This article was co-authored by Patti Novak Williams and by wikiHow staff writer, Hunter Rising. Patti Novak Williams is a Professional Matchmaker in Las Vegas, Nevada. With over 20 years of experience, Patti specializes in working with clients one on one to help them find love. She has helped match hundreds of couples, engagements, and marriages. Patti was the star of the critically acclaimed A&E series “Confessions of a Matchmaker.” She has been featured in the New York Times, the New York Daily News, the New York Post, and The Wall Street Journal, and has appeared on The Oprah Winfrey Show, TODAY with Hoda and Kathy Lee, The Rachael Ray Show, CBS’ The Early Show, CNN, The Big Idea with Donny Deutsch, The Nate Berkus Show, and Fox’s The Morning Show With Mike & Juliet. Patti published a book in 2008 with Random House titled “Get Over Yourself!: How to Get Real, Get Serious, and Get Ready to Find True Love.”
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While it’s usually the most respectful to end a serious relationship in person, it’s okay to send a breakup text if you’ve only been on a few dates, have something casual, or don’t have another safe option. We know that it’s tough to go through any sort of breakup, so keep reading our list of all the things to include in your message so it’s the most mature and respectful!
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QuestionIs it better to break up in person or over text?Patti Novak WilliamsPatti Novak Williams is a Professional Matchmaker in Las Vegas, Nevada. With over 20 years of experience, Patti specializes in working with clients one on one to help them find love. She has helped match hundreds of couples, engagements, and marriages. Patti was the star of the critically acclaimed A&E series “Confessions of a Matchmaker.” She has been featured in the New York Times, the New York Daily News, the New York Post, and The Wall Street Journal, and has appeared on The Oprah Winfrey Show, TODAY with Hoda and Kathy Lee, The Rachael Ray Show, CBS’ The Early Show, CNN, The Big Idea with Donny Deutsch, The Nate Berkus Show, and Fox’s The Morning Show With Mike & Juliet. Patti published a book in 2008 with Random House titled “Get Over Yourself!: How to Get Real, Get Serious, and Get Ready to Find True Love.”
Professional Dating CoachIt's always better to break up in person. If you've decided to end things, your head isn't in the game anymore, but theirs still might be—so, it's really important to be sensitive to the other person's feelings. You owe each other mutual respect and kindness!
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Always think through if you really want to break up so you don’t make a decision that you’ll regret.[11]Thanks
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- If you’ve been on more than 4–5 dates or are in a long-term relationship, dumping your partner over text could really hurt their feelings or come across as disrespectful. At least give them a phone call or try to meet in person if it’s safe to do so.[12]Thanks
- Breakups are tough even if you do everything the “right” way. It’s okay if you feel sad or depressed afterward. Let yourself experience those feelings and reflect on why it was the right choice for you.[13]Thanks
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- ↑ https://www.glamour.com/story/the-right-way-to-break-up-with
- ↑ https://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/a28638581/breakup-texts/
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- ↑ https://www.teenvogue.com/story/how-to-breakup
- ↑ https://www.askmen.com/dating/relationship_advice/how-to-break-up-with-someone-by-text.html
- ↑ https://www.bbc.co.uk/bbcthree/article/8005c989-3226-435b-b87c-da5ece40fad3
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If you’re ending a casual relationship or you don’t feel safe breaking up in person, you might want to split up with your boyfriend over text. To soften the blow a little, start by saying something nice, like giving him a compliment or thanking him for your last date. Then, let him know how you’re feeling about things. Be direct and clear about your intentions. For instance, you might tell him that you don’t think things are working out between you and it is time to move on. Keep it brief and be firm if he tries to push you into continuing the relationship. You may need to block him if he keeps bothering you or doesn’t respect your wishes.