Help, I have a crush on my best friend!

WikiBirdWatcher823
07/01/24 7:22am
How do I handle having a crush on my best friend? I think she’s amazing, and we do everything together. But I don’t know if she feels the same way, and I’m really scared of ruining things.

wikiHow Expert
John Keegan
John Keegan
Dating Coach
07/01/24 1:43pm
This is a tough situation to be in. The best thing to do when you have a crush on your best friend is find out if they feel the same way. Sometimes great friends really do become great lovers.

Eventually, you want to be able to directly say, "You know what, I think I'm starting to feel something for you." But it’s better to be more subtle at first to get a sense of where they're at. For example, when you're hanging out, lean in close to their ear and whisper something funny or tell them that they look great. Just feel their vibes, and see if you can start to create some heat. At some point, you'll have to ask yourself, "Is it worth ruining the friendship we have for me to take this risk?" And if the answer is yes, then you have to do it.

You can try gradually moving towards more physical interactions by subtly doing things like saying "Let's hug," or leaning in and kissing their cheeks like you're in France. See if it feels like something's happening, if that person wants to meet you where you're at. It's very subtle, and you don't have to deal go over the top.

If it seems like they're being receptive, that can be the time to say, "I'm really starting to feel like there's something more between us" or "Maybe I'm crazy, but I feel like there's something more between us, and maybe we should explore it."

But first, I would just initiate light physical escalation and read the signs you receive.
Anonymous WikiCloud
Anonymous WikiCloud
11/01/24 5:49pm
yes I feel the same way because I have a best friend and I really like her a lot and I can't resit it but she knows it already I don't about me kissing her on the cheek and also she said that we can have something in future but I don't when that is what should I do since I still have a crush on her...
Anonymous WikiFlamingo
Anonymous WikiFlamingo
11/15/24 11:35pm
Go for it dude! be confident!
WikiNarwhalCaster234
12/02/24 11:49pm
U are right
Anonymous WikiDolphin
Anonymous WikiDolphin
12/04/24 3:41pm
real, go for it!!!! you both would be happy
Anonymous WikiOwl
Anonymous WikiOwl
11/09/24 2:18am
You have really helped me
D greenwood
11/13/24 1:33am
I think we should keep moving on
WikiToadReader431
11/17/24 8:32pm
What do you do if you dont see her that often? I just went to the next grade, and now we go to different schools.
Thepansexualonelol
12/07/24 4:06am
The friend that I have a crush on is going to a different highschool, (we just finished primary school) but we're really good friends and have each other's number, and I really don't know if she likes me. I feel like if I told her it would make things awkward between us. Any advice? WHAT DO I DO???
Anonymous WikiTapir
Anonymous WikiTapir
12/15/24 1:10am
try seeing if she likes you back but I think it would be worse if she finds out by herself
Anonymous WikiButterfly
Anonymous WikiButterfly
12/20/24 12:30pm
exact same situation just that we will finish in july an i am the girl
WikiTapirDancer529
12/18/24 10:25pm
Well I only get to see my bf for a week each year b/c we live so far away from each other
Anonymous WikiLemur
Anonymous WikiLemur
11/22/24 10:21am
I like this idea of yours

I lose my co workers friend i didnt quickly notice all the hug in public and in private. She is always happy to talk about anything with me even what is going on in are family.

Our boss staring noticing this and calling her if we are in relationship because they always see the happiness in her anytime she see me.

After some month she told me she want to resign and she did.

Bot together am regretting all the crush and love she have for me .

Now i am missing her so much
Anonymous WikiMongoose
Anonymous WikiMongoose
12/03/24 9:02pm
Do you have her number? if so, call her! she will probs be happy to talk w/ you! If not, ask ur boss if he has her phone number.
WikiPlumJammer865
07/02/24 9:55pm
Hey man, I went through the same thing, and it’s rough. My advice is to just talk to her. Tell her how you feel, and be clear that you both value her as a friend and as more. You don't want to make her think the friendship was a ploy to sleep with her.

