How do I rizz up a girl I just met?
I keep seeing this beautiful girl at a cafe I study at, and I really want to talk to her. But I feel so awkward. What do I do? How do I get her to notice me?
Great question. The first thing to do is to always go back to step one, which is your own mindset and way of being. For you to approach her in the right way, you need to love and accept yourself. You need to enjoy being you and get to a place where you are open and curious about new people and things.
That’s the first part. Because, if you're feeling insecure, she will know. So it’s really about accepting yourself, even though you feel awkward, or you're not perfect, or anything else.
From there, just be open and friendly. Make eye contact and smile. For example, I was at a coffee shop, sitting outside on a nice sunny day, and there was someone sitting next to me. And she looked over at me and smiled. So I gave a wave and said, “Hey, how's your day?”, and that little thing started an entire easy conversation.
It all happened because she and I were both open, and we could have a conversation. I also didn't want or need anything from her, and she could sense that, which meant she could get comfortable around me.
Whether you're sitting down or walking down the street, just make friendly, confident eye contact with someone who seems attractive to you. And then you can simply smile and wave. If that person is in the same space and mindset, they'll usually do the same back. And if they're not, maybe they're not interested, or maybe their energy level isn’t the same as yours at the moment. Don't try to force anything. Just remain open and create opportunities for connection.
That’s the first part. Because, if you're feeling insecure, she will know. So it’s really about accepting yourself, even though you feel awkward, or you're not perfect, or anything else.
From there, just be open and friendly. Make eye contact and smile. For example, I was at a coffee shop, sitting outside on a nice sunny day, and there was someone sitting next to me. And she looked over at me and smiled. So I gave a wave and said, “Hey, how's your day?”, and that little thing started an entire easy conversation.
It all happened because she and I were both open, and we could have a conversation. I also didn't want or need anything from her, and she could sense that, which meant she could get comfortable around me.
Whether you're sitting down or walking down the street, just make friendly, confident eye contact with someone who seems attractive to you. And then you can simply smile and wave. If that person is in the same space and mindset, they'll usually do the same back. And if they're not, maybe they're not interested, or maybe their energy level isn’t the same as yours at the moment. Don't try to force anything. Just remain open and create opportunities for connection.
I have a girl in the art room what should I do
draw something on your hand about her or start flirting and get some paint on her then if she digs it do it the next Daw but if she wants u to clean in then you clean it off her to be nice.
man you on sum bsssss
U remind me of the twenty letters of the alphabet, oh did I forget the U R A Q T? I’ll give you the D later
This person is serious and you come with this.
well don’t be cheesy or creepy just ask what’s your name or something like that
Fully agree on the eye contact thing. Makes it so much easier to break the ice and then you’re already halfway to starting a conversation. If someone doesn’t smile back, I don’t even bother trying to approach them.
Same ~This is actually from a rizz god
good comment man
Actually its from me😜
I like to think about a few topics to talk about before I approach, just so there isn't any awkward silence. I have a rule of three, I like to use: one thing about me, one thing about her, and one thing about the environment around us. I think it’s easiest to start with the last one. Like, you can start up a conversation about how busy the cafe is and joke about how hard it is to study when handsome strangers keep coming up to say hi ;)
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I think the easiest way to talk to someone you like is to find a common person that you know and have them introduce you. But it sounds like you don't have that option in this case. Instead, social commentary on the environment that you're in can be a really easy way to break the ice when you're meeting someone new.
Truthfully, you're just looking to open a conversation and gauge interest. Start with a simple observation about the cafe you’re in, and go from there.
Truthfully, you're just looking to open a conversation and gauge interest. Start with a simple observation about the cafe you’re in, and go from there.
The most important part is to just overcome your own fear. Remember that it’s no big deal. She’s just a person. And the really cool thing is that, even though it doesn't feel like it in the moment, you're risking very little to potentially gain a lot.
So what if she rejects you? You'll feel embarrassed for a little, and then you'll get on with your day. No big deal.
But what if she likes you? What if you ask her out and she says yes? What if you two end up getting married and spending your whole lives together? It’s beyond worth it to risk a bit of temporary rejection to get the chance at building an incredible relationship. Remind yourself of this, take a deep breath, then just go talk to her!
So what if she rejects you? You'll feel embarrassed for a little, and then you'll get on with your day. No big deal.
But what if she likes you? What if you ask her out and she says yes? What if you two end up getting married and spending your whole lives together? It’s beyond worth it to risk a bit of temporary rejection to get the chance at building an incredible relationship. Remind yourself of this, take a deep breath, then just go talk to her!
