Q&A for How to Find Out if a Good Friend Is Crushing on You

See if they ask personal questions that show genuine interest. Some people will just robotically ask you personal questions and don't really care, while others will go really deep and ask personal questions that are meaningful, and this usually indicates a romantic interest.

That depends on how you feel about them. If you’re not interested in having a romantic relationship with them, gently let them know that you’re not ready to take that step with them. Say something like, “I’m flattered, and I really value our friendship, but I’m afraid I don’t have the same feelings about you.” If they keep pushing it and don’t respect your boundaries, you might need to stay away from them for a while or end the friendship. If you like them back, let them know! Accept if they ask you out on a date, or take the first move and ask them yourself.

All you can do is be honest with your friend about how you feel. It’s possible that they don’t even realize you have romantic feelings for them, and you’ll never know if they feel the same way unless one of you speaks up. If they’re not interested in a romantic relationship, respect their wishes and don’t try to push them into anything they don’t want—that’s not fair to either one of you!

She might look for excuses to get close to you or touch you, compliment you a lot, or tease you in a flirty, good-natured way. Check to see if she gives you a lot of lingering looks or seems to light up when she sees you. Even if you’re pretty sure she likes you, the best way to know for sure is to ask her!