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Talking to your crush is the best way to get to know them better—and, hopefully, take your relationship to the next level. But sometimes, it can be hard to know what to say. To deepen your relationship, ask open-ended questions and talk about things you two have in common. Keep a few conversation starters in your back pocket, and don’t be afraid to discuss personal topics, like your goals, fears, or childhood. In this article, we’ll share a few tips and tricks for starting a meaningful conversation with that special person.
Tips to Initiate a Deep Conversation Over Text
- Ask your crush open-ended questions to get to know them better.
- Talk about things you have in common to deepen your connection.
- Don’t be afraid to be vulnerable and reveal something personal.
- Discuss your dreams, childhood memories, or accomplishments.
- Bring up your favorite books, music, or movies to lighten the mood.
- Actively listen to them and take your time to respond in a genuine way.
Steps
What Are Conversation Topics For Talking to Someone You’re Attracted to?
Common Questions: Tips to Initiate a Deep or Juicy Conversation
What are some deep conversation starters?
Ask the other person about their family, childhood, dreams, fears, or beliefs. You could ask questions like: What are you most grateful for? What’s your worst trait? Who’s your role model? Alternatively, introduce thought-provoking “would you rather” style questions, like “would you rather save 5 loved ones or 1,000 strangers?” or “would you rather have more time or money?”
How do you start a juicy conversation?
If you’ve known the other person for a while (or just want to put them in the hot seat), ask them questions about their love life or dating history. You could ask: What’s your biggest turn-on? What was your sexual awakening? Have you ever dreamed about me? What’s your idea of the perfect date? What are your green flags in a relationship?
How can you rizz someone up?
Confidence is key when it comes to flirting with someone, and if you don’t look comfortable delivering your line, it’ll show. Look at the other person and flash a smile or wink to put them at ease. If you’re trying to rizz someone up over text, incorporate details from the chat or their social media profile to show off your charm and sense of humor.
Tips
Deep Conversation Starters
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