What Kind of Reality Check Do I Need Quiz
Coming soon
Search
-
QuestionHow do you deal with a horrible person?
Nicolette Tura, MANicolette Tura is an Empowerment Coach based in the San Francisco Bay Area. Through her work, Nicolette helps high achievers discover their true potential and grow personally. She recently founded the non-profit Celestial Wellness Network and started a musical project, The Feather and Stone. With over ten years of experience in nonprofit leadership and running her own wellness business, Nicolette combines her background in psychology, mindfulness, and psychophysiology to create profound change. Nicolette has hands-on experience as a Therapy Associate, and has worked with patients recovering from neurological disorders. She offers one-on-one coaching tailored to each client's needs, with options for short-term, transformative engagements. Her personalized coaching sessions help individuals break free from self-limiting beliefs and achieve their goals. She completed a 500-hour Registered Yoga Teacher certification and is a NASM Certified Corrective Exercise Specialist. She holds a BA in Sociology from the University of California, Berkeley, and a Master’s degree is Sociology from San Jose State University.
Empowerment CoachTry to have compassion. Usually, negative people are having a really tough time.You are not responsible for their behavior, but it's worth it to wish peace for that person. Think about how you can better the situation without sacrificing your integrity. -
QuestionHow do you respond when someone hurts you?Nicolette Tura, MANicolette Tura is an Empowerment Coach based in the San Francisco Bay Area. Through her work, Nicolette helps high achievers discover their true potential and grow personally. She recently founded the non-profit Celestial Wellness Network and started a musical project, The Feather and Stone. With over ten years of experience in nonprofit leadership and running her own wellness business, Nicolette combines her background in psychology, mindfulness, and psychophysiology to create profound change. Nicolette has hands-on experience as a Therapy Associate, and has worked with patients recovering from neurological disorders. She offers one-on-one coaching tailored to each client's needs, with options for short-term, transformative engagements. Her personalized coaching sessions help individuals break free from self-limiting beliefs and achieve their goals. She completed a 500-hour Registered Yoga Teacher certification and is a NASM Certified Corrective Exercise Specialist. She holds a BA in Sociology from the University of California, Berkeley, and a Master’s degree is Sociology from San Jose State University.
Empowerment CoachAllow yourself to have your initial reaction. It's important to acknowledge the hurt this person may have caused you. Then, ask yourself what you learned from the situation and how much it is costing you to hold onto your feelings. You don't have to forgive them, but try to think about how you can be made better from the experience moving forward. -
QuestionHow do you respond to a rude work email?
William Gardner, PsyDWilliam Gardner, Psy.D. is a Clinical Psychologist in private practice located in San Francisco, CA’s financial district. With over 10 years of clinical experience, Dr. Gardner provides individually tailored psychotherapy for adults using cognitive behavioral techniques, to reduce symptoms and improve overall functioning. Dr. Gardner earned his PsyD from Stanford University in 2009, specializing in evidence-based practices. He then completed a post-doc fellowship at Kaiser Permanente.
Clinical PsychologistTry to speak with the person first. If that doesn't work, ask your manager for help. If the situation still isn't resolved, take your concerns to HR, instead. -
QuestionHow do I deal with a rude friend who has no manners and does not listen to me when I try to fix the situation?
Community AnswerYou don't deserve to be treated that way. Tell that person you won't put up with their rude behavior, and if they don't make any effort to change, find new friends. -
QuestionWhat can I do if the rude person won't listen to me when I try to confront him?
Community AnswerIgnore him. You have done what you were supposed to do, and it's his choice to stay rude or to change. -
QuestionHow can I deal with people who mock my intelligence?
Community AnswerIgnore them, and be the alpha in this situation. Chances are they are discouraged and insecure themselves and want to feel above those they envy. -
QuestionHow can I avoid rude people in school?
Community AnswerDo not respond to the rude person. Only you can give a rude person power over you. If that doesn't help, talking to an authority figure explaining how the rude person is disrupting your schooling.
-
QuestionWhat should I do if someone started being rude out of nowhere and I tell my friends and they supported the other person even though they are in the wrong?
