This article was written by Jacqueline Hellyer and by wikiHow staff writer, Dev Murphy, MA. Jacqueline Hellyer is a Licensed Psychosexual Therapist and the Founder of The Love Life Blog and The LoveLife Clinic. With over 20 years of experience, Jacqueline specializes in sex advice, sex tips, and relationship advice. In addition to being an accredited Psychosexual Therapist with the Society of Australian Sexologists (SAS), Jacqueline is also a Professional Certified Coach with the International Coach Federation (ICF). Jacqueline holds a BSc in Biochemistry and Human Sciences from The Australian National University, a Graduate Diploma in Applied Science from the University of Canberra, a BA in Languages and Literature from the University of New England (AU), an MSc in Sexual Health from The University of Sydney, and an MSc in Consciousness, Spirituality & Transpersonal Psychology from The Alef Trust. Her work and expertise have been featured in Australian Men’s Health, Cosmopolitan, Australian Women’s Health, Marie Claire, and 60 Minutes.
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Desire is often mysterious and subjective: what do you wear, how do you act, and what do you say in order to appear sexually attractive to another person? Thankfully, there are a few tried-and-true methods based on expert research that will help you become more sexually attractive to other people, whether you’ve got your eye on that cute guy browsing at the bookstore or want to keep the flame burning with your wife of 10 years. If you want to ooze seduction, read on!
This article is based on an interview with our licensed psychosexual therapist, Jacqueline Hellyer, founder of The Love Life Blog and The LoveLife Clinic. Check out the full interview here.
Things You Should Know
- Confidence is key. Having good self-esteem is the best way to make yourself sexually attractive.
- Use body language to indicate your interest. Maintain eye contact, smile, and maybe throw out a wink or two.
- Don't underestimate the value of directness! Sometimes, you have to ask for what you want, whether it's a stranger's number or a romp in the hay.
- Show interest, but don't put too much pressure on making a connection, Also, don't take rejection to heart. It happens to everyone!
Steps
Expert Q&A
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Tips
References
- ↑ https://news.ku.edu/2015/08/27/first-comes-laughter-then-love-study-finds-out-why-humor-important-romantic-attraction
- ↑ https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0747563218301870
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- ↑ https://www.helpguide.org/wellness/fitness/how-to-start-exercising-and-stick-to-it
- ↑ https://www.psychologicalscience.org/news/releases/he-loves-me-he-loves-me-not-women-are-more-attracted-to-men-whose-feelings-are-unclear.html
- ↑ https://www.sae.edu/gbr/insights/online-presence-and-authentic-engagement-sae-blog/
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/articles/201207/outside-in-dress-impress-yourself
- ↑ https://www.apa.org/news/press/releases/2010/08/red-attraction
- ↑ https://www.scienceofpeople.com/make-friends/
- ↑ https://psychcentral.com/relationships/prolonged-eye-contact
- ↑ https://www.npr.org/2021/07/11/1014019821/flirting-how-to-dating-romance-advice
- ↑ https://www.canr.msu.edu/news/what_does_a_smile_say
- ↑ https://edu.gcfglobal.org/en/business-communication/the-power-of-body-language/1/
- ↑ https://positivepsychology.com/body-language/
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/basics/flirting
- ↑ https://www.researchgate.net/publication/274034637_I_Know_You're_Kidding_Relationship_Closeness_Enhances_Positive_Perceptions_of_Teasing
- ↑ https://www.optionsforsexualhealth.org/facts/sex/intimacy-and-relationships/