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Has anyone ever asked you which “base” you got to with a date? While you probably assumed they weren’t talking about baseball, figuring out exactly what each base means might not be the most intuitive process in the world. Fortunately, you’re not alone—plenty of people want to know what the bases are in dating! That’s why we’ve written this article to define each base once and for all.
Things You Should Know
- First base is kissing and making out, and second base is touching above the waist.
- Third base is stimulating anywhere below the waist, and fourth base, or home base, is having sexual intercourse.
- You may hear different definitions of each base depending on who you talk to. Since each base is made up, everyone has slightly different interpretations.
- Always ask your date for consent before, during, and after any sexual activity.
Steps
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Community Q&A
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QuestionAre the bases different for gay or lesbian couples?MaddieCommunity AnswerNope! The bases in a relationship are the same in gay/lesbian relationships as they are in straight relationships.
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QuestionWhat is sexual intercourse?Community AnswerThe most common form of sexual intercourse consists of penetration of a vagina by an erect penis.
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QuestionCan a kid do it at the age of 10?Community AnswerThat's probably too young, but the kid's parents can decide that.
Tips
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Make sure you’re ready to have sex before going all the way. If you feel even the slightest bit uncomfortable or rushed, feel free to say no and back off a bit.Thanks
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Remember to enjoy the journey rather than the destination! Each base has its own joys. Be present every step of the way and allow the chemistry between the two of you to unfold naturally. Sex and intimacy is not a game of who finishes first or how fast you can get to "home base"—it's about connecting with yourself, the moment, and another person all at once.Thanks
References
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/adventures-in-dating/201403/the-surprising-benefits-kissing
- ↑ https://www.pennmedicine.org/updates/blogs/health-and-wellness/2018/february/affection
- ↑ https://www.southuniversity.edu/news-and-blogs/2016/08/the-psychology-behind-love-and-romance-70700
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/may-i-have-your-attention/201506/be-more-intimate-your-partner-know-yourself-first
- ↑ https://www.helpguide.org/articles/mental-health/benefits-of-play-for-adults.htm
- ↑ https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/relationships/sexual-consent/how-do-i-talk-about-consent