Community AnswerI'd suggest leaving yourself out of the situation. Politely explain to your friends why you feel the way you do and ask them to do the same. If need be, get some other friends and don't hang out with people that bring you down. Don't be afraid to get an authority involved, a teacher, counselor, management, etc.
-
QuestionWhat causes people to be rude?
Community AnswerA lot of rudeness stems from wanting to dismiss other people before other people dismiss the rude person. Such people can feel insecure, scared, irritable, incompetent or even lazy. Rudeness becomes a shield or a cover that protects them from having to deal with the situation in a more mature fashion or from having to be helpful when they'd rather just stay inside their own little shell. Sometimes rudeness stems from being frustrated at having to repeat what the person considers to be inane or common knowledge. Rudeness is most often a shortcut to cover up impatience.
-
QuestionHow do I speak back to rude people and not get owned?
Community AnswerBe polite but smart so that you limit yourself being owned. Rude people tend to sense your weaknesses and try and bring them out. Don't stoop to the rude person's level.
-
QuestionWhat if he is your close relative?
Community AnswerA rude family member isn't excused for being a family member -- rudeness is rudeness. The article will help you.
-
QuestionWhat if the person being rude is my best friend and I don't want to damage our relationship?
Community AnswerIf this is a new behavior in your friend, there might be something going on in their life that's bothering them, so try sitting down and talking with them about what's on their mind. If it's a consistent behavior, you should find a new best friend. Nobody should have to put up with someone treating them badly, even if that person is your best friend. There are a lot of people out there you could meet who will treat you with kindness and respect, so don't waste your time on someone who doesn't care for you.
-
QuestionWhat if my spouse of 8 years has begun physical abusing me?
Community AnswerIf you are being physically abused, get help from friends and family. If necessary, call police or a women's shelter. Be strong and get out. -
QuestionA stranger asked me what was wrong with my face. I was having an acne breakout. Was she being rude?
Community AnswerYes, she was being rude. Perhaps she had some sort of disorder and did not realize her question was inappropriate.
-
QuestionHow can I deal with a rude sibling?
Community AnswerIgnore your sibling if possible and talk to your parents about his or her behavior.
-
QuestionI went on a website and was reading the comments when some racist jerk said bad things about my religion, saying whoever follows it should commit suicide. What should I do to ignore it?
AbigailAbernathyTop AnswererRemember, people feel safer behind a screen and will say and do anything they want to, because they think that they are anonymous and nothing will come back to them. Just ignore them. They know nothing of your religion like you do and if that's their way of thinking, they are ignorant. Let them believe that ignorance is bliss. You know your religion, don't let some jerk on the internet sway you. -
QuestionIf a person's rudeness is habitual, how do I change it?
Community AnswerYou don't change it because unless a person wants to change, they won't. However, what you can do is to be a bit of broken record as to how you perceive the behavior and its effects on you, so that the person has an opportunity to learn how their behavior is impacting others. For example, you could say things like: "That's not a polite way to talk about other people. It would better to say..."; or, "Wow, that was not a nice way to cut in front of that person!"; or, "I know you're tense and frustrated right now, but you don't know what is going on in other people's lives." Gradually help the person to see how what they do has a negative effect on others. But remember, it's hard to break habits, so praise them every time they do get it right!
-
QuestionI told a colleague I manage to beat it after he shut the door on me for the fourth time. Can I be disciplined for this? I have been advised by another team leader that he has past history of being like this to people he's managed by.
Community AnswerWe can't advise what you can and can't be disciplined for, that's totally up to your workplace rules. The fact that the person has a prior history suggests he is very good at wriggling out of being pulled up on things, so be careful there. The heart of this though is your management skills -- when you are alert to the fact that someone is a loose cannon like this, you need to be in control of the situation. Telling your colleague to beat it shows that you're fed up, not in control. The best response in future would be to work out a strategy for dealing with this colleague's bad attitude, such as keeping a record of bad performance and attitude, then scheduling weekly chats to elicit any issues he has, at which time you can upbraid him for any poor behavior that has been documented and dated. With this sort of constant updating on the fact his bad behavior is being noticed, he'll soon put things in order or ship out. If you do get disciplined, have such a strategy ready to show them how you intend to better manage the situation in future.
-
QuestionWhat if someone is trying to hit me?