I went through this with one of my friends, and things were weird for a couple days (she didn't feel the same as me). But we had some really good, honest conversations, and afterwards I actually felt like our friendship was stronger. I wasn't hiding this thing from her anymore, and, if we could talk about this, then clearly we could talk about anything.

So just be open with her, and make sure you're okay with staying friends if she doesn't feel the same. You got this!
WikiAxolotlKeeper265
11/09/24 7:33am
chat boys actually have feelings????? im a girl and theres this guy likee hfbhrfwhbhjfbhwjrgfvhewhjegv yk and hes giving mixed signals, we are constantly hugging and stuff but sometimes hes just dry, but he does give me sweet compliments and always comforts me when im feeling down. I'm curious to see from your perspective bc ur a guy i think so yeaa
Anonymous WikiBadger
Anonymous WikiBadger
11/14/24 8:33am
Omg same. I have this fren who's a guy n he teases me ALOT, but also sometimes kinda sweet. Came here too to see from a guy's perspective cos I was bored and why not??...
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Anonymous WikiEagle
Anonymous WikiEagle
12/06/24 8:59am
Go for it, ask him out, he may like you sooo much, he'll dump his bff and date u instead, but he dont wanna confess!
Anonymous WikiCapybara
Anonymous WikiCapybara
11/17/24 12:02am
sameeeeeeeeeee!!!! i have no idea what to do with this, because i've liked this boy for like a year and a half and he told me he doesn't like me but that was last year, and now he's acting really overprotective when i hint at having a new crush. i have no clue what to do here!!
Scensora
11/23/24 6:08am
The next time he does that, tease him about being overprotective and observe his reaction. If he's like, hey or no, tease him more lol
IAmMe
12/19/24 11:38am
Yeah, just be like "what, do you like me or something??" in a playful kind of way.
Hope this helps
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Anonymous WikiMongoose
Anonymous WikiMongoose
12/03/24 9:05pm
BROOOOOOO i envy uuuuuu i dont know if my crush even still likes me we started liking each other in about 3rd grade but now shes saying things like "I can see why people think we still like each other." Any advice??? pls i need help im gonna have a mental breakdown if i dont knowwwwww
Anonymous WikiEagle
Anonymous WikiEagle
12/06/24 9:02am
Ask him out if you like like him, and im libra too!!
WikiAxolotlKeeper265
11/26/24 6:03am
girl he probably likes u. start playfully teasing him about being overprotective, say something like "aw u wish u were him" and see how he reacts, it should be clear if he likes u
Anonymous WikiEagle
Anonymous WikiEagle
12/06/24 8:59am
Ask him out 1 more time!!
Anonymous WikiButterfly
Anonymous WikiButterfly
12/20/24 12:35pm
go for it i was in he same situation and he confessed to me that he liked me
Anonymous WikiButterfly
Anonymous WikiButterfly
11/30/24 1:01am
He MIGHT like you girll
Anonymous WikiMist
Anonymous WikiMist
12/04/24 5:09pm
YAS GURL
Anonymous WikiButterfly
Anonymous WikiButterfly
11/30/24 1:01am
test the waters a little bit, see if he will do couple things with you.
WikiAxolotlKeeper265
12/04/24 8:11am
examples? also he held my hand sooooo and he said he missed me but idk some days hes a bit dry
Anonymous WikiEagle
Anonymous WikiEagle
12/06/24 8:57am
Gurlllll, im a girl but i have advice, ask him if he thinks you'r pretty, if he says yes or some thing better, and you looooooove him or smth like that ask him out!!!! Im sure he wont regect!!!
wikiHow Expert
Laura Bilotta
Laura Bilotta
Dating Coach & Matchmaker
07/02/24 9:58pm
If you talk to your friend and she doesn't feel the same as you, a little bit of distance can work wonders to help you heal. Keep in contact with your friend, but have less contact than before.

Don't make a big deal of it. You don't want to go around telling everyone or feel angry about the rejection. It is important to remember how the friendship was before you developed this crush.

