How to Know if a Guy Secretly Wants You Back After a Fight

Co-authored by John Keegan

Last Updated: May 28, 2023 Fact Checked

If you have had a fight either with your boyfriend, best guy friend, or just a regular guy friend, these are the steps you need to take in order to know if he still wants to continue your relationship.

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If he does, this simply means he doesn't know what to say to you because he doesn't want you to know that HE wants YOU BACK. He just wants you to hang on to him.
If he does, then he digs you and is hiding his feelings. UNLESS you have either texted him to much or (if you were in person) you could have been calling his name too much and he got annoyed with it. In that case you should just leave him alone if he has already gotten fed up with you. Let him cool down and he'll want you back again and feel guilty/sorry for being mean to you, trust me on this one! Please!

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If he sees you with other boys, does he seem jealous or he doesn't care? Does he do something to try to get your attention? Or he ignores it? Just do not exaggerate trying to make him jealous or you will risk pushing him away.
Is it: Shock :O, Anger <:|,or is it Guilt because he loves you and wants you back? See his reaction to it.
If so, he may not be in the mood for talking,or is thinking of a way to "secretly" get you back without knowing and avoiding could be one of the ways he is doing it to get you going and obsessed with him.
If so,he may be jealous of the people that your giving attention to and is saying bad things/facts about you to turn them off and so they won't even want to hang out with you anymore.^{[1]
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This is the most important step you need to follow. This is the most important thing you need to check out. How is he when you don't pay attention to him at all? Even if it's for just one day or a few days maybe even weeks or months, see how he is with you.^{[2]
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"In the end, the truth ALWAYS comes out no matter what happens".
"The More You Hate Someone, The More You love Someone. . ." True Fact. The saying goes on and on and on. . .
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If he doesn't want you in his life then he is clearly completely oblivious to how amazing you are! Chin up.

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If he's mean and says stupid things don't take it to heart he's probably insecure or nervous to show his true feelings!

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Stay happy and positive and no matter what, don't let this guy bring you down!

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If he wants you back, he will be relieved when you text or call him and jump at another chance. If he ignores you, doesn’t text you, won’t talk to you, it may mean that he’s hurting, but it could also mean that he doesn’t want you back.
A relationship-worthy guy shouldn't make you guess. Let his actions be your guide; he's either in or out.

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If someone asks you for another chance, it may not always be because they love you. Be careful because it could mean that they are not done hurting you yet.^{[3]
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