This article was co-authored by Jay Reid, LPCC and by wikiHow staff writer, Dev Murphy, MA. Jay Reid is a Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor (LPCC) in private practice in San Francisco, CA. He specializes in helping clients who have survived a narcissistic parent or partner. Treatment focuses upon helping clients identify and challenge self-diminishing beliefs as a result of narcissistic abuse. Jay holds a BA in Psychology from the University of Pennsylvania and an MS in Clinical Psychology from Penn State University.
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Confronting a person with narcissistic tendencies can be intimidating, but staying assertive and calm makes a smooth conversation more likely. Keep scrolling for a list of the best psychology-backed ways to confront a friend, family member, or coworker. Just keep in mind that just because someone exhibits narcissistic traits, it doesn’t automatically mean they have clinical Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD), and only a licensed therapist can diagnose NPD.[1]
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QuestionCan I tell my friend she's a narcissist?RubyTop AnswererYou can't armchair diagnose someone with NPD. If you suspect she has NPD, bring it up in a sensitive way, avoiding using stigmatising language. I would also recommend doing your own research into NPD first. There are many widespread misconceptions about narcissistic personality disorder. Just because someone is selfish or toxic, it doesn't mean they have NPD.
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Remember that not everyone with narcissistic tendencies has NPD, and that just because someone does have NPD, it doesn’t automatically mean they’re toxic or abusive.[21]Thanks
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Many people with clinical NPD are able to manage their behavior with therapy and/or medication.[22]Thanks
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References
- ↑ https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/narcissistic-personality-disorder/symptoms-causes/syc-20366662
- ↑ https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/stress-management/in-depth/assertive/art-20044644
- ↑ Liana Georgoulis, PsyD. Licensed Psychologist. Expert Interview. 6 September 2018.
- ↑ https://www.helpguide.org/articles/mental-disorders/narcissistic-personality-disorder.htm
- ↑ https://psychcentral.com/blog/narcissism-decoded/2017/06/11-ways-to-set-boundaries-with-narcissists
- ↑ https://psychcentral.com/pro/exhausted-woman/2017/06/12-survival-tips-for-living-with-a-narcissist
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/fulfillment-any-age/201408/8-ways-handle-narcissist
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/understanding-narcissism/201710/how-de-escalate-fight-narcissist
- ↑ https://www.apa.org/news/podcasts/speaking-of-psychology/narcissism
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/fulfillment-any-age/201408/8-ways-handle-narcissist
- ↑ Jay Reid, LPCC. Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor. Expert Interview. 7 August 2020.
- ↑ https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/25545840/
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/peaceful-parenting/201810/how-bypass-narcissist
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/ambigamy/202002/how-humiliate-absolute-narcissist
- ↑ https://psychcentral.com/blog/psychology-self/2019/09/narcissist-future-faking#1
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/5-types-people-who-can-ruin-your-life/202109/4-tips-saying-no-narcissist
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/communication-success/201705/how-talk-narcissist-about-being-narcissistic
- ↑ https://psychcentral.com/blog/liberation/2018/01/11-mandatory-rules-for-dealing-with-a-narcissist
- ↑ https://psychcentral.com/blog/psychology-self/2018/07/narcissist-delusion#5
- ↑ Jay Reid, LPCC. Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor. Expert Interview. 7 August 2020.
- ↑ https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/narcissistic-personality-disorder/symptoms-causes/syc-20366662
- ↑ https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/narcissistic-personality-disorder/symptoms-causes/syc-20366662