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So, you went out with a guy, had a great time, and you want to see him again. Hopefully, he feels the same way—but how can you know for sure? Have no fear! You can absolutely figure out whether or not a guy wants to see you again. To help you out, we’ve put together a list of clues and signs you can use to find out if he’s interested.

This article is based on an interview with our professional dating coach, John Keegan, founder of The Awakened Lifestyle. Check out the full interview here.

1

He texts or calls soon after your date.

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  1. If you went out together and there wasn’t a connection, or he isn’t interested in seeing you again, you likely won’t hear from him. If there was some chemistry and he wants to spend more time with you, he’ll contact you sometime within 1-2 days after your date to start talking to you.[1]
    • Even if it wasn’t technically a date (i.e. a party, a chance meeting at a bar, a work event, etc.), if a guy wants to see you again, he’ll get in touch with you soon afterward.
    • Make sure he has your contact info so he can get in touch!
    • Reader Poll: We asked 636 wikiHow readers, and 52% of them agreed that they decide how long to wait between the first and second dates based on the level of connection and chemistry they feel on the first date. [Take Poll]
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He brings up something funny that happened.

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  1. If something really funny or memorable happened on your date, he may bring it up afterward as a way to break the ice or talk about how much fun you two had together. If he enjoyed being with you once, he likely wants to see you again.[3]
    • He could just as easily not bring up something that happened on your date.
    • He could say, “Remember when you tried to order gabagool like you were in The Sopranos? That was absolutely hilarious!”
    • He might also say, “I’ll never forget spilling the popcorn all over myself. It was my crowning moment.”
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You call and text each other back and forth.

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  1. It’s one thing to send a few messages here and there after you go out with a guy, but if he keeps the conversation going, then he’s really enjoying talking to you. It probably won’t be long before he brings up getting together again.[5]
    • If he’s asking you a bunch of questions about your life, then he’s trying to get to know you better. He may really like you.
    • Even if you’re just sending funny memes to each other, the point is you’re still talking even after your date!
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He’s enthusiastic when he texts you.

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  1. Most guys will politely respond to you, even if they aren’t interested in seeing you again. But if he’s responding quickly and consistently, using exclamation points, and adding heart or smiley face emojis, then he’s really enjoying talking to you and probably wants to spend more time with you in the near future.[6]
    • For instance, if you say, “I had a lot of fun the other night” and he texts back, “Me too! That was such a great movie!!” and adds a few emojis, then he really means it.
    • Dry, single-word responses are a sign that he’s being nice but really isn’t feeling it. You may want to back off a bit.
8

He talks about his schedule.

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  1. If you’re texting or chatting and he starts talking about weekend plans or what he’s got going on Friday night, it’s a good sign that he wants to see you. He may follow up by asking about your plans and then by seeing if you want to get together.[8]
    • He might say, “Lucky me, I’ve got Saturday night and Sunday afternoon off. First time in a while!”
    • If he’s super busy, he may tell you something like, “I’ve got this crazy assignment that’s got me working every day this weekend” he might follow up with, “Maybe when I have a day off we can get together?”
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He mentions a second date.

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  1. If he’s already planning a second date, then he obviously wants to see you again! If you’re interested, just hop in on the date planning and have some fun.[9]
    • For example, if you’re at dinner, the date is going really well, and he says, “If you like burgers, we should go to the new spot across town for our next date” then all you need to do is say yes if you want!
    • He may follow up after your first date and say, “Do you have any ideas for a second date?” then have some fun picking out your next date spot if you’re interested in seeing him again.
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He tells you he wants to hang out again.

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    John Keegan is a Dating Coach and motivational speaker based in New York City. With over 10 years of professional experience, he runs The Awakened Lifestyle, where he uses his expertise in dating, attraction, and social dynamics to help people find love. He teaches and holds dating workshops internationally, from Los Angeles to London and from Rio de Janeiro to Prague. His work has been featured in the New York Times, Humans of New York, and Men's Health.
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    Check your phone! He'll probably send you a friendly text and share that he had a great time. He might even check out your social media and like a few posts.
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    How do you know if he will ask you out again?
    John Keegan
    John Keegan
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    John Keegan is a Dating Coach and motivational speaker based in New York City. With over 10 years of professional experience, he runs The Awakened Lifestyle, where he uses his expertise in dating, attraction, and social dynamics to help people find love. He teaches and holds dating workshops internationally, from Los Angeles to London and from Rio de Janeiro to Prague. His work has been featured in the New York Times, Humans of New York, and Men's Health.
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    He might make a suggestive comment like "We should do this again sometime."
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References

  1. John Keegan. Dating Coach. Expert Interview. 29 June 2021.
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  3. John Keegan. Dating Coach. Expert Interview. 29 June 2021.
  4. John Keegan. Dating Coach. Expert Interview. 29 June 2021.
  5. John Keegan. Dating Coach. Expert Interview. 29 June 2021.
  6. https://www.insider.com/signs-they-dont-want-second-date-2019-6
  7. https://www.glamour.com/story/is-he-really-interested-into-you
  8. https://www.marieclaire.com/sex-love/a4954/good-signs-of-second-date/
  9. https://www.insider.com/signs-they-dont-want-second-date-2019-6

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