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Analyzing the mind of a Gemini in pain (with examples)
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A Gemini man is complex with his witty, impulsive, and dual-minded personality. One minute he's making you cry with laughter, and the next, he's giving you the cold shoulder. With the Gemini symbol being the twins, his sign is infamously known for being two-faced—so how can you really know when he's upset with you? Keep reading to learn how a Gemini man will act if he's hurt and what to do to help him feel loved and supported.

Gemini Man’s Traits when Hurt

Gemini men tend to be adaptable, outgoing, and adventurous, so if they’re hurt they tend to shut down so that they can handle the way they’re feeling on their own. If he’s mad, he may ignore you or pretend like nothing happened at all.

1

He goes quiet.

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  1. His talkative and lively personality can suddenly dim after an argument or disagreement. This is how he copes, bottling up his feelings until he can't close the lid anymore.[1] With Mercury ruling his nature, a Gemini man prefers to be unemotional and avoid confronting his difficult feelings—but he'll talk when he's ready!
    • Try not to egg him on if he's uncharacteristically quiet after an argument.
    • Instead, let him have his space but talk to him periodically. This will give him time to think through his emotions "and" provide many opportunities to talk when he's ready.
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He asks to be left alone.

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  1. Asking for time alone and removing himself from the situation might be his way of sorting through what's happened. Whether it was an argument or he just received bad news, sometimes he wants to think things through before sharing how he feels.
    • Remember, he's an air sign ruled by Mercury and the 3rd House, which means he's extremely intelligent and thinks practically before thinking emotionally.
    • Try not to bring up what's hurt him until he comes to you. This will show him that you respect his boundaries and are someone he can rely on.
3

He ignores you.

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  1. Although the messenger planet Mercury governs his world, he can have a hard time expressing difficult emotions. Because of this, he may give you the cold shoulder if he's hurt. Give him space to think and work things out, and, in time, he'll come to you.
    • Communicate with him to appease the Mercury in him. Even if he's not reciprocating your affections right now, he eventually will.
    • Geminis need a smart and surprising partner, so send him a short text to remind him how much you care.
    • Try something like, "Saw some apples at the store and thought of you ❤️" or, "Good morning! I hope today's a better day. I'm here when you need me 😊❤️"
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He pretends like nothing happened.

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  1. The last thing he wants is confrontation, and if that means going the extra mile and pretending like nothing ever happened, he'll do it. He might also do this if he's keeping what's hurting him a secret to avoid hurting you. Either way, he'll go with his mutable modality and adjust his life around his pain.[2]
    • This behavior is normal for a Gemini man, so be patient. He'll reveal the cause of his stress with time.
    • Offer support emotionally and physically. That could be an extra hug before he heads off to work or school or letting him complain about an upcoming assignment.
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He blurts out what's on his mind.

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  1. More often than not, he'll speak before he thinks if he's hurt. Sometimes the emotions can be too much for a Gemini to bear. As an air sign, his mood changes as often as the breeze, so give him a chance to cool down and think rationally again.[3]
    • A Gemini's dual nature is symbolized by twins and represents the exchange of thoughts and ideas.
    • He has two personalities, and when he's hurt or overwhelmed, one can overpower the other.
    • Try to remain calm and level-headed if he bursts. Having patience will go a long way in keeping the relationship alive.
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He doesn't say why he's hurt.

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8

He becomes cold and distant.

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  1. Suppose you've recently gotten into an argument or disagreement with your Gemini man. In that case, he may start acting cold or distant around you. Trusting someone emotionally can be difficult for an analytical, Mercury-ruled man, so he'll hide his true emotions behind a frosty exterior to avoid being vulnerable.
    • Sorting through these problems as a couple is especially important.
    • Be patient with him and spark a conversation by asking him how he feels.
    • If he doesn't open up right away, that's okay. You can also give him a gentle nudge by expressing your own needs and feelings.
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He keeps changing the topic.

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  1. The last thing he wants to do is talk about his feelings. He may be adaptable and expressive, but he can shut down the second he's hurt. To hide this pain, he'll change the topic if you bring it up, pretending like everything's okay even though you both know it's not. This is his Gemini way of coping.
    • Instead of asking, "What's wrong?" or, "Why are you acting this way?" toss a favorite game, food, or hobby his way.
    • Who knows? He may even start opening up the minute he stops focusing on deflecting the conversation.
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He falls into a depression.

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He disappears without warning.

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