If you have to, stop looking at their social media accounts for the time being. Talk it out with them so no one is left feeling awkward, and then commit to letting it go. Allow yourself to grieve and get over it. That could happen by creating a bit of space.

It could mean taking a few weeks or a month off of seeing them, but this could be best for both of you in the long run. Focus on other activities and on yourself, get back to doing things you love, and learn how to just be a friend again to this person.
Anonymous WikiCassowary
Anonymous WikiCassowary
10/26/24 9:55pm
What if my relationship with my best friend is already very complicated. Should I tell and risk the friendship or just keep it on normal terms.
Anonymous WikiLynx
Anonymous WikiLynx
11/26/24 10:11pm
tell them how you feel but look for the signals
Anonymous WikiFlamingo
Anonymous WikiFlamingo
10/26/24 10:03pm
I have a crush on my best friend but it's confusing because I know she's gay too but she always hangs around her gay friends a lot. But I think she flirts with me too and I can't really tell because she's just a very positive and touchy person in general.
Anonymous WikiPanda
Anonymous WikiPanda
10/29/24 10:13pm
Do NOTHING unless you are ok with risking the loss of the friendship. Best advice out there. At the end of the day though, if it hurts too much to be around her BECAUSE you have feelings that go beyond friendship then perhaps the risk is worth it. If it's a no from her than you can lick your wounds, move on and heal. At the end of the day, you can't really be friends if you wouldn't be happy seeing her date someone else.
Anonymous WikiToad
Anonymous WikiToad
11/05/24 12:24am
put a note at her desk telling her to meet up somware private and tell her how u feel if she shows up that's how I got my first girl it works
Anonymous WikiButterfly
Anonymous WikiButterfly
11/30/24 1:03am
it might work, but it depends on what grade you are in
Anonymous WikiCave
Anonymous WikiCave
11/07/24 9:40pm
Same thing happened to me you just have to tell her and respect her feelings
Anonymous WikiGorilla
Anonymous WikiGorilla
11/08/24 12:36am
This could be hard. I think most of you people answering are guys, but my bff had a crush on me. I completely flipped when I heard it. I didn't them, after they were still so nice to me I developed feelings for him. So basically, just spit it out, but be casual, say "Hey Sam(whatever her name is), I have to tell you something" don't say it too fast, once she gives eye contact to you just come in a little closer don't say anything just slightly touch her hand, if she pulls away just focus on being a good friend for her, if she is confused just bring your lips closer to her, she would probably figure you like her if she pushes back that means she needs space. *remember move slow*. If you can tell she is uncomfortable of confused say "I like you" softly *Only say this if you are questioning that if she likes you or not. If she seems like she likes you kiss her. If she get's mad at you for kissing her, PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE! DO NOT crack a joke or avoid it. Or be like "Oh, i thought you were someone else" and run off. Be open, "Um...Sam I've been meaning to tell you, and I am sorry". Give her some space but show her that you are worth it. When she starts opening up to you remind her you are sorry but don't make it awkward, if you usually put your hand around her shoulder do it again, don't make it awkward.
Backup
11/10/24 1:34am
You shouldn't just bring your lips closer to her. My friends ex-bff did that and it traumatized my friend forever.
Anonymous WikiMongoose
Anonymous WikiMongoose
11/12/24 6:56am
Good job
Anonymous WikiFlamingo
Anonymous WikiFlamingo
11/08/24 4:10pm
I have this cruch on a guy i dont know too well, But everything says he likes me back. How do i aproch him without ruining our friendship?
WikiEmuGlider589
11/15/24 5:35am
What I do whenever I like someone, I make one of my willing friends tell them that "someone" Likes them. Last Year one of my friends did that. It really helped. Or you can slip him/her a note.
Anonymous WikiWombat
Anonymous WikiWombat
11/08/24 9:05pm
I did this test for someone in my school. I am clueless if she likes me? What should i do
Anonymous WikiMist
Anonymous WikiMist
11/08/24 10:59pm
