Missing Your Girlfriend? 12 Ways to Feel Better Instantly and Connect with Her

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Last Updated: October 18, 2024 References

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Do you miss your girlfriend so much that you can hardly think straight? Being apart is hard and we totally get that! Luckily, there are lots of things you can do to start feeling better now. In this article, we'll share a few sweet ideas that can help you feel closer to your girlfriend and talk about ways you can use healthy distractions to get your mind off things. If you're ready to start feeling better, read on!

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Send her a sweet “I miss you” text.

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Simply sharing how you feel can help you feel better. If you’re missing your girl and it’s really weighing on you, reach out and tell her! She’ll love getting a random text about how much you miss her; after all, she misses you, too!^{[1]
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Expert Interview. 3 March 2021.} You can comfort each other. Sometimes, that’s all you need to feel better.^{[2]
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- I can’t stop thinking about you! 💋 So excited to see you again.
- I wish you were here. I miss everything about you so much! 😘
- Nothing feels the same when you’re away ❤️
- I miss you like crazy! How do we fix that? 🤔
- Just heard our song 🎶💕 it made me think of you.
- I miss your beautiful face. 😍 When will I see you again?

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Text her a sweet (or sexy) selfie.

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She'll love getting a cute selfie from you out of the blue. Send her a picture of you smiling and add "I miss you" to the image before you send it to her. If you go the sexy route, don't text her when you know she's at work or school; you never know who might be standing close enough to see your pic!
- If you've never sent her a sexy selfie or nude before, it's a good idea to talk about it first and make sure she's cool with it.^{[3]
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Give her a call and talk about it.

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When you can hear her voice, she won’t seem so far away. At the end of the day, bottling up your emotions up isn't good for you. Chances are, your girlfriend misses you just as much as you miss her, so a quick call will probably boost her mood, too. It's normal to feel a little lonely without her, but making that connection reminds you that you aren’t truly alone.^{[4]
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Expert Interview. 3 March 2021.} You might say something like:
- ”Hey Jill! I know we usually chat on Tuesday nights, but I couldn’t wait. I really just needed to hear your voice. I miss you so much."
- ”Hey you! It’s a bit late for a phone call, I know, but I miss you so much.”
- ”I miss you, Becca! Like, on a “missing you” scale of 1 to 10, I’m registering a solid 234 tonight.”

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Write her a good old-fashioned letter.

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She'll be surprised and delighted by this romantic gesture. Think about everything you'd love to tell her right now. Putting all of your thoughts and feelings down on paper is very cathartic and your girlfriend will absolutely love getting something tangible from you. Whenever she's missing you, she can pull out your letter and read it.^{[5]
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- If you have a favorite cologne or perfume, spritz a little on the page before you mail it off. When she opens your letter, your signature scent will surround her as she reads your words.

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Set up a fun virtual date to reconnect.

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Just because she’s far away doesn’t mean you can’t hang out “together.” Even if you’re communicating regularly by phone and text, nothing beats seeing your girlfriend’s face on video. Spice things up by trying new date activities “together” like having lunch, cooking dinner, playing a game, or watching a movie. If you can’t be physically with your girl, this is the next best thing!^{[6]
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- If you’re both comfortable with it, try something fun and racy like playing strip poker.
- Reader Poll: We asked 309 wikiHow readers which texting game they’d most enjoy playing with their boyfriend, and 53% of them said 20 Questions. [Take Poll] You don't even have to set up a video call to have fun together!

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Throw yourself into your hobbies and interests.

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Healthy distractions are a great way to get your mind off things. Think about hobbies you truly enjoy but haven’t done in a while. For example, if you love playing guitar but haven’t picked up the instrument in years, why not get back into it? It will be fulfilling to reignite that passion and you’ll be able to share your experiences with your girlfriend (who knows, maybe you can even write her a special song!)^{[7]
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Expert Interview. 3 March 2021.} For example, you can try:
- Joining a local sports group or club
- Hiking or rock climbing
- Painting, drawing, or photography
- Starting a blog to review sci-fi films
- Interactive video games (Fortnite, Final Fantasy, etc.)

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Hang out with your friends and family.

