Drinking for the First Time at a Party: 11 Ways to Have Fun and Stay Safe

Co-authored by Bryan Sullivan

Last Updated: September 26, 2024 References

Ah, alcohol. Plenty of people attend parties without drinking, but sometimes a little alcohol can help you relax and enjoy socializing even more! On the flip side, alcohol can be stronger, more unpleasant, or even more dangerous than you might expect. Don't worry though—just be careful to follow these smart drinking practices, and you'll be all set to have a safe and fun time when you attend your next party.

1

Eat before and during the party.

Download Article

High-protein food is a great choice before a night of drinking. Alcohol can hit you much faster on an empty stomach. If you eat a full meal beforehand, you'll have a better time and be able to control how drunk you get. High-protein foods like meat, tofu, cheese, or nuts are best for this. Keep snacking while you're at the party too.^{[1]
X
Research source}
- If you're short on time, pack a couple of protein bars to eat on the way to the party.
- Salty snacks can make you thirsty. That's fine as long as you respond by drinking water, not booze.

2

Drink slowly, especially with cocktails and sweet drinks.

Download Article

Sip your drink slowly even if you can't taste the alcohol. Beer or wine can taste kind of nasty your first time, so you'll probably enjoy a cocktail more. (That's juice or soda mixed with a hard liquor like rum.) But don't get carried away—even if it's delicious, it can still have a lot of alcohol in it. It's totally fine to take an hour to sip your way through a drink. That's about as fast as your body can process it.^{[2]
X
Research source}
- Don't feel pressured to keep up with other drinkers. One or two drinks is plenty to have fun. It's also good to think of "one drink" as roughly a can of beer—a cocktail or a large glass of beer can easily have as much booze as two or three drinks, so take those slow.^{[3]
  X
  Research source}
- Sweet bottled drinks like alcopops and wine coolers are usually weaker than cocktails (about 5% alcohol, like beer), but can also be easy to drink too quickly because of their flavor.
- For your first time drinking, you definitely want to avoid drinking hard liquor alone as "shots." These get you drunk very quickly, and can be strong and unpleasant if you're not used to them.

3

Track how you feel as you drink.

Download Article

Alcohol makes you relaxed, excited, and confused. Even before you finish one drink, you can reach the "tipsy" stage, when most people feel a bit more relaxed, confident, and happy. If you keep drinking, this can turn into excitement, mood swings, and confusion. Once you're past the tipsy stage, you'll notice stronger physical effects as well—talking, hearing, seeing, and moving all get more difficult the drunker you are.^{[4]
X
Research source}
- Drinking slowly and waiting between drinks helps you stay in the earlier stages. Most people process about 1 drink per hour, so if you wait 1 hour after each drink, you're less likely to get too intoxicated.^{[5]
  X
  Research source}
- If your face and neck start to turn warm and red right after you drink, you might have alcohol intolerance. This is fairly common, especially among people with East Asian genes. It's best to stop drinking right away and see how you respond, as even a little alcohol can cause unpleasant side effects like nausea or a fast heart rate.^{[6]
  X
  Trustworthy Source
  
  Cleveland Clinic
  Educational website from one of the world's leading hospitals
  
  Go to source}

4

Switch between alcoholic and non-alcoholic drinks.

Download Article

Drink a glass of water, juice, or soda after each glass of booze. Every time you finish a drink, pour yourself a tall glass of something non-alcoholic. This gives your body time to process the alcohol you just drank, so you can see how you feel before you decide to drink more. It also keeps you hydrated, so you don't end up reaching for another beer just because you're thirsty.^{[7]
X
Research source}
- Reader Poll: We asked 169 wikiHow readers how they prefer to pace themselves while drinking, and 54% of them said drinking water in between alcoholic drinks. [Take Poll]

5

Avoid drinks if you didn't see what went into them.

Download Article

Punch bowls and mysterious drinks can have way too much alcohol or worse. That mixed drink that tastes like pineapple and energy drink? You have no idea what's in it, but at most parties you can bet it's strong. Your first time drinking should be a fun but careful experience, and that means knowing what you're drinking, not throwing up because you drank expired orange juice mixed with bathtub moonshine.^{[8]
X
Research source}
- Unfortunately, people also slip drugs into unattended drinks too often to not treat it as a real possibility. Only accept drinks that are mixed or opened right in front of you.^{[9]
  X
  Research source}

6

Teach yourself to mix a weak drink.

Download Article

Use spoons or plastic cup lines to guide your cocktail making. Another partygoer might make you a drink much stronger than you'll enjoy. Instead, mix yourself a slightly weak drink that you'll enjoy more. This is easy if you're using an American plastic party cup—just pour the liquor (vodka, for instance) up to the lowest line on the cup, then add juice or soda to fill at least half the cup. If you don't have those cups around, see if you can find an ordinary kitchen spoon—one or two of those is enough for a weak mixed drink.^{[10]
X
Research source}
- If there are no spoons, you can eyeball it with the bottlecap instead. There's no standard size for bottlecaps, but 2 bottlecaps full (or a little less) is usually about right.

7

Learn how to say no to extra drinks.

Download Article

If politely refusing doesn't work, go get something non-alcoholic. Dealing with peer pressure is an important part of staying safe at parties. You always have the right to say "no thank you" to a drink offer, and should never accept just to be polite. If someone keeps pressuring you, make a vague excuse ("I have too much to do tomorrow"), or say "I'll go get myself something" and pour yourself a glass of juice or water.^{[11]
X
Research source}
- This also goes for offers to "top up" your drink before you've finished, which make it hard to keep track of your drinking.^{[12]
  X
  Research source}
- If someone is drinking a lot and trying to get everyone else to join them, they're probably just focused on getting drunk, not on you. Say something noncommittal like "sure, maybe a bit later" and they'll usually move on.
- If someone is focused on you directly and won't accept "no" as an answer, don't let them bully you. Ask a friend to stick with you and help change the topic, ignore the other person, or call the person out directly.^{[13]
  X
  Research source}

8

Stay away from caffeine, tobacco, and other drugs.