It’s fine just tell her you like her like 👍🏻
Anonymous WikiOwl
Anonymous WikiOwl
11/09/24 2:14am
Me too
Anonymous WikiTapir
Anonymous WikiTapir
11/09/24 2:35pm
If she really was ur best friend, she wouldn’t ruin the friendship because of you confessing ,go for it❗️
Anonymous WikiPanda
Anonymous WikiPanda
11/10/24 8:37am
Me Too! The best thing to is break it to them slowly,I think they will get the hint that way
Anonymous WikiCheetah
Anonymous WikiCheetah
11/11/24 2:28am
what if it's an online friend that I really know ?
Anonymous WikiLynx
Anonymous WikiLynx
11/26/24 10:16pm
do you really know this person? they could be pretending to be someone you trust they could be an old man o smth stay safe!
Anonymous WikiFox
Anonymous WikiFox
11/11/24 8:08am
Idk if my friend likes me. She likes me as a "Close friend" not as a "Best friend".
Anonymous WikiGlade
Anonymous WikiGlade
11/11/24 1:29pm
observe her and as her whats her type .be carefull
Anonymous WikiLemming
Anonymous WikiLemming
11/12/24 2:08am
I am dating my crush...
Anonymous WikiOwl
Anonymous WikiOwl
11/16/24 3:00am
Great for you! :)
Thepansexualonelol
12/07/24 4:17am
Omg lucky
Scensora
12/17/24 11:27pm
Lucky! Congrats!
Anonymous WikiMongoose
Anonymous WikiMongoose
11/12/24 6:55am
Kiss her
Anonymous WikiToad
Anonymous WikiToad
11/25/24 3:57am
Don't! Kissing is only for people who like each other. Make sure SHE LOVES you before you try that!
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Thepansexualonelol
12/07/24 4:18am
Yea
D greenwood
11/13/24 1:32am
It is almost impossible for me to trying to not be obsessed and being engaged to one of other
Anonymous WikiNarwhal
Anonymous WikiNarwhal
11/13/24 6:34pm
i have a crush on my first girlfriends best friend, but i'm unsure if she likes me back. she talkes to me a lot, and she stares at me sometimes. what do you guys think?
Anonymous WikiFerret
Anonymous WikiFerret
11/15/24 6:43am
This has happened to me before! You'll need to tell personally alone I wish u the BEST OF LUCK👍
Anonymous WikiToad
Anonymous WikiToad
11/25/24 3:58am
Shrug of the shoulders. Maybe come straight out and ask her?
Anonymous WikiFawn
Anonymous WikiFawn
11/14/24 9:52am
Same! But we have activities weekly together for 1h and we chat everyday but it's just short chats... He's pretty cyuuuuute! Everyone and I mean EVERYONE ships us together but we always deny which one article here said not to... Hellppp!
Anonymous WikiTiger
Anonymous WikiTiger
11/19/24 3:32am
Same thing is happening to me rn!!
Scensora
12/11/24 11:53am
Bro same situation with me and my crush!!! We talk loads in class, and everyone ships us and keeps asking me and my crush are dating, and if we would date each other. We both decline it and tell them that it's a friend thing, but I actually don't know if my crush likes me back. This crush compared to my past crushes is different. We do have fun convos, but it's his kindness and helpfulness towards me and the way he cares that draws him to me, since no one ever does that to me. He says that he's emotionless and that he fake smiles and fake laughs, but I still like to create happy moments with him anyways, since I like seeing him smile and laugh. Also, I texted him that if he wanted to, we could hangout during the holidays, and he replied with 'Sure I would love to' I was going all crazy inside yo, I was so excited!
Anyways, to help your case, you could subtly give hints that you like him, or you can spend more time with him one-on-one together outside of school and those weekly activities you have with him. Start to get to know him, after all, if you have a crush on someone, you'd be naturally interested to learn more about them. However, if you wanna confess, maybe you can write a love letter and slip it into his locker, it is up to you if you wanna keep it anonymous or not. Or you could just go out and tell him privately. It doesn't have to be long or sappy, but it's best to just cut straight to the point. Simple and sweet. If he rejects you, then just smile and say something like, "Ah, that's alright, I just wanted you to know. Have a nice day." It'll hurt at the start, but remember that he just doesn't deserve you. However, if he feels the same way, that's great! You two can progress with your relationship.
Hope this helps, and best of luck to you!
