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Every couple gets into arguments every now and then—it’s totally normal. But if you ever find yourself ruminating about something your husband said to you out of anger, you’re not alone. Or, maybe you're the one who's said some hurtful things to your partner. We're here to help you recognize what kind of comments to avoid and how to communicate respectfully, even when you're upset. In this article, we’ll cover the worst 17 things a husband could say to his wife, as well as ways to improve communication in your relationship.
Things You Should Know
- Your husband may belittle you with phrases like “You’re worthless,” or “I don’t need you.” He may try to gaslight you by saying, “You’re imagining things.”
- Or, he may try to shut down arguments by saying things like, “That’s the dumbest thing I’ve ever heard.”
- Assert your boundaries by saying, "That's rude and hurtful. Even when you're upset, you still need to respect me."
- Work together to improve your communication and treat each other with respect. Consider leaving if he doesn't make an effort to change and speak kindly to you.
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Expert Q&A
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QuestionHow can I be better at saying I love you?Moshe Ratson, MFT, PCCMoshe Ratson is the Executive Director of spiral2grow Marriage & Family Therapy, a coaching and therapy clinic in New York City. Moshe is an International Coach Federation accredited Professional Certified Coach (PCC). He received his MS in Marriage and Family Therapy from Iona College. Moshe is a clinical member of the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapy (AAMFT), and a member of the International Coach Federation (ICF).
Marriage & Family TherapistFake it until you make it—once you practice and cultivate the habit of saying I love you, it becomes second nature. Just like everything else, you need to push yourself and not listen unnecessarily to the emotion that comes along with being affectionate.
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