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“What are you doing?” is such a simple question, but it’s easy to feel like a deer caught in headlights when it’s your crush that wants to know. Do you respond honestly? Do you make up something funny or cool? Why do they want to know? Whether you share exactly what you’re doing or not, it’s easy to still be yourself and have a great, flirty conversation. We’ve put together the best responses to “What are you doing?” to help you have fun with your crush over text (and maybe even secure that first date). So, what are you doing? Reading this article, that’s what!

Things You Should Know

  • Get flirty by making jokes about how you’re not doing anything, using flirtatious emojis like the winky face, or telling the person you’re thinking about them.
  • If you’re feeling bold and you’re certain they like you, reply with something like “I was just wondering when you were going to ask me out” to make a move.
  • If you’re not close with the person or you’re unsure what they want, keep things polite and vague with phrases like “I’m not up to much, thanks! How are you?”
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“Truly nothing. My life is so exciting!”

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  1. If you’re not busy and hoping your crush will ask you to do something or go somewhere, make it clear your schedule is wide open. Then, make a little joke to keep the conversation light and flirtatious.[1]
    • “Not much, just keeping myself busy with important things like laying down, watching Netflix, tweeting.”
    • “Nothing right now, besides looking at my vacuum and hoping it will just clean my apartment for me”
    • “Nothing. Might do something really fulfilling and make a PB&J soon. You?”
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“Watching Breaking Bad, have you seen it?”

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  1. Tell your crush or friend what you’re watching, even if you don’t have it on your screen at that exact moment. Then, ask if they’re familiar with it. If they are, you’ve got something to talk about. If not, you have something new and interesting to share with them!
    • “Just started watching the new Dr. Strange movie. Are you a Marvel person?”
    • “I can’t stop watching House of the Dragon. Have you seen it?”
    • “Listening to the new Carly Rae Jepson on repeat! You’ve gotta listen if you haven’t heard it.”
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“Playing with my dog. Want to meet him?”

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“Trying to figure out this trig assignment!”

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“I’m about to grab coffee, want to come with?”

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“That’s for me to know and you to find out!”

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“Wondering when you’re finally going to ask me out.”

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“Brainstorming a good way to ask you out.”

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  1. Ask them on a date creatively by joking that you’re still figuring out how. If there’s good chemistry between you and you’re ready to make the first move, go for it! Say something about how you’re thinking up a funny, unique text to ask them out with. As an extra joke, mention you’ll let them know once you think of something.
    • “Just trying to figure out the best way to ask you out for coffee this weekend 🤔”
    • “I’m crafting the perfect text message to ask you to grab dinner with me tomorrow night. I’ll send it once I think of it!”
    • “Thinking of the best ways to ask you out. I think I’ll go with this: Want to grab smoothies and go for a walk in the park later?”
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“Missing you 😢”

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“I’m having a bad day, actually.”

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  1. Be prepared for a heavier or surprised response since most people expect a neutral or positive reply to “What are you doing?” If you don’t know the person well enough to be open and honest, a generic “Not much!” is more appropriate.
    • “Ugh I’m laying in bed with the worst head cold ever today.”
    • “I’m running late to work. The bus is so unreliable these days!”
    • “Lol I’m bandaging up my finger. Turns out knives are really slippery when you’re washing them!”
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    What should I answer when someone (my crush) types "k" as an answer and I wasn't expecting that? How should I keep the chat going?
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    Do not respond to “k”. That is desperate. Responding to “k” is pretty embarrassing. Sometimes you need to know when to end the conversation.
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Tips

  • Share as much or as little about what you’re doing as you like. If you’d rather not tell someone exactly what you’re doing at that very moment, you have no obligation to.
  • Consider who’s asking you “What are you doing?” when you answer. You might want to be coy and flirty if it’s a crush, but weird and funny if it’s a close friend. It all depends on your relationship with the person.
  • Remember, most people ask “What are you doing?” as a simple conversation starter. There’s no right or wrong answer, and maybe you could simply state what you're doing to keep the conversation going.
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Warnings

  • Make sure your partner or crush is comfortable with and consents to receive suggestive texts before sending one out of the blue. If they don’t enjoy it, it might end your chances of getting to know them better or eventually having a physical relationship.
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This article was co-authored by John Keegan and by wikiHow staff writer, Dan Hickey. John Keegan is a Dating Coach and motivational speaker based in New York City. With over 10 years of professional experience, he runs The Awakened Lifestyle, where he uses his expertise in dating, attraction, and social dynamics to help people find love. He teaches and holds dating workshops internationally, from Los Angeles to London and from Rio de Janeiro to Prague. His work has been featured in the New York Times, Humans of New York, and Men's Health. This article has been viewed 616,563 times.
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