Anonymous WikiLion
Anonymous WikiLion
11/14/24 10:03pm
i kinda feel like i like this person but idk it is like a realllly small crush
Anonymous WikiOwl
Anonymous WikiOwl
11/14/24 10:49pm
What if I have a crush on a grade 9 and I'm a grade 8
Anonymous WikiLlama
Anonymous WikiLlama
11/15/24 5:09am
I have a giant crush on a boy in my school! we used to be extremley close last year and went trick or treating together last year, her also invited me this year! Dose he like me?
Anonymous WikiFerret
Anonymous WikiFerret
11/15/24 6:39am
Ive already dated like ten people before but me and this love of my life I literally can't imagine not thinking about her!!🤔😍😘😎🤗🙂😋😁😗🤐
Anonymous WikiFerret
Anonymous WikiFerret
11/15/24 6:40am
I can feel that! You'll need to personally confront her about this. ALONE
Anonymous WikiBird
Anonymous WikiBird
11/15/24 7:07am
This can be tough🚸 you'll need help
Anonymous WikiGibbon
Anonymous WikiGibbon
11/15/24 7:35pm
I have a crush on my best friend and unfortunately, he is dating someone who is non-binary. I am extremely jealous of them and only want my best friend to myself. I tried telling him by writing a letter, but he didn't see it. I'm afraid to talk to him about it.
Anonymous WikiTapir
Anonymous WikiTapir
11/15/24 10:34pm
HELP I AM INTERESTED IN 3 PEOPLE. one of them is definitely platonic, and she's straight too, one of them will never happen because he's older than me, and the last one is very complicated. all of my friends and family members say he likes me and he does act different around me but i dont know how to make moves. any advice?
Anonymous WikiCassowary
Anonymous WikiCassowary
11/17/24 12:32am
Think about it. Are you okay with being just friends. Does it hurt if you cant be more than friends. Is your friend dating anyone? Is your friend straight, gay, or Bi. Do you think she might like you back? Think about it and from me I believe in you. You can get her! Just try your best, and if for some reason it doesn't work out remember, it's okay to grief and there's more fish in the sea!
Anonymous WikiDesert
Anonymous WikiDesert
11/17/24 2:39pm
sleuth around to see if she acts the same way
take the quiz, it is quite accurate
Anonymous WikiDesert
Anonymous WikiDesert
11/17/24 2:42pm
so...
what if i feel that my good friend has a crush on me?
Anonymous WikiValley
Anonymous WikiValley
11/17/24 3:46pm
Just tell her your feelings. If she liked you back that's great, if she doesn't just continue being best friends, and move on.
Anonymous WikiPanda
Anonymous WikiPanda
11/17/24 8:22pm
You should tell her how you feel
WikiMistWhisperer550
11/17/24 9:41pm
How do I control my emotions better
Anonymous WikiOcelot
Anonymous WikiOcelot
11/18/24 5:56am
trust me....im a girl and won't like if my best friend crushing on me. So just don't tell her anything abt this.
WikiGorillaCaster655
11/18/24 10:17am
Exactly what I have too
Anonymous WikiIbis
Anonymous WikiIbis
11/18/24 2:32pm
That can be hard, but living in fear will only make you two grow more distant. Talk with her more, see if she's interested in anybody. When you tell her, make sure the mood is right and the atmosphere is comfortable.
Anonymous WikiCave
Anonymous WikiCave
11/18/24 2:35pm
Just look at how she acts with you. Maybe she blushes around you or smm. Also take the test (does she like me) see what you get
Anonymous WikiGlade
Anonymous WikiGlade
11/18/24 2:52pm
Ask her to go out. If she says yes then probably she likes you
Anonymous WikiEmu
Anonymous WikiEmu
11/18/24 9:42pm
Damn bro I mean ask them out before a holiday/break so even if they say no they’ll probably forget about it
Anonymous WikiIbis
Anonymous WikiIbis
11/18/24 9:44pm
I have intentions to female friends
Anonymous WikiEagle
Anonymous WikiEagle
11/19/24 1:18am
I wish I had something helpful to say, but I'm in the same boat with you
Anonymous WikiCassowary
Anonymous WikiCassowary
11/19/24 9:58pm
speak to her and ask her your crush see if she says something or not
Anonymous WikiBadger
Anonymous WikiBadger
11/20/24 3:09pm
How do i tell them? Pls help me out here!
Anonymous WikiOcelot
Anonymous WikiOcelot
11/20/24 5:24pm
Tell her but start with smt like "Hey I wanna tell you smt but I dont want to make this akward or ruin our friendship" her\him"what" you" I kinda have crush on you for .......... Long .



