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Text messages can be a great way to stay in touch with someone even if they live super far away from you. If you’ve got a good thing going with a girl and you’re messaging each other back and forth, why not give it a shot and ask her out? It may be easier than you realize! To help you do it, we’ve put together a handy list of tips and ideas about what you can say to increase your chances of getting her to say yes.

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Start with texts that will make her smile.

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  1. Send her something funny or sweet to get the conversation started. Start things off on the right foot by putting her in a good mood so she’ll be much more open to the idea of going out with you.[1]
    • You could try, “Hey there pretty lady. How’s your day been?” or “You’ve been on my mind all day so I figured I’d text you. How are you?”
    • You could also try sending her a funny meme and say, “I thought you might like this.”
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Try asking her for advice to get date ideas.

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  1. If you aren’t completely sure what she’s into or if you’re looking for date ideas, try asking her for help. Tell her you’re looking for something you think she might be interested in and if she has any suggestions.[2]
    • You could try, “I know you love sushi, it’s like all you talk about! Do you have a favorite restaurant in your city?”
    • Another option is something like, “Do you know any good wing spots around you? I know you like it spicy!”
    • It doesn’t have to be food-related, though. You could try, “I was thinking about going hiking when I come to town. You’re into the great outdoors, know any good places?”
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See if she’s down for a virtual dinner date.

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Suggest a coffee date to keep it casual.

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  1. Who doesn’t like coffee? Plus, if you’ve only been texting her, it could be a great opportunity to meet face to face without the high stakes of a formal date. Try asking her if she can meet you for coffee when you’re in town.
    • You could try, “Hey! I’ll be visiting my cousin in a few weeks. You wanna grab some coffee?”
    • If she happens to be visiting your area, you could try, “Awesome! Let’s get together and grab a coffee.”
    • Reader Poll: We asked 1984 wikiHow readers about which first date they’d like to go on the most, and only 8% said going rock climbing. [Take Poll] So, suggesting a more casual activity, like grabbing coffee, might be more fun for her.
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Plan an in-person dinner date if you can.

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  1. If you plan to be in her area, or if she’s visiting near where you live, try asking if she’d like to grab dinner with you. Pick out a fun dinner spot with food that you’ll both enjoy and set a date and time to meet up. If she’s into it, she’ll say yes![5]
    • You could try, “So, there are some really great Mexican restaurants around here. Would you want to come check one out with me when you get to town?”
    • You could also try, “I used to love going to this burger joint when I was a kid. I haven’t been there in ages. Would you want to come with me when I come to visit?”
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Visit a museum or an art gallery.

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  1. If she’s a fan of art, paintings, or history, a museum is a great choice. Look for some in her area if you’re visiting near her, or pick out some cool ones around you if she’s coming to your area. Ask her if she’d like to check it out with you.
    • Try, “I know you’re into cocktails, and there’s this really cool museum all about their history if you want to come check it out with me.”
    • You could also try, “There’s a great Alexander McQueen exhibit going on at the museum in town. You wanna go with me?”
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Verify her info if you’ve never met her before.

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  1. “Catfishing” is when someone pretends to be someone they’re not in order to get closer to someone. If she has a social media or dating profile, run her profile picture through a reverse image search on Google to make sure it’s legit. Take a look through their social media to see if it’s real and doesn’t look fishy or like a bot account.[9]
    • Don’t give someone your bank account or financial information if you don’t really know them.
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