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From coded messages to accompanying major life events, flowers have always been associated with special meaning. Sometimes, that meaning is connected to death. While some flowers symbolize the malicious aspects of death, others convey remembrance, condolences, and the celebration of a life well lived. Whether you’re simply interested in the history of flowers or looking for the appropriate flowers to gift after a loss, we’ve got you covered with this comprehensive guide to symbolically significant florals.

Things You Should Know

  • Flowers commonly used in funeral arrangements or sympathy bouquets include carnations, orchids, lilies, and gladioli.
  • Not every flower that symbolizes death can be used to express condolences. Some express danger or ill will, and their meaning may vary by culture.
  • A flower’s modern symbolism is typically connected to its appearance in religious texts, mythology, or the famed Victorian-era flower code.
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Carnation

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  1. Their connection to death comes from their frequent use in funeral arrangements or as sympathy gifts to those who’ve lost a loved one. White, dark red, and pink carnations are particularly apt for mourning as they symbolize remembrance, deep love, and a mother’s loss.[1]
    • The maternal meaning of a pink carnation originates from the Christian crucifixion story, where the flowers were said to spring up from Mary’s tears as she mourned her son Jesus.
    • Many countries use carnations to honor veterans and the working class, particularly on International Workers’ Day (May 1).
    • White carnations are worn in the Netherlands to remember the World War II resistance, while the Portuguese use bright red carnations to represent the 1970s Revolution of the Carnations.
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Chrysanthemum

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  1. Also known simply as “mums,” they are often placed on gravestones or in floral arrangements for funerals. Their use as gifts to express sorrow is popular throughout Europe and North America, although other cultures have different associations with them.[2]
    • Chinese and Japanese cultures believe that the chrysanthemum represents youth and can allow people to live longer.
    • Japan also boasts the chrysanthemum as their national flower and celebrates it annually at the Festival of Happiness (September 9).
    • The chrysanthemum is also used in Australia as a traditional gift for Mother’s Day or a 13th anniversary.
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Black Rose

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  1. While not technically black, the black rose often comes in an intense shade of purple or red. People often dye regular roses black to evoke the gothic mystery and elegance of the black rose.[5]
    • However, black roses are not the best choice for sympathy gifts, as they are closely connected to death's more macabre and tragic aspects.
    • In Victorian-era floriography, black roses symbolize danger, death, farewell and hatred.
    • In the late 20th century, black roses came to be used as a symbol of anarchist political movements in North America, but this symbolism is not widely recognized.
    • Most popularly, black roses appear in media to symbolize farewells, grief, or the end of something significant.
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  1. Marigolds are believed to attract the souls of people who have passed and briefly reunite them with the living, if only in spirit. These vibrant flowers are seen as a celebration of life rather than an acknowledgment of tragic death.[8]
    • Marigolds are most popularly used for Day of the Dead traditions in Latin America, and anywhere pre-Columbian religions are practiced.
    • On the Day of the Dead, or día de muertos, marigolds are placed on the family altars (ofrendas) and scattered in a path from the cemetery to the front door of the home in an attempt to guide spirits on their journeys.
    • The spiritual significance of marigolds comes from Nahuatl mythology, in which the sun god Tonatiuh gifted the flowers to the people as a way to honor their dead.
  1. This modern interpretation of daffodils likely originates from their connection to Easter and springtime holidays.[9] In medieval times, however, Europeans believed that daffodils were omens of death or misfortune.[10]
    • While not frequently used as a sympathy flower or in funeral arrangements, daffodils may make a fitting tribute when celebrating someone’s life after passing.
    • Their vibrant color may add a touch of joy and life to an otherwise sorrowful occasion.
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Red Poppy

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  1. They are often used to honor veterans and placed on fallen soldiers' graves. This symbolism came about during World War I to commemorate the sacrifice of those who had fought in the war, originating with the poem “In Flanders Fields” by John McCrae.[11]
    • In countries like the United Kingdom, Canada, France, and Australia, red poppies are worn on Remembrance Day (November 11).
    • In the U.S., red poppies are used on Memorial Day.
    • As funeral arrangements or sympathy gifts, red poppies are best used when the deceased was a veteran or somehow sacrificed for their country during their lifetime.
    • White poppies, on the other hand, represent sleep.[12] While less common, the white poppy can be used to wish a peaceful rest for someone who has passed.
  1. Despite not having a direct connection to death, they are often used to convey condolences or express eternal love and affection. Florists often recommend orchids in funeral arrangements or as gifts to express sympathy for someone’s loss.[15]
    • In the United States, white orchids are most commonly used during grieving periods because this culture associates the color white with purity, rebirth, and heaven.
    • In other places, such as China, white represents death and ghosts and should not be used as a gift.[16]
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Rosemary

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  1. It is frequently used at funerals, as well as other emotional events like weddings and christenings.[18] While not typically included in floral bouquets, sprigs of rosemary are often carried by or pinned onto the clothing of mourners.[19]
    • The association of rosemary with remembrance was popularized by a line in William Shakespeare’s Hamlet, which was written around 1600.[20]
    • After the play’s success, the connection between rosemary and remembrance was recognized throughout Elizabethan and Victorian England.
    • However, rosemary was used as far back as 1000BC in burial rites and practices, from Ancient Egypt to Ancient Rome.[21]
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Wolfsbane

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  1. As a plant, it’s poisonous to humans and was used historically to make weapons more deadly—creating an obvious link to death and danger.[22]
    • Due to its negative connotations surrounding death, avoid using wolfsbane as a gift demonstrating sympathy or grief.
    • In Ancient Greek mythology, wolfsbane was created by the monstrous dog said to guard the gates of hell, and it’s also been connected to witchcraft throughout European folklore.
    • Both of these mythological and folkloric associations caused wolfsbane to become a symbol of evil, with Victorians viewing it as a sign of danger and misanthropy.[23] ​​
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Asphodel

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  1. Sending an asphodel to a mourner may convey a message of eternal regret or a commitment to faithfulness until death. In the present day, asphodel is often used at funerals or on the anniversary of a loss in order to wish peace for the deceased in the afterlife.[25]
    • Some ancient cultures believed that spirits lived amongst a field of asphodel and so would plant the flower beside tombs and gravestones.[26]
    • This includes Ancient Greeks, who associated the asphodel flowers with death, mourning, and their mythological Underworld.[27]
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Enchanter’s nightshade

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  1. This flower has long been associated with sorcery and witchcraft.[30] Despite its strong symbolic connection to death, enchanter’s nightshade is not generally appropriate for mourning purposes.
    • Enchanter’s nightshade is most famously connected to Circe.
    • Circe, the Greek goddess of magic, is thought to have used enchanter’s nightshade in an act of vengeance where she turned men into swine.[31]
    • Due to this mythological connection, the plant is known by the Latin name Circea.
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  • Educate yourself on someone’s cultural background before gifting flowers. Jewish and Islamic cultures, for example, do not traditionally receive flowers.[32]
  • In Buddhist ceremonies, white flowers are traditionally used for mourning, while bringing red flowers would be considered bad etiquette for a funeral.[33]
  • If attending a Hindu ceremony, mourners are expected to arrive empty-handed, without flowers or other gifts.[34]
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