Chat, did you even read the steps above? You just need confidence! Call her pwincess and see if she needs an alpha! Always works chat and hope this helped!
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Bruh
i lost so many brain cells listening to this absolute bs. PLEASE don't listen to this guy OP, he's plotting your downfall fr 😭🙏🏽
WHAT
Dont be cheesy or anything, be like you, be nice to her, compliment her, but dont be creepy and say something like "where do you live" all of a sudden, if she feels comfortable, just ask her lil personal stuff like "whats your name?" but do be sure to stop after few minutes.
And flirt her
i see this girl everyday and she always acts shy around me and i was wondering if you guys could help me. How do i have fun with her? and How can i get her to talk more because she is shy?
Ask her questions about herself. Tell her a joke. Ask her what she does In her spare time. Find a common ground maybe ask her to a movie.
I have a question sir what type of jokes are woman mainly into
1. Dress well and groom yourself
2. Make sure you have no visible boogers or bad breath.
3. Smell good, but don't overdo it.
4. Stand tall with shoulders back and chest out....even if you're short.
5. Make eye contact & smile. Gaze, but don't stare.
6. If she smiles, looks away, then looks back and smiles, she is definitely interested.
7. Introduce yourself and offer your hand. (Make sure your hand is warm)
8. If she blushes, she's interested.
9. If she turns her body to you; specifically her feet, she is attracted.
10. If she laughs at anything you say, especially if it's not particularly funny, she is interested.
11. Always turn the conversation to get her to talk about herself.
12. Resist the temptation to talk about yourself.
13. Never, ever appear desperate or lonely. A woman can smell it a mile away.
2. Make sure you have no visible boogers or bad breath.
3. Smell good, but don't overdo it.
4. Stand tall with shoulders back and chest out....even if you're short.
5. Make eye contact & smile. Gaze, but don't stare.
6. If she smiles, looks away, then looks back and smiles, she is definitely interested.
7. Introduce yourself and offer your hand. (Make sure your hand is warm)
8. If she blushes, she's interested.
9. If she turns her body to you; specifically her feet, she is attracted.
10. If she laughs at anything you say, especially if it's not particularly funny, she is interested.
11. Always turn the conversation to get her to talk about herself.
12. Resist the temptation to talk about yourself.
13. Never, ever appear desperate or lonely. A woman can smell it a mile away.
Corny ones I think but i'm not the expert.
walk up to her and say "hi."
This is straight aura
i just use pick-up lins. always work!
bro just need confidence MN
say hey are you a skibidi sigma cuz you are rizz sigma
Dress or act in an attractive way. That should get the girl's attention.
i am to scared to ask my crush for her phone number
Just Say: Can we exchange numbers so we could chat after school?
Of course,this only works if you know her already.
If not,just start with simple convos or eye contact!
Of course,this only works if you know her already.
If not,just start with simple convos or eye contact!
A girl stares at me sometimes, and bc we have choir, she asked my sister if I would like to join. Is that a hint that she likes me?
yes
softly knock over her drink and offer to buy another one for her but then ask her out after and say some rizzy lines (you can find some on rizzgle).
go to her and just kiss her
Please dont
What do I do? There’s a seventh grade boy I really like. We’re both shy. He shows interest in me, but I don’t know what to do
Just talk to him more and really establish a good relationship with him. Eventually, y'all will open up to each other.
fr no cap always works if u want a good black eye and no future children
Ngl this made me die laughing
Same with me a school
Same bro
You can choose to make the first move if you are courageous
I don't even half to try. They come to me.
well that's not helpful
there's this girl I like that I dated but we broke up how do I get her to like me again?
You don't, move on buddy.
Does she like you?
u need to be confident and look hot
man up and talk to her
Honestly though. You need to look good, and confident, and I wouldn't use PICKUP LINES! I'm a girl and I HATE them so much.
Oh. My. God. I am a girl and i HATE pickup lines!!! i dont even know why guys bother using them. the girl will just think that ur immature and teasing her. it ruins the relationship more than you would think. CONFIDENCE IS KEY and good luck! <3
Me too. One time a boy walked up to me at school and said "are you a pizza because mmmm you look goood" and I was kinda scared after that
I'm lost. Can you give me directions to your heart?
BOOOOOOO
I want to make a boy like me, but he called me ugly and I said well your strong and handsome, SEE WE CAN BOTH LIE!!!
Then he started blushing
Then he started blushing
rizz her up ;)
you got to walk up to her and ask for her number rizzingly and say you gat a gyatt fr fr.
dont do that
I have a boy I really like- What do I do?
Just chillax and act cool
Do you tried talk with him already?
