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Have you seen or heard someone refer to you or someone else as a beta male? The term “beta” refers to a social construct that uses Greek letters to group men into categories that may be overly rigid or oversimplified. Beta males tend to be stereotyped as less successful or weaker than other men—however, there are tons of benefits to being labeled a “beta male.” In this article, we’ll explain what a beta male is, what their characteristics are, and what the difference is between beta males and other male archetypes.

Meaning of “Beta Male”

A beta male is a person who’s seen as less masculine or dominant than other men. Beta males are kind, respectful, good-natured, and approachable. They focus on pleasing others above all else and can make great friends, partners, and coworkers.

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What is a “beta male”?

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  1. Beta males tend to be traditionally subservient and focus on pleasing others instead of dominating them.[1] They’re the friendly and welcoming men in the group who are always eager to lend a kind ear or a helping hand.
    • The traits associated with beta males tend to be more traditionally feminine, which people who use this term as an insult might believe makes them weaker.
    • In the animal kingdom, “beta male” refers to a male who is the second-most dominant in the social hierarchy.[2] These terms were never meant to categorize humans.
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Beta Male Characteristics

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  1. Beta males are the kind of guys who smile at you in the hallway, bring donuts to the company function, and encourage everyone in the room to share their ideas.[3] They take care of themselves, aren’t afraid to express their emotions, and make great friends and employees.[4]
    • Beta males also tend to be very family-oriented, doing everything in their power to make their loved ones happy.[5]
    • In leadership roles, beta males aren’t interested in dominating others and prefer to use encouragement and motivation to make strides.[6]
  2. People tend to gravitate towards beta males because they’re easy-going, welcoming, and pleasant to be around.[7] Beta males know who they are and accept you for who you are.[8]
    • However, because of the negative, emasculating traits often associated with beta males, they may also feel insecure in their relationships or jobs and seek validation from others.[9]
  3. Beta males tend to be the most introverted male archetype. They’re typically more shy than others and try to avoid confrontation, preferring to make others happy and keep out of the spotlight.[10]
    • Beta males also might be less confident sharing their opinions because they fear conflict.[11]
  4. Despite what the stereotype says, beta males tend to be more successful in the workforce because they don’t hinder progress, intimidate other employees, or put their success over the company’s. On top of that, beta males are smart, capable, and make great long-term employees or relationship partners.[12]
  5. Whether you need someone to cover your shift, listen to your issues, or grab something you forgot at home, beta males are always there for you.[13] They’re faithful friends and steadfast coworking pals who stick with you until the end.[14]
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Beta Male vs. Alpha Male

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  1. Alpha males are the confident, charismatic, goal-driven, and aggressive ones in the crowd.[15] Male archetypes tend to place alpha males at the top because they’re believed to be dominant, while beta males are lower because they’re more submissive and people-focused.[16]
    • Alphas tend to have strong ambitions, make decisions, and lead others, while betas are more likely to follow others and less likely to share their ideas.
    • Beta males are also less likely to be intimated by the success of others, especially women.[17]
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Benefits of Being a Beta Male

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  1. Because of their agreeable nature and their value of other people’s opinions, beta males often succeed in teams and other collaborative groups. In both relationships and careers, beta males are team players who are always thinking about the bigger picture.[21]
    • In leadership roles, beta males often foster an inclusive and supportive environment where all team members feel appreciated and heard.
  2. Beta males are often compassionate and empathetic, valuing connection and understanding above all else.[22] They have a deep need to heal others and maintain harmony in their relationships, encouraging love and emotional security.
    • Beta males tend to “wear their heart on their sleeve” and communicate openly when something upsets or hurts them.
  3. Beta men tend to focus on tangible goals and what steps they can take immediately to move toward them. While they might not be as aggressive about their ambitions as other archetypes, beta males translate their ideas to reality in a way that works with the people around them.[23]
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Drawbacks of Being a Beta Male

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  1. Because beta males often bloom where they’re planted, they might find it difficult to go outside their comfort zone. Even when they’re not satisfied with their job, relationships, or habits, they might be so afraid of failure that they avoid taking risks and changing their life for the better.[24]
    • Change is part of life. Beta males can learn to navigate it by focusing on what they can control, relying on friends and family, and reflecting on times when they’ve successfully dealt with change.[25]
    • Beta males can learn to take risks by focusing on baby steps. Start with small risks, like buying a new shirt or applying for a new job, then go from there.[26]
  2. Because of the emasculating, feminine stereotypes associated with beta males, they may feel less secure in their relationships and careers.[27] Beta males might constantly compare themselves to others, focusing on their positive qualities and their own flaws.[28]
    • It may help to write down self-critical thoughts and look at them as an enemy instead of as truth. When you hear yourself repeating these thoughts, try to reframe them.[29]
    • You might write, “I’ll never be as successful as Jimmy.” If you have that thought again, you may say, “This isn’t a competition. I’ve put in a lot of work and done my best.”[30]
  3. Although kind, stable, successful men are valued, the “nice guys finish last” trope can make beta males look lesser than other male archetypes. Because of this, beta males might feel like they’re more of a safety net than a direct competitor, both in relationships and at work.[31]
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Do women like beta males?

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  1. Modern women tend to want intelligent men who share in their success and enjoy success of their own. Beta males aren’t intimated by women’s achievements and embrace emotions over dominance, making them great partners and loving spouses.[34]
    • The idea that alpha men are more desirable than beta men changed when women fought for rights and equality—since then, women don’t need a man to take care of them.
    • Alpha males are also often pictured as “ladies men” who can go after as many women as they want. However, women don’t get any economic or biological benefits from this.
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Keeping Perspective

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  1. Human personalities are super complex and multifaceted. While these archetypes may reveal aspects of behavioral patterns, they were never meant to categorize humans.[35] It’s okay to identify with these terms, but forcing yourself to fit the label can be harmful to your mental health and well-being.
    • The concept of these male archetypes tends to include misogynistic ideas that can be harmful to people of all genders.[36]
    • Terms like “beta” are also often used in memes to make fun of the entire archetype system or to poke fun at men who other people see as less successful.[37]
    • These ideas are also overtly heterosexual and don’t take people of differing genders and sexualities into account.
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  • Beta males from TV shows include Chandler Bing (Friends), Phil Dunphy (Modern Family), Ben Wyatt (Parks & Recreation), and Eric Foreman (That ‘70s Show).[38]
  • Beta males have their own set of strengths and abilities that make them valuable friends, coworkers, and members of society.
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