Moonmodule1998Top AnswererThat's more than just being rude. See How to Deal With a Violent Person, or if the person is someone close to you, like a friend, family member, partner, boss, etc., see one of wikiHow's many articles on . The best thing to do, in general, is try to limit your contact with the person as much as possible and protect yourself if needed. -
QuestionAny advice for someone with BPD whom this article doesn't really help?
Community AnswerGet a friend or sibling to stick up for you or to say it for you. You could just walk away if it saves you from exploding at them.
-
QuestionSomeone made fun of me for being vegan, what can I do?
Community AnswerYou can inform them of your reasons for being vegan, and explain why it is appealing to you and why you believe it was a good idea. Or, you can calmly tell them something like, "I understand this is your opinion, but I have a different opinion. I respect yours, so please respect mine."
-
QuestionWhat should we do with a grandpa who refuses to dress up for his grandson's formal wedding? He will be in the photos and he just doesn't get it!
Community AnswerYou could give him the option to dress up and be in the official photos or dress down and be in no official photos. You could also tell him that he will be digitally removed or digitally dressed in a suit where this is thought more appropriate. Finally, impress on him the importance on being a good sport for his grandson's wedding. If he still disagrees, let it go. He can be the amusing factor of the wedding: "Oh that's just grandpa, stubborn as always" and be certain to take some official photos with him right at the edge, so you can snip him off (or digitally dress him) where needed.
-
QuestionI am feeling a bit left out because my two closest friends are too close to each other, and I feel that they are ignoring me. What can I do?
Moonmodule1998Top AnswererDiscuss how you're feeling with your friends. You can't force people to pay more attention to you, but you can at least lay your feelings on the table -- it's likely they don't even know you're feeling left out. You may also want to think through your own feelings, because based on your wording (how can two people be "too close" to one another?), it sounds like you might be jealous. If you are, that's something that your friends can't fix for you.
-
QuestionMy neighbor throws leaves in my yard, what should I do?
Community AnswerPut the leaves right back in their yard. Or, if you want to avoid confrontation, put it in their bin and pretend like you didn't do it.
-
QuestionA classmate makes fun of me for being vegetarian and caring about animals. What should I do if I can't make him stop, even after involving his mother?
Community AnswerHonestly, the best option is just to ignore him. If the harassment is severe, you can get school officials involved. They can make sure that he is punished appropriately for his behavior, but more importantly, they might be able to keep the two of you separated.
-
QuestionWhen I bump into the person, she complains and shoots me a glare that makes me feel bad. What should I do?
Community AnswerJust say you're sorry and move on.
-
QuestionSomebody punched my left eye and now I need glasses. They're still rude and haven't even apologized. How do I deal with her?
Community AnswerDon't deal with her. Ignore her. This sounds like someone you definitely don't need in your life, so just keep your distance.
-
QuestionHow do you deal with people constantly showing you pictures of their grandchildren?
NY BlossomTop AnswererTry not to get upset over it. They are probably just very happy to be a grandparent and want to share their joy with you. Try changing the subject after they show you their photos, so they will take the hint. -
QuestionWhat can I do if I'm afraid of speaking up to the rude person?
Community AnswerAnswering this is hard because you haven't provided any context about what the "rude person" said or did. Perhaps there is another way of responding, such as following up after with an email, tweet or Facebook post. Depending on what the person said/did, you could express your feelings, such as saying you feel upset at what you perceive as impoliteness and don't feel reassured that the matter is going to be resolved or feel it's now worse. But that would depend on what the rudeness was, such as a retailer refusing to help you. Sometimes you can solicit support from a bystander, asking them if they considered what was said to be rude too. But ultimately, protect yourself and if you cannot say anything much, at least stop anything bad from happening to you, such as "You CANNOT do that." or "Stop talking like that right now!" or "Hey, no way!", to get them to stop saying or doing anything harmful.
-
QuestionHow do I deal with someone who paid me a visit unannounced?
AbigailAbernathyTop AnswererTell them you do not appreciate being visited without warning and next time you will ask them to leave. Set a boundary that they have to tell you at least 1-2 days ahead of time of their arrival and if they don't, then they are not welcome.
Ask a Question
200 characters left
Include your email address to get a message when this question is answered.
Submit