Try walking up to her and saying hi then tell her your name and ask for hers then just continue the conversation then become friends and hope she'll start to like you bzckw
I would be staring at a sexy looking man and if he comes over to my table and leans close to me... I would think about it for YEARS
rizz her up bro get that thang
Just earn serious money, get fit, be confident, be great at starting out conversations and try and find out what she is into, e.g. harry porter and tennis. Watch all harry porter movies, study all characters and their characteristics. Learn tennis watch iconic tennis tournaments and study all tennis players. You'll be able to talk about her interests for hours and you or her can invite you to watch tennis games, that will automatically be a date. Take a therapy course online so you can make her feel better when times are though.
Be sexy.
A tip that you will thank me for go to another cafe and forget her trust me i tried a girl on cafe she was like regular customer but it was an oof but I got one when studing focus on your dream and your dream girl will come after even if not then you deserve better and will get better now I am an successful buissness man I have like tow girl lingering and pestering me even tho they know that I have a gf and am engaged with her a . Have a successful life bro.
get some rizz bag
lil bro needs to get their rizz up
lil bro needs to get their rizz up
Just smile at her. The more you see her, up your game a little more, like a wink. Eventually, just walk up to her when she's not doing anything and strike up a conversation. Be sure to compliment her, and don't be afraid!
Wow! This is so cool! I Got tons of rizz, so I went up to a girl I keep seeing a scored a date! Thanks Wikihow!
your cooked chat
I am a chubbier kid in high school and I have a crush on a girl that likes my best friend.what do I do?
Give up....
No seriously now get over her and focus on urself, get fit, try to work a small side hustle (ex:online service is a good option) , if she's into ur friend she's most likely not into u
No seriously now get over her and focus on urself, get fit, try to work a small side hustle (ex:online service is a good option) , if she's into ur friend she's most likely not into u
I am a chubbier kid that has a crush on a girl but she doesn't like me because I'm chubbier and she likes my best friend.What do I do?
give up. or study really hard and become smart in a certain area, its about whats on the inside and if you're a good person and she cant see that she don't deserve it. you could try losing weight but it shouldn't be about that. Also if she starts dating ur fren be careful.
Be polite to people around you, preferably, bring a friend with you and try and catch her attention with a conversation that you can your friend are having. If you are feeling confident, offer to buy her a coffee or whatever she drinks/eats at the cafe. I wish you luck with this mysterious cafe girl.
studying is pretty attractive on its own. Shows that you're trying also make eye contact and smile if she doesn't smile back you either suck at smiling or she dosen't feel your rizz
i have a girl at my school that i have a crush on and she knows. what do i do
I got a girl and I want her to the dance but she dosint want to, what do I do
Well, I don’t exactly know, but there’s a really cute 7th grade boy in my grade named Shane. I want him to see me for who I am, but I don’t know how to. Does anyone have suggestions?
There is a really cute boy in my seventh grade class and I want him to see me for who I am, but I don’t know how to do that. I think he might be interested, but I’m too nervous to ask. Me and him are both shy, so we don’t really talk to each other. What should I do?
get to know her before making any moves
how can I rizz up my crush when I cant talk to him without stumbling around
I am a girl and if I would want a boy to be nice and caring. Also never make fun of someones body shape or be racist or disrespectful. Also never act like she is not capable. DON'T LISTEN TO STEREOTYPES. Not all girls like makeup or things that you would expect according to stereotypes. Find out who she really is not who she makes herself seem. Thank you for reading all of this sorry its long.
Bro I got so much rizz my crush should be drooling rn
i found out im the rizziest of them all
just say hi
maybe keep making eye contact see if she looks back if she does its a good sign for you to maybe go up to her maybe sit with her if she's alone and compliment her and ask her about herself if she matches your energy your good to go if not maybe leave her alone and admire from afar. good luck
Say hi
you should SO talk to her!! don't be afraid, sometimes all a girl wants is someone to talk to her, even if she doesn't like u back shell probably be really thankfully for u talking to her. u got this u wont be awkward
Why do I need a pick up line when I'm trying to pick you up at nine?
You should just ask her out
slowly approach her and compliment her hair, bag, or face girls love it when they do that
i like a boy but i dont know if he likes me back what do i do
As a girl, I'd say take it slow. Be subtle; don't go too fast. Take small steps so you don't intimidate her.
don't touch her
What if she ignores you?
maybe become really good friends with her, like studying with her at the cafe! Then try to impress her
I feel the same way about a classmate. He's really cute, but I don't know if I could ever talk to him. I'm too bland and boring. We've only texted and I always initiate the conversation, so I know he doesn't like me back, but I need a way to intrigue him and make him think I am interesting.
lit bro you just gotta lock in, it aint deep bro, if you fail you fail and move on
If she engages in conversation, show interest by listening actively and asking follow-up questions.