Dont worry if she doesnt feel tge same way
Anonymous WikiRiver
Anonymous WikiRiver
11/21/24 7:26am
that's what I have
Anonymous WikiGibbon
Anonymous WikiGibbon
11/21/24 12:43pm
Hi I need ur help so my crush thinks I’m obsessed cause people are making it seem like that and now he has a gf so I don’t know what to do and nobody likes me
Anonymous WikiCave
Anonymous WikiCave
11/21/24 1:13pm
Hey bro just me i never felt that way but my best friend did and so she just found a time we were alone and said it i rejected her because we were in fourth grade at the time and yea it did ruin things just a bit but then we were fine so i say tell em how you feel.
Anonymous WikiFawn
Anonymous WikiFawn
11/21/24 1:40pm
my girl loves me what do I say
Anonymous WikiWombat
Anonymous WikiWombat
11/22/24 1:31pm
ask her if she likes anyone or thinks anyones attractive, maybe flirt with her see how she acts does she get uncomfortable or is amused. make sure to prioritie her and if you find out she does like you make sure you both are ready to commit and ready to transform your friendship into a relationship.
Anonymous WikiRiver
Anonymous WikiRiver
11/23/24 8:59pm
I say you should try to tell her!! She might feel the same way, and your crush knowing about your feelings might make u feel better about the situation!
Anonymous WikiIbis
Anonymous WikiIbis
11/24/24 12:54am
idk if i have a crush on my best friend like when she messes with my hair im really nervous but that’s what best friend do right?
Anonymous WikiFox
Anonymous WikiFox
11/24/24 2:23am
Guys helpppp. I'm really confused about my feelings right now but there is this one guy who is really nice to me. I thought he liked me ages ago and always think he's flirting, but then the next second he's talking to other girls and they're saying the same! I don't want to like him cause he's like that, but it feels like he's treating me differently. Probably not though but I don't know what to do. Should I make a move or something? He's just always jumping from girl to girl - is he a player or something??!
Anonymous WikiCapybara
Anonymous WikiCapybara
11/24/24 11:41pm
My crush knows that I like him but everything is the same before he knew I liked him
Anonymous WikiMist
Anonymous WikiMist
11/25/24 2:53pm
I am dating my best friend but its confusing to me and I honestly just need advice
Anonymous WikiNarwhal
Anonymous WikiNarwhal
11/25/24 5:09pm
Don't worry too much about it. Just tell her, and if she doesn't feel the same ask her if you can still be friends (without it being weird)
Anonymous WikiCapybara
Anonymous WikiCapybara
11/26/24 12:32am
you got this good luck!
Anonymous WikiMongoose
Anonymous WikiMongoose
11/26/24 5:35am
my crush wants to be my friend and also more and that scares me somehow
Anonymous WikiTapir
Anonymous WikiTapir
11/26/24 3:38pm
Just be there for her. Show her you care about her well-being. Above all, be yourself. Things usually work out for the better if you're being the best you can be.
Anonymous WikiCloud
Anonymous WikiCloud
11/28/24 1:07am
my bestfriend is aroace and doesnt experience attraction. and I think I like her. its so hard bc ik she will never like me back.what do I do
Anonymous WikiKangaroo
Anonymous WikiKangaroo
11/28/24 3:20am
omg! for the test I got "Your love potential is 100%." i know we are alike but what????! omggggggggggggggggggggg also he is my neighbor! im to shy around him tho....
Anonymous WikiTapir
Anonymous WikiTapir
11/28/24 3:42am