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Even though you miss your girl, it’s important to have a little fun! Do you feel a slight twinge of guilt when you do something fun without your girlfriend? You shouldn’t! Your girlfriend wants you to be happy. Plus, having a good time with friends and family will boost your mood and get your mind off things for a bit.^{[8]
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Expert Interview. 3 March 2021.} Try things like:
- Enjoying a night out on the town with your best friends
- Taking a day trip to the beach or lake with family
- Exploring a nearby city and checking out the downtown scene

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Hit the gym for some exercise.

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Working up a sweat can boost your mood and energy. It’s easy to feel frustrated and sad when you miss your girlfriend. Holding on to negative feelings isn’t good for you, though! Channeling those feelings into something healthy, like physical activity, is a great way to process and get rid of them. Plus, your girlfriend will surely notice how hot you look the next time you see each other!^{[9]
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- Running, biking, or swimming
- CrossFit training or HIIT classes
- Lifting weights
- Running a local race or marathon

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Do something nice for yourself.

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Taking time for self-care makes you a happier, healthier partner. Try to eat a healthy diet and get enough sleep so you can face each day with a positive outlook. If you feel overwhelmed, go for a long walk or take a scenic bike ride until you feel grounded again. Treat yourself to something nice like a new pair of shoes, your favorite dessert, a new haircut, concert tickets—anything that'll boost your mood and make you feel good about yourself. You deserve it!
- Try to have compassion for yourself and remember: you and your girlfriend won’t always be apart! This is temporary.
- If you can, reframe your situation in a positive light and try to hold fast to that positivity.

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Start planning your next date or visit.

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Having something to look forward to can brighten your mood. Ask your girlfriend a few questions about things or activities she’s always wanted to try. Then, really throw yourself into planning a date around one of the activities or ideas she mentioned. The date can be a surprise or you can get her involved in the planning, too.
- Visits are important, but try to avoid thinking that your other activities (like video dates) are less important. Everything you do together is a bonding experience, whether you’re physically next to her or not.^{[10]
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Exchange a few physical belongings.

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Having tangible items to hold on to can be really soothing. You can swap any items that you'd like, but aim for a little variety: something sexy, something sentimental, something handwritten, etc. Here are a few ideas to get you started:^{[11]
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- Swap clothing (scarves, T-shirts, undies...it's up to you!)
- Send each other your signature scents and spray them on your pillows.
- Send each other sweet or sexy Polaroid selfies.
- Wear matching ugly Christmas sweaters if you can’t be together for the holiday.

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Find cool new ways to do things "together."

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You can cultivate feelings of togetherness even when you're apart. If you both like to read, read the same book and compare notes later on. If you’re music geeks, make a special playlist together and listen to it at the same time every day. You could also:^{[12]
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- Sign up for a virtual race or follow the same yoga or HIIT tutorial.
- Grow the same plants from seed and share photos of your progress.
- Take the same online course and do your homework together.
- Sign up for accounts on an online journal platform and take turns writing entries.

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Is it bad to miss your girlfriend?

Christina Jay, NLP
Dating & Relationship Coach
Christina Jay is a Matchmaker and Certified Life Coach based in Toronto, Ontario, Canada. Christina is the founder of Preferred Match (preferredmatch.ca), her matchmaking service that finds love for successful and elite individuals. She has over 10 years of coaching experience, earned her NLP (Neuro-linguistic Programming) certification through NLP Canada Training, and has a BA in Business Administration from Brock University.

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No, it's totally normal to miss someone when you're dating and they aren't around. Tell them how you feel! I'm sure she feels the same way.

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How can I stop missing her?

Christina Jay, NLP
Dating & Relationship Coach
Christina Jay is a Matchmaker and Certified Life Coach based in Toronto, Ontario, Canada. Christina is the founder of Preferred Match (preferredmatch.ca), her matchmaking service that finds love for successful and elite individuals. She has over 10 years of coaching experience, earned her NLP (Neuro-linguistic Programming) certification through NLP Canada Training, and has a BA in Business Administration from Brock University.

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You could work out, spend time with your friends and family, or cook a super fancy meal. You can also go on a little trip just to clear your head. Sometimes, a simple change of scenery can really be helpful.

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