This article was co-authored by Cameron Gibson, R.C.C. and by wikiHow staff writer, Megaera Lorenz, PhD. Cameron Gibson is a Registered Clinical Counsellor in Vancouver, British Columbia. Cameron specializes in working with men to support their struggles with anxiety, depression, trauma, OCD, and developmental disabilities. He holds a BA in Psychology from Carleton University and an MA in Counseling Psychology from the City University of Seattle. Cameron is also the Program Director for Manifest Wellness, a men's mental health clinic, where he works to destigmatize mental health support for men and increase access to counseling.
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Having an enemy can be infuriating. When there’s a not-so-special someone in your life who knows exactly how to push all your hot buttons, you might be tempted look for ways to fight back or get revenge. But the best way to defeat them is to be the bigger person—and not give them the satisfaction of getting to you. In this article, we’ll talk you through a few of the best ways to deal with your enemy without stooping to their level.
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QuestionWhy do people bully?Cameron Gibson, R.C.C.Cameron Gibson is a Registered Clinical Counsellor in Vancouver, British Columbia. Cameron specializes in working with men to support their struggles with anxiety, depression, trauma, OCD, and developmental disabilities. He holds a BA in Psychology from Carleton University and an MA in Counseling Psychology from the City University of Seattle. Cameron is also the Program Director for Manifest Wellness, a men's mental health clinic, where he works to destigmatize mental health support for men and increase access to counseling.
Registered Clinical Counsellor & Program DirectorBullying is all about power dynamics and is typically based on insecurity. Bullies try to destabilize others because they feel uncomfortable in their own skin, and they want to make other people feel uncomfortable, too. -
QuestionWhy do people bully fat people?N VCommunity AnswerThat's because bullies are dumb and lack self-awareness. They forget that their words are a reflection of their insecurities and how they see themselves.
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Sun Tzu said that “He who is well prepared and lies in wait for an enemy who is not well prepared will be victorious.”[18] Don’t start arguments or pick fights with your enemy. If you prepare to defend yourself and wait for them to make the first move, then you’ll be in a much stronger position!Thanks
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- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-couch/201702/6-smarter-ways-deal-bully
- ↑ Cameron Gibson, R.C.C.. Registered Clinical Counsellor & Program Director. Expert Interview. 10 February 2021.
- ↑ Cameron Gibson, R.C.C.. Registered Clinical Counsellor & Program Director. Expert Interview. 10 February 2021.
- ↑ https://www.apa.org/topics/bullying/prevent
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-couch/201702/6-smarter-ways-deal-bully
- ↑ https://ccnmtl.columbia.edu/services/dropoff/china_civ_temp/week05/pdfs/artofwar.pdf
- ↑ https://kidshealth.org/en/teens/bullies.html
- ↑ https://www.helpguide.org/family/parenting/bullying
- ↑ https://hbr.org/2022/04/how-to-confront-a-bully-at-work
- ↑ Cameron Gibson, R.C.C.. Registered Clinical Counsellor & Program Director. Expert Interview. 10 February 2021.
- ↑ https://www.stompoutbullying.org/how-to-deal-with-bullies
- ↑ https://www.unicef.org/parenting/child-care/bullying
- ↑ Cameron Gibson, R.C.C.. Registered Clinical Counsellor & Program Director. Expert Interview. 10 February 2021.
- ↑ https://jedfoundation.org/resource/how-to-cope-with-bullying/
- ↑ https://positivepsychology.com/self-worth/
- ↑ https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/types-of-mental-health-problems/self-esteem/tips-to-improve-your-self-esteem/
- ↑ https://www.apa.org/topics/bullying
- ↑ https://www.stompoutbullying.org/how-to-deal-with-bullies
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