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Making the woman in your life feel loved, secure, and respected is a great foundation for a healthy relationship. Fortunately, this is actually pretty easy, and you might already be doing some of these things every day. In this article, we’ll tell you exactly how to treat your partner for a loving, strong relationship that has the potential to last a lifetime.

Best Ways to Make a Woman Feel Safe and Loved

  1. Listen to her without getting distracted.
  2. Be honest and tell her the truth.
  3. Express your thoughts and feelings openly to her.
  4. Spend one-on-one time bonding with her.
  5. Show her appreciation for the things she does for you.
  6. Be reliable and help her out when she needs it.
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Spend time with her one-on-one.

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  1. It can be easy to get swept up in your work, your kids, and your extra responsibilities. Be sure to schedule in time throughout the week to spend with your partner one-on-one. That way, she knows just how important she is to you, and she’ll never have to guess about whether or not she fits into your life.[1]
    • An easy way to do this is to have a designated date night. Try picking one night of the week when you two can spend quality time together, just the two of you.
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Listen intently when she talks.

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  1. Active listening shows your partner you care about what she says. When you and your partner are having a conversation (even a mundane one), get rid of distractions like your phone or the TV and make eye contact with her. Nod along to show that you understand, and ask follow-up questions if you don’t get something.[2]
    • Ask questions like, “Can you tell me more?” or, “Interesting. Could you explain that?”
    • You can also rephrase what she says to show that you understand, like, “So what you’re saying is…”
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Acknowledge what she does for you.

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  1. When you’re with your partner for a while, it can be easy to take what they do for granted. Be sure to express how thankful you are for your partner, and call out all the awesome things she does on a daily basis for you.[5]
    • “That dinner was amazing, babe. You really nailed that new recipe.”
    • “Thanks so much for taking the car to the mechanic. I was stressed about that, and you made me feel so much better.”
    • “The yard looks amazing! You’re such a good gardener.”
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Give her loving compliments.

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Accept all of her flaws.

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  1. It’s totally fine to have a few small things you wish your partner would change, like how messy they are or how late they sleep in. However, try to accept your partner’s deep morals and values, because they’re probably not going to change much over time.[7]
    • People very rarely change for their spouse, even if their partner requests it over and over. You’ll be much happier if you can find a way to accept your partner’s flaws and live with who they are now.
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Talk through your disagreements with each other.

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  1. Practice open communication to resolve problems quickly.[9] If your partner doesn’t have to guess about what’s wrong, she’ll feel much more secure in the relationship. Bring up issues with her right away, and talk about them thoroughly until you’ve reached a conclusion that you’re both happy with.[10]
    • When you bring things up, use “I” statements to make it sound less like an attack.
    • “When you don’t text me back for hours on end, I feel worried about you.”
    • “When you don’t make time for me throughout the week, I feel like I’m not important to you.”
    • Reader Poll: We asked 226 wikiHow readers to tell us the most important sign that a relationship has long term potential, and 58% said handling conflict in a healthy way. [Take Poll] So if you’re able to show her that you two can fight fairly, that could help her feel more secure and confident in the relationship.
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Stay faithful in your relationship.

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  1. To make her feel super secure and confident in your relationship, don’t cheat on her or entertain anyone else’s advances. Keep her in mind no matter what, and try not to do anything that might make her feel uncomfortable.[11]
    • If you aren’t sure what your partner’s boundaries are in your relationship, sit down and talk about it. For instance, some couples are okay with harmless flirting, while others aren’t. It’s up to you and your partner to decide what’s okay and what crosses the line.
    • If you or your partner have had problems with infidelity in your relationship, a couple’s counselor may be able to help you get back on track.[12]
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Be a passionate lover.

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  1. A great way to show your partner that you love and care for them is to stay in the moment and connect with her while having sex. Don’t just go through the motions—do things you know she enjoys to make her happy.[13]
    • If you’ve been together for a while, you might find that your sex life has gotten to be a little routine. You can switch things up by introducing romance again. Try lighting a few candles, turning on sensual music, and sprinkling rose petals around the bed to spice things up.
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    Dr. Susan Pazak is a Licensed Clinical Psychologist & Professional Life Coach. With more than 21 years of experience, she specializes in treating adolescents and adults with psychological issues using cognitive behavioral therapy, symptom reduction skills, and behavior modification techniques. She has been featured in numerous media outlets and shows, including “My Strange Addiction". Dr. Pazak holds a BA in Psychology with a minor in Communications from The University of Pittsburgh, an MA in Clinical Psychology from Pepperdine University, and a PhD in Clinical Psychology from Alliant International University.
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    Your partner may be focused on qualities they think are their flaws, and they believe you also notice these flaws. You can help them feel more secure by reassuring them that you love them and by helping them focus on their positive qualities.
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This article was co-authored by Susan Pazak, PhD and by wikiHow staff writer, Hannah Madden. Dr. Susan Pazak is a Licensed Clinical Psychologist & Professional Life Coach. With more than 21 years of experience, she specializes in treating adolescents and adults with psychological issues using cognitive behavioral therapy, symptom reduction skills, and behavior modification techniques. She has been featured in numerous media outlets and shows, including “My Strange Addiction". Dr. Pazak holds a BA in Psychology with a minor in Communications from The University of Pittsburgh, an MA in Clinical Psychology from Pepperdine University, and a PhD in Clinical Psychology from Alliant International University. This article has been viewed 169,228 times.
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