How to Ask Out a Girl on Snapchat

Co-authored by Kira Jan Reviewed by John Keegan

Last Updated: January 5, 2025 References

You’ve been crushing on a girl, and you’ve decided it’s finally time to ask her out! If you can’t talk to her in-person, you can use Snapchat to ask her on a date while showing off your personality, sense of humor, and of course, that dynamite smile. From funny approaches to direct ways to tell her you’re interested in going out, we’ll walk you through some flirty ideas for asking a girl on a date through Snapchat!

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Joke about dating to see if she’s interested.

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Add her to a private story or joke with her directly. If you add her as the only viewer to a private story you can use sliders to ask for her responses. Don’t take the responses too literally. She might be teasing you!^{[1]
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- “Who’s cuter? Be honest.” Post this question with a poll. Put a photo of you next to a cute animal or something totally random and funny, like food.
- “How cute do you think I am?” Pair this question with a slider so you can gauge her interest.
- “Scale of 1-10, how likely are you to date me?” Try this question for a flirty way to get the conversation about dating going.

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Use a cheesy photo pun to ask her out.

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Pair a very literal photo with a silly caption. You can create your pun masterpiece with a regular snap, or use a video to let your comedic timing and dramatic delivery shine. If you go for a longer pun, use a video so you don’t have to worry about character limits on captions.^{[2]
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- Send a photo of grapes and say, “I think you and me would have a grape time if we went out.”
- Turn on your stove and say, “Is it hot in here, or is it just you? Come hangout so we can check.”
- Send a historically-themed photo or photo of a newspaper and say, “Learning about important dates in history. Do you want to go on one?”^{[3]
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Send a nerdy pick-up line.

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Choose a line that mentions a date or asks a question. Normal pick-up lines are good conversation starters, but try these when you want to move from flirting to asking to go out. Since Snapchat limits characters for captions, you can spread out your joke over a few snaps or write it down on a piece of paper and snap a photo.^{[4]
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- “I’ve heard staring at screens is bad for your eyes. How about we have this conversation over dinner tomorrow?”
- “Knock-knock.” (Who's there?) “When where.” (When where who?) “Tomorrow night, my house, you?”
- “My friends bet me I couldn’t Snapchat the most beautiful girl in the world. Where do you want to go spend their money?”

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Spell out your question.

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Take advantage of Snapchat’s visual element. Instead of typing, “Do you want to go out with me?” you can spell out a simpler question with random items for a clever, original approach.^{[5]
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- Arrange pens, markers, or colored pencils to spell out the words “You + me?”
- Spell out all or part of “Grab food with me?” in actual food. You can trace the letters in flour, write them with alphabet soup or alphabet crackers, and arrange candy or pasta.
- Go for a classically romantic vibe by spelling out “Date me?” in rocks or beach sand.

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Draw her into a photo next to you.

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Use the pencil tool on Snapchat to get creative. Take a photo of yourself with enough space to draw your best portrait of her beside you. If you can only draw stick figures, no worries, it’ll still be funny and great! Label the drawing with her name or just “you.”^{[6]
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- “What’s missing from this pic?”
- “Wish you were here! Want to hangout?”
- “Doesn’t this pic look better with you in it?”

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Respond to her story to ask her out.

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Try this approach to keep things casual yet direct. It’s a little less intimidating than trying to send her private snaps right away and you can use her photos to get ideas. Reply to her story by combining your date question with a comment on what you see in the photos.^{[7]
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- If she posts a photo of food, you could say, “Please teach me how to cook!” Then send, “How about tomorrow night?”
- If she’s out somewhere, try saying, “That restaurant/place looks great. Want to go again with me?”
- If you see her doing fun activities, ask if you can do them together. Try something like, “Blown away by those tricks. Hit the skatepark with me?”
- Reader Poll: We asked 163 wikiHow readers, and 63% agreed that the most effective way to initiate a conversation with your crush on Snapchat (and eventually ask them on a date!) is to reply to their Story to start a conversation. [Take Poll]

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Turn an event invite into a date.

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When you see an event flyer or ad, snap a photo. Send the photo to your crush and ask her if she’d like to join. Bonus points if you know the event is something she’s into!^{[8]
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- For a party or social event, you can ask, “Do you want to be my +1?”
- Grab a photo advertising a concert, game, or competition and ask, “You down to go to this?”

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Snap a photo of what you’re doing and invite her to join!

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Go for this approach if you think she might be free. If she’s not free but seems interested, you can always plan to do the activity with her another time.^{[9]
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- Go to a beautiful outdoor place, send her a photo and say, “Want to join?”
- Send a photo of you trying something she’s good at and say, “I need an expert. Come help me?”
- Send a photo of books or your computer and say, “Let’s skip work/class and go hang out.”

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Keep it simple with a private snap.

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Pick a casual, candid photo and stick to a direct question. To keep it fun and cute, try a photo of a pet or a good-looking selfie. If you’re looking for a dinner date and more romance, you can pair it with a photo of a sunset or beautiful scenery.^{[10]
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- “Hang out with me?”
- “Dinner with me?” or replace “dinner” with whatever activity you want.
- If you’re nervous about hanging out with her, send a photo of you with friends and ask her to go on a group date.

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Message her a straightforward question.

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If you feel confident or if cheesy lines aren’t your style, try this. Plus, you can send more characters through messages than snap captions. Be specific about your request and make sure it’s clear you’re asking for a date!^{[11]
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- “Do you want to meet up on Saturday for a coffee date?”^{[12]
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- “I’ve got a very important question for you.” Wait until she responds and then ask, “Do you want to go out with me?”^{[13]
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- “I was wondering if you’re down to hang out sometime?”

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Since Snapchat limits caption length, if you want to get more characters on an iPhone, just type a message in your notes and paste it into the caption. It’s a little trickier on Android, so check out this article on how to get a longer caption.

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Warnings

While Snapchats are “temporary,” nothing is super private online. Don’t send private or inappropriate photos because that can be considered harassment!^{[14]
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