possible foreplay for him.^{[3]
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- Create a challenge when you can. “I’d love to see you. But first, I need to know if you can cook. Impress me with dinner and then we’ll see about a date…”
- Let your Aries crush sweat a bit while waiting for your text. Instead of following up right away, leave him on the line for an hour or two before you respond.
- After you've shown your interest, try turning down a couple of his invitations to hang out.

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Buy some lingerie.

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Aries is a singularly focused sign, and during sex, his focus is you. Anything you can do to play up your looks and allure will go over big with him. Lingerie can make things even more exciting between you two. Buy something that makes you feel ultra-sexy, because your confidence will definitely shine through while you two are getting intimate.^{[4]
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- Aries men are attracted to reds and oranges, so incorporate these colors in your look for extra points.
- Add a light perfume to your neck as a final touch. Aries is represented by the ram, and because of this, he pays special attention to the face and neck.

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Expect things to get aggressive.

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Men of this sign will be looking for active, energetic, and passionate sex. These guys are electric in the bedroom, offering a super generous and dynamic experience for their partners to enjoy.^{[5]
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Expert Interview. 12 November 2019.} However, this sign is definitely on the passionate side, and that should probably be considered before you get between the sheets with an Aries. Of course, sex should be about what both of you want—and even though it can be empowering to know what he likes, your comfort should come before his preferences.^{[6]
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- Bondage may be of interest to him.
- Play fighting could be a fun form of foreplay.
- Discuss your intentions, choose a safe word if applicable, and ensure mutual consent is given every step of the way.
- If things become too much, employ your safe word or feel totally empowered to ask for a break. A mutual feeling of safety should always come first.
- Reader Poll: We asked 594 wikiHow readers and 59% agreed that making sure both partners are comfortable is the most important part of role-play and other fantasies. [Take Poll]

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Consider incorporating power play.

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Aries men are known for enjoying a more dominant role during sex. This can definitely mean different things for different guys, but on the whole, they may lean more towards setting the pace, taking the lead, and calling the shots.^{[7]
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Expert Interview. 12 November 2019.} This means that he might appreciate a more submissive persona from his partners in bed. Of course, it goes without saying that you should get to go into every sexual encounter acting how you feel most comfortable, not how you think he wants you to act.^{[8]
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- If you're interested, have a conversation about trying out power play the next time you hook up.
- BDSM toys can be a great way to dip your toes in.
- If you’re interested, have a conversation about trying power play the next time you hook up.

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Focus on having fun instead of getting emotional.

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To most Aries men, sex isn’t about connecting, it’s about enjoying. By letting loose a bit and really savoring the experience, you’ll have your Aries crush completely obsessed. Instead of going for tons of eye contact (unless that turns you on!), tender caresses, and sweet nothings, simply focus on mutual pleasure.^{[9]
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- An Aries guy will definitely appreciate this approach. He’ll find your carefree, fun-loving attitude super hot.
- Making sure you actually are having fun will be a super important part of this process.
- It’s great that you’re looking to please your Aries crush. Make sure you prioritize what you need, too–because he’ll find your pleasure attractive.

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Please him like he pleases you.

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Aries men are generous lovers, and they'll love if you return the favor. You can probably expect that your Aries crush will be happy to please you in bed, spending as much time as necessary to focus on your pleasure. If you follow the lead and do the same for him, you’ll have him totally hooked.^{[10]
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Expert Interview. 12 November 2019.} The perfect lover for an Aries man would be just as energetic, passionate, and giving as he is–so show him that’s you.^{[11]
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- The best way to pleasure someone else is by asking what they want.
- Luckily, Aries men are likely to be upfront about their desires. He'll appreciate that you asked!

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Be spontaneous.

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For an Aries, the less planning, the better the sex. This is a sign that loves the unexpected, so if you pull him into an empty bedroom at a party, he'll be completely obsessed with you. Any time you can take your Aries crush by surprise when attempting to initiate sex, it’ll probably be a dream come true for him.^{[12]
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- Call him at work and offer to meet him for a lunch rendezvous.
- With his permission, join him in the shower.

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Throw in a quickie.

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These guys are all about instant gratification, and if you offer immediate, speedy sexual fulfillment, he’ll love you for it. If the two of you have a little extra time in the morning or before a dinner reservation, ask him if he’d be interested in a quick meetup in the bedroom.^{[13]
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Keep getting creative between the sheets.

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Aries men get bored easily, even in the bedroom. The two of you will probably want to get inventive, keep different activities on rotation, and try out new things constantly to keep excitement levels up. As always, you should still stay communicative about what the two of you are looking for. Everyone is different, and the best sex happens when everyone is on the same page.^{[14]
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- Ask him if he’s interested in role-playing or acting out fantasies during sex.
- Invite him to join you on a trip to a sex shop to pick out some new toys.
- If he’s into it, you could build tension by sexting before you see each other.

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What are the distinctive qualities of Aries?

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Aries is a fire sign and a cardinal sign. Mars, a planet of aggression and assertion, is its ruler. Aries people like to be the boss.

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How can you please Aries?

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Jessica Lanyadoo is an astrologer with over 20 years of consulting experience. She is the author of Astrology for Real Relationships: Understanding You, Me, and How We All Get Along and is the host of the popular astrology and advice show, Ghost of a Podcast. Lanyadoo co-hosted TLC’s digital astrology show Stargazing and writes weekly and monthly horoscopes that help you heal.

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You can please Aries by making him feel he is significant to you. Try to follow their lead.

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