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Do you find yourself sharing intimate details about your life with a total stranger? Or, maybe you look back on a conversation with a coworker and realize you were talking the entire time. Oversharing is easy to do, and it’s a problem that many of us deal with. Whether you overshare to fill awkward silences or just because you don’t know what else to talk about, we’ve got you covered: we’ve compiled the best conversation tips to avoid oversharing and learn more about who you’re talking to instead.
Things You Should Know
- Practice active listening skills and ask your conversation partner questions to learn more about them.
- Pause for 1 to 2 seconds to think about what you’re going to say to avoid accidentally oversharing.
- Change the subject to a more comfortable, neutral topic if you find yourself oversharing.
- Avoid posting on social media when you feel upset or overwhelmed.
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QuestionHow do you stop oversharing over text?Rachel ClissoldRachel Clissold is a Life Coach and Consultant in Sydney, Australia. With over six years of coaching experience and over 17 years of corporate training, Rachel specializes in helping business leaders move through internal roadblocks, gain more freedom and clarity, and optimize their company’s efficiency and productivity. Rachel uses a wide range of techniques including coaching, intuitive guidance, neuro-linguistic programming, and holistic biohacking to help clients overcome fear, break through limitations, and bring their epic visions to life. Rachel is an acclaimed Reiki Master Practitioner, Qualified practitioner in NLP, EFT, Hypnosis & Past Life Regression. She has created events with up to 500 people around Australia, United Kingdom, Bali, and Costa Rica.
Certified Life CoachKeep your text short, sweet, and simple. If you're writing anything over a paragraph, it's starting to move into the overshare category. Just focus on getting to the point and speaking from the heart!
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