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This article was co-authored by Eddy Baller. Eddy Baller is a Dating Coach and the Owner of a dating consulting and coaching service, Conquer and Win, based in Vancouver, Canada. Coaching since 2011, Eddy specializes in confidence building, advanced social skills, and relationships. Conquer and Win helps men worldwide have the love lives they deserve. His work has been featured in The Art of Manliness, LifeHack, and POF among others.
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Ah, the kiss. Even bad ones are good. The mysteries of a great kiss are the most wonderful kinds of mysteries. Being a top-level kiss master? It'll take some practice. Fortunately, it's fun practice.
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![Step 1 Make sure your...]()
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![Step 2 Let your partner take the lead sometimes and get used to his or her style.]()
Let your partner take the lead sometimes and get used to his or her style. Give each other chances to lead and you may find a different way you like to kiss.Advertisement -
![Step 3 Close your eyes just before your lips touch.]()
Close your eyes just before your lips touch. Some people enjoy looking into their partner's eyes when kissing, but for most, it's a huge creepy turn off. Keep them closed and you will enjoy it more. Think about how blind people sense so much more than sighted people, the same principle applies. You will get a more rushing sensation from the touch and feel of a kiss if your eyes are relaxed and closed. -
![Step 4 Use your hands!]()
Use your hands! Don't let your arms awkwardly hang there. Guys, your hands should be around her back, waist, or on the sides of her face. Girls, your hands can be in a NUMBER of places, including: around his neck, on the sides of HIS face, on his stomach, on his hips, or a guy's favorite, on his biceps. Also don't be afraid to run your fingers through your partner's hair, just make sure your hair is clean just in case it happens to YOU! -
![Step 5 Let them know what they are doing is good.]()
Let them know what they are doing is good. Softly moan, sigh, or kiss back harder if what they are doing is pleasurable. Girls, if you are holding their arms/biceps, give a little squeeze plus a moan to drive them nuts. -
![Step 6 If you're smaller...]()
If you're smaller than the partner you're going to kiss, then hold your head a little back and stand on your tiptoes if comfortable. If you are a girl and you are shorter, as it is in most cases, wrap your arms around his neck and he will naturally wrap his around your waist and lift you up. -
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If you're taller than the partner you're going to kiss, bend your head a little down and keep your legs a little wide apart for the other person to stand. -
![Step 8 French Kiss.]()
French Kiss. Remember: Don't dive straight for the tonsils. Play with their tongue - caress, fondle, wrestle with it.[2] Think of it as trying to massage the other's tongue. NEVER bite; you could easily hurt the other person.- If you're a bit intimidated by French Kissing, don't be! It sounds scary only because it is not as easy as a regular kiss, but just do it in small steps. First, start kissing like a normal kiss, then slowly open your mouth and touch your partner's tongue softly with yours. They will get the hint and go from there!
- Use your tongue in the way you want your partner to use his/hers - both of you will naturally do the same.
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![Step 9 Relax!]()
Relax! As long as you're both comfortable and at ease, the kiss will be pleasurable for you two. Just empty your mind of everything except the moment at hand and you will master the art of kissing.
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Be gentle.Thanks
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Breathe through your nose! Nothing ruins a kiss more than you passing out! Breath silently through your nose or, as long as you don't breath in puffs, breath slowly into the kiss. This will create a dramatic and irresistible sensation.Thanks
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Change speed and pressure to add a mix and emotion. More pressure is more passionate. Less pressure is more intimate. More speed gives a sense of urgency, like you two have been waiting your entire life for this. And a slower speed shows intimacy, like you're letting the moments last as long as you can.Thanks
Tips from our Readers 
- Don't hold your breath while you're kissing. It's actually surprisingly easy to accidentally get light headed by forgetting to breathe when you're making out with someone. Try to take small, quiet breaths in between bigger kissing sessions.
- Make sure that the other person is comfortable with being kissed! If you aren't sure you have consent, ask for it.
- If you need to take a "breather," slowly pull your mouth away and put your forehead against theirs.
Warnings
- Make sure your mouth is clean and fresh.Thanks
- Don't forget to breathe!Thanks
- Don't open your mouth too wide, nobody likes someone trying to eat their face. Practice width by relaxing your lips together with your teeth together, then part your lips with your teeth still together. This is the perfect width.Thanks
- Don't be robotic! Relax your body and your lips will naturally do the same. Most of the muscles in your face are in your lips so keep those relaxed.Thanks
- Keep your eyes closed.Thanks
- When using your hands, keep them at appropriate places or your partner will get the wrong idea about you. If they seem uncomfortable at any moment, stop.Thanks
References
- ↑ https://www.glamour.com/story/7-signs-youre-a-good-kisser
- ↑ https://www.teenvogue.com/story/how-to-french-kiss
- Original Source of this article: How to Kiss Girl.
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Are you unsure about what to do with your tongue while kissing? Here are some advanced techniques for what to do with your tongue when you and your partner want to take your kiss to the next level. If your partner is giving you a green light that they are ready to make your kiss more intimate, begin by running your tongue along their lower lip. If they seem into it, gently put just the tip of your tongue into their mouth. You can run your tongue along the inside of their teeth. Don’t overdo it, your tongue is a strong muscle, so remember to go slowly and not put too much of your tongue into their mouth at once. Suck lightly on your partner’s tongue, then slide the tip of your tongue along theirs gently before pulling back. This gives you a break and helps you keep your breathing even. To deepen the kiss even further, take your tongue and swirl it around theirs in a circular motion until you find a rhythm that works for you. As the kiss goes on, alternate between sliding your tongue along theirs and moving it in circles, switching up the pace of your movements as you go. You can pull back your tongue periodically to tease your partner while allowing you to have control of the kiss. Be sure to switch up your kissing techniques and include some non-tongue kissing to keep your make-out session exciting.
