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If you want to make things official with your favorite girl, asking her to be your girlfriend in a letter is a really sweet idea. If you aren't sure how to get started, or if you want some ideas for how to phrase certain things, we're here to help you out! We'll start with specifics like what to say and how to say it so your intentions are clear, then we'll touch on a few ways to make your letter as special as possible.

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Aim for a natural tone but don’t be too casual.

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  1. Asking someone to be your girlfriend is a big deal! Aim for a polished vibe that reflects that. You don't need to be perfect, but remind yourself as you're writing that this is an important moment.[2]
    • Try to avoid slang, abbreviations, and jargon for the most part. Also, make sure your grammar, spelling, and punctuation are on point!
    • For example, instead of, "Hey bae what up?! I'm out here chillin," try, "I hope you're having a lovely day today. I'm doing well but I miss you so much."
    • Instead of "Boo! omg str8 missin' U round the clock. tbh it's kinda breakin me," try, "I hope you're well! I miss you so much and I can't stop thinking about you."
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Tell her that you have something special to say.

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Explain your feelings for her in detail.

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  1. Explain in your own words how amazing she is and what she means to you. What do you love about her personality? Is there a special memory that you can talk about? Don’t worry about saying everything perfectly; write from your heart.[4]
    • If you need help focusing, make a list first. That way, you can glance back at it while you’re writing and you won’t leave anything out.
    • You might say, “I think you're the most beautiful girl in the world” or “I love your sense of humor. You make me smile every single day.”
    • Do you two have a special song? You can quote a poem or lyrics if you’re struggling for words.
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Ask her to be your girlfriend in a clear, direct way.

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  1. Transition to this part of the letter by saying something like, “These are just a few of the reasons why you're so special to me. If you feel the same way, will you be my girlfriend?” Make sure the question is really clear so there’s no confusion.[5] Here are a few more options:
    • "You're the only girl I want. Will you please be my girlfriend?"
    • "I really think we would make an amazing couple. Will you be my girlfriend?"
    • "I know we’ve had feelings for each other for a while, but I want to make our relationship official. Will you be my girlfriend?”
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Make it clear that you’d like a response.

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Sign your first name at the bottom.

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Read the letter carefully and fix any errors.

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Handwrite the letter to make it feel special.

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  1. When you look at it like that, emails and texts just can't compete! To make your letter feel even more special, write it on stationary paper or cardstock with a nice fountain pen. These little details might seem insignificant, but she's sure to notice them.[10]
    • Unless your handwriting is extremely messy, it's probably best to avoid typing/printing out this letter. A generic font just won't pack the same emotional punch as your handwriting.[11]

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    What should I put in a romantic note to someone I like?
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    Eddy Baller is a Dating Coach and the Owner of a dating consulting and coaching service, Conquer and Win, based in Vancouver, Canada. Coaching since 2011, Eddy specializes in confidence building, advanced social skills, and relationships. Conquer and Win helps men worldwide have the love lives they deserve. His work has been featured in The Art of Manliness, LifeHack, and POF among others.
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    Talk about something specific that you really like about them—that will make the note more personal. For instance, it might be the way they walk or the way they smile, or it could even be something more unique.
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