“Do you come here often to study? Seems like a chill spot for it.”
“Do you come here often to study? Seems like a chill spot for it.”
Hello, I am an 8th grader and have one class with this girl that I like, we also both volunteer at the thrift store close by and we both know each other but I feel like every time I talk to her I get nowhere. Please help and give advice, I will take any advice whether it's harsh or not. (for ex. "you're too young")
Hi I am in 8th grade and I like this girl in one of my classes, she knows who I am but everytime I talk to her I feel like I'm getting nowhere. We both volunteer at the thrift shop near our school, but she rarely shows up. Please give me some advice, I will take anything. Thanks.
just act like you don't notice her
Is she also a regular at the cafe? Is she also studying? If so, these give you a few opportunities to strike up a conversation with her. You can ask her about what she's drinking or what she usually orders and frame it in a way that you're interested in learning about what's good on the menu. You can also try to ask her about what she's working on or, if you're feeling daring, ask if you could share a table with her. The sharing the table strategy works if the cafe is particularly crowded or if you explain to her that you tend to work better when you're working in parallel with someone. Good luck!
There is this girl at my school who I like but already has a boyfriend. Could I use rizz for her to like me more?
Get her to notice you, be kind, offer her a coffee, she'll totes like u. I should know, i'm a girl...
Ngl, it's getting rarer and rarer for people to go up to other people and strike up a conversation or try to ask them out. You'll have to assess if the vibe is right for you to try and rizz her up or if you'll just come across as creepy. Also, be careful about approaching her while she's settled in at her table. Since you'd be coming into her space, she doesn't really have an easy out if she wants to cut off the conversation. If you're able, try to engage with her when she's just coming or just leaving the coffee shop so it's easy for her to break off the conversation if she's not interested. To strike up a conversation, maybe reference something around you (like a fun seasonal item on the menu) or pay her a nice compliment (NOT about her body. Maybe about an accessory).
Most conversations start easily depending on the situation. If you are at a party, you can talk about the party. If you are at a concert or sports game, comment on the music or the game. If you are at a bar or museum, you can comment on the drinks or the art. Sounds like you're at a cafe, so you can strike up a conversation about the drinks.
Of course there are the usual conversation topics of where you are from, what do you do, etc. The next level would be what do you like to do for fun, passions, hobbies, etc. Places you have been, interests you want to pursue, skills to improve on, etc. There are so many topics, so conversation should feel easy. If you are shy, that’s ok, but the important thing is for the conversation to not be lopsided. One side can’t be feeling they are talking too much or too little, or asking all the questions or being asked all the questions.
Staying in touch is great, but usually it is better to have a specific intention when bringing up exchanging contact information. For example if you went to a pickup soccer game, you can suggest to stay in touch and let each other know next time you intend to play a game. Or if you went to a concert or museum meetup and you connected with someone, you can suggest meeting up again for those or similar activities, so there is an explicit purpose to exchanging contact info. Also if you are new to a city, you can just flat out say that you’re new here and looking to hang out doing a variety of things, and most people will understand the process of settling down and growing a social circle, or the wish to meet new people beyond your usual friends. Maybe in this case, you can ask to set up a study date.
Of course there are the usual conversation topics of where you are from, what do you do, etc. The next level would be what do you like to do for fun, passions, hobbies, etc. Places you have been, interests you want to pursue, skills to improve on, etc. There are so many topics, so conversation should feel easy. If you are shy, that’s ok, but the important thing is for the conversation to not be lopsided. One side can’t be feeling they are talking too much or too little, or asking all the questions or being asked all the questions.
Staying in touch is great, but usually it is better to have a specific intention when bringing up exchanging contact information. For example if you went to a pickup soccer game, you can suggest to stay in touch and let each other know next time you intend to play a game. Or if you went to a concert or museum meetup and you connected with someone, you can suggest meeting up again for those or similar activities, so there is an explicit purpose to exchanging contact info. Also if you are new to a city, you can just flat out say that you’re new here and looking to hang out doing a variety of things, and most people will understand the process of settling down and growing a social circle, or the wish to meet new people beyond your usual friends. Maybe in this case, you can ask to set up a study date.
This may be a little bold, but if you see her regularly at a cafe, maybe you can observe what she likes to order and buy her a coffee one day? Like if she always orders a mocha, buy a mocha for her and introduce yourself! If the cafe sells baked goods, then getting a little treat too can help sweeten the deal (no pun intended) :)
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