Q&A for How to Kiss

The best way to get better is to practice! Kiss your partner as much as possible and try different techniques to get a sense of what you both like. Don’t be afraid to ask for feedback. Say something like, “Did you like that?” or “How do you want me to kiss you?”

If you want them to kiss you, just relax and go with the flow. Lean in or put a hand on their shoulder or face to let them know you want the kiss. You might also close your eyes so you feel the experience more deeply. If you want them to French kiss you, open your lips slightly. If you’re not ready to kiss, pull back gently and say something like, “I like you, but I’m not ready for that yet.”

There are a million different ways to kiss, so experiment around and use your imagination! For example, in addition to classic kisses on the mouth, you can also try kissing your partner’s cheeks, neck, forehead, or even eyelids. Experiment with making your kisses slow and gentle or more firm and aggressive (as long as your partner is into it). You can also try just grazing your partner’s lips with your own for a more teasing kiss.

It's very important to treat your girlfriend with respect and let her make up her own mind. Be patient and find other ways to be intimate, like hugging or cuddling.

Tell him you're not ready, and that it makes you uncomfortable when he tries to push you into it. Stay confident in your opinions and make decisions based on what you feel ready for.

If you're anxious because you haven't had a first kiss yet, don't worry. It gets easier as soon as your lips touch. If you have an extreme fear of kissing (due to a traumatic event, for instance), talk to a therapist about it.

There's no need to plan it out. You'll both be enjoying each other's presence, even if you're silent.