How to Cut Cords with Someone and Release Emotional Attachments

Co-authored by Tracy Carver, PhD and Nihal Shetty

Last Updated: November 4, 2024 References

Energy cords are a crucial aspect of your spiritual connection to other people, but if they’ve become a negative influence, how do you cut them? Luckily, there are plenty of ways to cut your energetic cords with other people, and we’re here to show you how. We’ll walk you through exactly what energetic cords are, where they come from, when to cut them, and how to do so. Here’s our complete guide on how to cut cords with someone and release emotional attachments.

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What are energetic cords?

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Energetic cords are invisible threads connecting us to other individuals. They are also sometimes known as etheric cords. These cords vibrate, allowing us to receive and transmit energy and emotions. Through energetic cords, we maintain our spiritual connection to others and the world.^{[1]
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- The strength of these cords depends on the nature of the relationship between two individuals. Soulmates are people with extremely strong energetic cords between them.

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Where do energetic cords come from?

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For a clairvoyant, these connections often take the form of cords of light. Cords help us exchange energy with other people, including our friends, lovers, and family members.^{[2]
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Often, you might not realize the strength that a cord has over you until you find yourself surprised by how attached you are to another person. Although some cords are based in positive feelings of mutual care and love, other cords are made of feelings of hostility, anger, and mistrust.^{[3]
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How do I know when to cut cords?

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Cut cords when you detect an imbalance in your own energy field. Not all cords are beneficial. When a cord is pulling too much energy from you, you’ll feel your mood affected.^{[4]
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- A feeling of dependency
- Anger
- Anxiety
- Resentment
- Fear
- Feeling drained
- Obsessive thinking

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Cord Cutting Strategies

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Visualize the cord being cut. Sit in a peaceful, quiet place, and close your eyes. Imagine the cord that connects you to the person whom you wish to be released from. Then, visualize yourself holding a pair of scissors and cutting the cord, letting the connection fade back into darkness.^{[5]
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- It may be easier to perform this ritual with an actual thread and pair of scissors. Focusing your mental energy on the person who you want to cut cords with, cut the real thread in front of you.
- If these cords are strong, repeat this ritual several times. If you’re trying to cut cords with, say, an ex you’re still really hung up on, try doing it daily for 21 days in a row.^{[6]
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Meditate on abundance to restore independence. Take a deep breath, and remember that the world around you is filled with abundance, or things to be grateful for. During your meditation, emphasize to yourself that the person with whom you’re cutting cords with does not possess your abundance and sense of gratitude for the world—only you do.
- This practice reinforces your individual control in any relationship.
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Take a salt bath to cleanse your chakras. Cords are tied to our chakras, which are the points of our bodies that serve as openings to the spiritual flow of energy. Take a shower to clean the dirt off your body, then add several cups of salt to a bath. Relax in the bath to cleanse your chakras and free yourself from energy cords.^{[7]
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- Himalayan sea salt works especially well for cleansing chakras, but it can get a little expensive. Regular salt is more than enough to do the job.
- Rub some of the salt into the top of your head while you bathe. This cleanses the crown chakra, which is a major portal to the spiritual world.
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Journal as an emotional release. Free yourself from emotional attachment by writing out your feelings. Journaling is a profound way to externalize your emotions and make them much more manageable. After you’re done writing, you can burn or bury your notes, symbolically allowing them to pass away.^{[8]
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- Why has this cord grown so powerful?
- What will you do once you’re free of this cord?
- What has this cord taught you about yourself?
- Write a letter to the person you want to cut cords with. Keep it to yourself—there’s no need to send it.

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Moving on after Cutting Cords

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Practice self-care to take control over your emotions. By restoring your faith in your own ability to care for yourself, you reduce the strength that any cords that make you dependent have over you. To practice self care, try yoga, meditation, or simply being in nature.
- You might also consider taking up a hobby, like art, caring for plants, or exercise. These activities can give you a healthy outlet for your emotions.
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Put more energy into your other cords. You can always find support with your friends and family. This doesn’t necessarily mean that you have to spend your time with them venting about the cord that’s giving you stress, just that you can spend time with other relationships to remind yourself of what healthy cords look like.
- A therapist can also help you manage the end of a negative relationship. If you’re having trouble finding one to meet you in person, try reaching out to one online using Betterhelp.
Although cutting cords and releasing your emotional attachments can be painful, especially if its with someone for whom you have strong feelings, know that you’re always capable of forming new cords. No matter how tough it gets, put yourself out there again to make new connections: you are always capable of creating deep emotional bonds.

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If you’re finding it difficult to cut these energy cords on your own, schedule an appointment with an energy healer or a psychic.^{[9]
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Although they won’t cut cords by themselves, crystals affiliated with the planet Saturn, like onyx or brown jasper, can protect you from cords that are sucking too much of your energy.^{[10]
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