Download Article

Mixing alcohol with other substances is too risky for your first time. Alcohol already makes it harder to make good decisions and keep track of how you're doing. Weed or other mind-affecting drugs make that problem even worse, and can add dangerous side effects.^{[14]
X
Research source} Even drinking caffeine and alcohol in the same night can be risky, since feeling energetic and excited can lead to over drinking.^{[15]
X
Trustworthy Source

Centers for Disease Control and Prevention
Main public health institute for the US, run by the Dept. of Health and Human Services

Go to source}
- Nicotine can work a little like caffeine, canceling out the sleepiness alcohol causes. If you're a smoker, try to go easy on the tobacco, and don't drink more than you planned just because you don't feel too drunk.^{[16]
  X
  Research source}
- If you do decide to take other drugs anyway, make sure a friend (ideally a sober one) knows exactly what you took. That makes it easier to take care of you if an emergency happens.

9

Be careful with drinking games.

Download Article

If you really want to play, use a non-alchoholic drink. Beer pong, king's cup, and all the other drinking games have one main goal: getting you drunk! When a table of friends are chanting at you to chug your drink, it's hard to say no—so it's no surprise that drinking games are linked to a lot of "accidental" binge drinking. If you really want to join that corner of the party, be smart about it:^{[17]
X
Research source}
- Play with soda or water, or at least with something weak like light beer.
- When the game rules tell you to take a drink, just take a small sip, not a big swallow.
- Ask a friend with more drinking experience to be on a team with you, so you can split the drinks between you.
- Keep track of how much you're drinking and how you're feeling. Leave the game if things are going overboard.

10

Arrange a safe trip home in advance.

Download Article

Don't start drinking until you know you can get home safely. Drinking and driving is incredibly dangerous. Before you even go to the party, make sure you can get home by walking, using public transportation, a rideshare, a taxi, or getting a ride with a sober friend.^{[18]
X
Research source}
- Whether or not you think you'll get drunk, it's safest to plan for the worst. Don't drive, and ask a friend for company even if you're walking home. Alcohol can be dangerous even for pedestrians.^{[19]
  X
  Research source}
- If you're at university, see if your school has a transport service for students.

11

Protect yourself from risky sex.

Download Article

Sex can be a lot riskier with booze involved. Drunk people take bigger risks than sober ones, and that includes unsafe sex. Alcohol can make you (or your partner) too drunk to consent, with some pretty serious consequences the next morning. Your first time drinking is definitely not the time to get through this minefield.^{[20]
X
Research source}
- Rape can happen even within a long-time sexual relationship. Your partner shouldn't have sex with you if you are too drunk to make clear decisions.

Expert Q&A

Search

Add New Question

Question

Can you enjoy a party without alcohol?

Tracy Carver, PhD
Licensed Psychologist
Dr. Tracy Carver is an award-winning Licensed Psychologist based in Austin, Texas. Dr. Carver specializes in counseling for issues related to self-esteem, anxiety, depression, and psychedelic integration. She holds a BS in Psychology from Virginia Commonwealth University, an MA in Educational Psychology, and a Ph.D. in Counseling Psychology from The University of Texas at Austin. Dr. Carver also completed an internship in Clinical Psychology through Harvard University Medical School. She was voted one of the Best Mental Health Professionals in Austin for four years in a row by Austin Fit Magazine. Dr. Carver has been featured in Austin Monthly, Austin Woman Magazine, Life in Travis Heights, and KVUE (the Austin affiliate for ABC News).

Tracy Carver, PhD

Licensed Psychologist

Expert Answer

Definitely—just focus on what you can do, rather than what you can't. If you don't want to drink at a party, put your energy toward making connections with other people and checking out the non-alcoholic drinks available.

Thanks! We're glad this was helpful.
Thank you for your feedback.
If wikiHow has helped you, please consider a small contribution to support us in helping more readers like you. We’re committed to providing the world with free how-to resources, and even $1 helps us in our mission. Support wikiHow
Yes No

Not Helpful 5 Helpful 10

Ask a Question

200 characters left

Include your email address to get a message when this question is answered.

Submit

Tips

Alcohol affects some people much more than others. Pay attention to how you feel and stop drinking if you feel strange or drunker than you expect. In general, alcohol affects you more the less you weigh, the higher percentage of body fat you have, and the more female hormones you have. Your mood, energy levels, and hormone cycles also affect this, so you might get drunk faster one night than another.^{[21]
X
Research source}

Thanks
Helpful 0 Not Helpful 0

Submit a Tip

All tip submissions are carefully reviewed before being published

Name

Please provide your name and last initial

Submit

Thanks for submitting a tip for review!

Warnings

Alcohol can make many medications less effective or interact with them to cause health problems. If you are taking a prescription drug or used an over-the-counter drug today, look them up online to check for alcohol interactions. Antibiotics, antidepressants, allergy or cold medications, and pain meds (even things like Tylenol) are just a few examples of drugs that can interact badly with alcohol.^{[22]
X
Research source}

Thanks
Helpful 1 Not Helpful 0
If you are caught drinking underage or even drinking near underage people, you could be fined or lose your driving rights. Be careful and know the law in your state or country.^{[23]
X
Research source}

Thanks
Helpful 0 Not Helpful 0