How to Get a Gemini Man to Chase You

Co-authored by Tara Divina and Amy Bobinger, BA

Last Updated: September 9, 2024 Fact Checked

So a captivating Gemini guy has caught your attention and you want to know how to make him equally as obsessed with you. It's no wonder you have a crush—Geminis are smart, spontaneous, upbeat, and endlessly interesting to talk to. Geminis have a reputation for being fickle, but it's really just because both sides of their dual nature need to be entertained, so they get bored easily. Luckily, we have all the tips you need to keep your Gemini guy excited about the chase!

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Tell him you like him.

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Geminis are known for being direct. They say exactly what's on their mind, and they want the same from you. If you're crushing on him, let him know! Ask him for his number, tell him he's cute, point out the things you like about him—it's all part of the give-and-take that will keep him thinking about you.^{[1]
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- Gemini is an air sign, and air signs are all about talking. That's why you'll make the biggest impact if you tell him you're into him, rather than just trying to show him through wordless flirting.
- Try saying something like, "You're funny, I like you. We should hang out some time."
- Or, you might say, "You've got a great vibe—I think we'd get along with each other."

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Be a little hard to reach sometimes.

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Back away after you let him know you're interested. If you want your Gemini man to chase you, give him some room to run! Every once in a while, wait a bit before you respond to his text, or let the call go to voicemail. Not only will it show him you're out enjoying your life, but it will give him a chance to miss you!^{[2]
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- Don't give him every detail about what you're doing when he's not around. Give him a chance to be intrigued.
- Be careful not to go too far with being aloof. Geminis are pretty direct about their feelings, and they don't really like vague emotional games.

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Make him think you're mysterious.

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Keep some details to yourself to make him curious. Geminis are naturally really inquisitive, so be strategic in what you share with your crush. If you leave out a few key pieces of information, he's naturally going to try to fill in the blanks. Eventually, he's going to wonder why he can't stop thinking about you!
- If you're telling him about the new restaurant you tried, don't mention who you went with, for instance.
- Another way to seem mysterious is to let him do most of the talking. With a Gemini guy, that should be no problem!

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Try new things with him.

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Geminis crave entertainment. They're quickly bored with the same old routine, so don't be afraid to change things up! That might mean having dinner at a new restaurant, taking a trip somewhere he's never been, or taking up a new hobby together. Anything that sparks his sense of adventure is sure to be a hit!
- Got a fearless Gemini who doesn't mind heights? Invite him skydiving or bungee jumping!
- If your Gemini guy has a case of wanderlust, plan a weekend road trip complete with snacks and cool sunglasses.
- Push him out of his comfort zone by inviting him to take a dance or cooking class with you.

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Surprise him to appeal to his spontaneous side.

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Give him a gift or do something unexpected. If you can find a way to catch him off guard with a sweet surprise, you'll be sure to get his attention. The experience of being surprised matters more than the item itself, so don't worry about picking anything expensive. Just try to make it thoughtful so your Gemini cutie will know you're paying attention to him.^{[3]
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- Send over his favorite take-out dish if you know he's working late.
- Make a Spotify playlist full of your favorite songs. When he hears any of those tracks, he'll think of you!

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Make him laugh.

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Playful Gemini is ruled by the trickster Mercury. Geminis are smart and quick, and they want you to be able to keep up. If you're naturally funny, you have an automatic in. But don't give up if humor isn't necessarily your strong point—just follow his lead when it comes to teasing banter and playful jokes.^{[4]
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- Puns, dad jokes, silly stories—if something is funny to you, throw it out there! Geminis love to laugh, so chances are, he'll be receptive.
- Don't be afraid to use a little wry humor to lighten the mood if you're having a serious conversation.

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Ask him interesting questions.

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Geminis love to chat but they get bored with routine small-talk. If you know you're going to be seeing your Gemini guy, try coming up with a couple of thought-provoking questions to chat about. Once he realizes that he never gets bored talking to you, he's sure to be hooked. Ask questions like:
- "Would you rather be a cat or a dog?" (This-or-that questions will appeal to his dual nature.)
- "Did you know snails can sleep for up to 3 years at a time?"
- "What's your favorite memory from high school?" (He definitely won't mind talking about himself.)

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Be flexible if he changes things around on you.

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Geminis are known for being fickle. Your guy may cancel plans at the last minute or invite you out at a moment's notice. He might even seem really into you one day and a little bored the next. Chances are, he's not playing games—that's his dual-sided Gemini nature rearing its indecisive head. Not many people can keep up with that, so if you can roll with the changes, he's going to be seriously impressed.
- If he calls to cancel a dinner date, for instance, you might say, "Cool, my friend Krista wanted me to go to a comedy club tonight. I'll just do that instead."
- If he seems a little distant, just give him some space. When he sees you're not chasing him, he'll probably be that much more interested in reaching back out to you.

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Keep an upbeat attitude when he's around.

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Make sure he feels good when he's with you. The two faces of a Gemini mean your guy might seem a little moody sometimes. Don't let that ruffle you, though. Try to stay pleasant with a quick smile, and avoid lingering too long on serious or heavy topics. If you can be a consistently positive presence in his life, he's definitely going to crave time around you.
- For instance, if he's surly about a bad day at work, you might bring up a funny story to take his mind off of it.
- It's okay to open up to him sometimes about tough things, like sharing if you had a bad day at work. Just try to balance that by changing the subject to something positive afterward.

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Respect his independence.

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Geminis hate to feel restricted. A Gemini guy wants to feel like he's able to do his own thing, when and where he wants, and come back to you when he's ready. If you can give him the space to do this (within reason), he'll be impressed by your self-confidence, and he'll feel like he can be himself when he's with you. That kind of security is sure to keep a Gemini man coming back for more.
- If he's planning a night out with his buddies, don't act jealous or try to make him stay home. Instead, smile and encourage him to have a great time.
- Make your own plans when you know he's going to be busy. That way, the two of you will have plenty to talk about when you meet back up—and you know Geminis love to talk!

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Live your own best life.

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Let your Gemini guy see how independent and fun you are. If you're out there pursuing your favorite hobbies, taking cool trips, and living it up with your besties, any guy would be lucky to spend time with you. For a Gemini who craves excitement, adventure, and independence, it might just make you seem irresistible.
- Don't just sit by the phone waiting for your Gemini crush to call. Make plans doing your own thing!

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Check your zodiac compatibility.

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Figure out how you can use your sign to attract him. Geminis are highly compatible with signs like Aries, Aquarius, Leo, Libra, and other Geminis. If you're one of those signs, you might not have to do much to catch his attention—just be you. Other signs might need a little work to make a love match. If your sign is:^{[5]
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- Taurus: Balance your need for stability with Gemini's love of independence.
- Cancer: Gemini may not nurture you the way you normally prefer, so be direct if you need reassurance.
- Virgo: Let go of the details and enjoy going with the Gemini's flow.
- Scorpio: Embrace Gemini's free spirit, even though it's very different from your more steady disposition.
- Sagittarius: Your pairing works well together if you can accept that Gemini might not take things quite as seriously as you do.
- Capricorn: Planning and structure can be a challenge to the whimsical Gemini, but try to enjoy being pulled out of your comfort zone.
- Pisces: Don't get in your head too much—Gemini doesn't really play games, so just relax and have fun.

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