I got 100% but I'm still unsure. how can I trust this one quiz? idk
Anonymous WikiButterfly
Anonymous WikiButterfly
11/30/24 1:00am
Ok, I have been through this same thing. But plot twist I am the opposite, my best friend had a crush on me. At the time, I didn't like him. But know it is a different story. Never loose hope, and just if you mean that much to her she will want to keep you in her life. Trust me.
Anonymous WikiCaribou
Anonymous WikiCaribou
12/01/24 7:24am
I agree with the note idea ;3
Anonymous WikiAxolotl
Anonymous WikiAxolotl
12/01/24 2:36pm
Tell her once you have gotten enough signs and when you ask her tell her its okay if not and i hope this doesn't ruin our friendship.
Emerson Faraday
12/02/24 10:00pm
If you've been friends for a long time, I think you should definitely just talk to her about it. Be clear, be honest, and be bold.
Anonymous WikiFawn
Anonymous WikiFawn
12/02/24 11:02pm
IDK if my bestie likes me back. I just love her so much! I am a lesbian demisexual after all...
Anonymous WikiValley
Anonymous WikiValley
12/03/24 5:55pm
you should go for it slowly and subtly and see if she is giving you the I want the be something more then friends vibe the best way to find out is to see how she reacts when you talk to other girls if she is jealous then you should consider making a move-be like percabeth
btw I am suggesting this from a fiction book but it seems foolproof enough
Anonymous WikiMongoose
Anonymous WikiMongoose
12/03/24 8:59pm
Honestly, just ask her. This has worked for people i know, but honestly im a hypocrite cuz i havent even asked my crush out myself... well if she says no, just try to keep it together.
Anonymous WikiCave
Anonymous WikiCave
12/03/24 9:40pm
try to impress her and if you feel confident enough over time then tell her your feelings!
Anonymous WikiZebra
Anonymous WikiZebra
12/03/24 9:52pm
uhm, I got he's into you but I can barely talk to him I'm wayyy to shy and nervous around him. plus he is always busy with his friends so I cannot really talk to him without his friends there......also I want to give him a note but idk if he will see it or like it...
Anonymous WikiTiger
Anonymous WikiTiger
12/03/24 9:59pm
ok I think my crush likes me because of all the signs. should I make the first move?? idk I'm super shy around him....should I make him a note? if yes then should I put my name or just put it as anonymous?
Anonymous WikiDolphin
Anonymous WikiDolphin
12/04/24 3:39pm
I say go for it she deserves it and so do you! and if she doesn't feel the same way then what is there to loose (other than your friend) but was she a real friend if she turns you down?
Anonymous WikiDolphin
Anonymous WikiDolphin
12/04/24 3:44pm
Yeah I get all of these! There is this guy I'm really into and we have a thing called WEB together and we have A LOT in common, but now idk how to talk to him because I have feelings
Anonymous WikiNarwhal
Anonymous WikiNarwhal
12/05/24 12:46am
i have a crush on someone that my parents would not approve of but there kinda my closest and best friend. my parents know there name but not their age and would probobly ground me for it and they like me but there parents want them to date someone they dont like. what do i do?
Anonymous WikiBandicoot
Anonymous WikiBandicoot
12/12/24 5:10am
girl maybe have talk with ur parents about the types of people there. if ur parent don't approve of them because of the way they dress or their looks maybe ask them to meet them or tell that looks shouldn't define people.
Anonymous WikiLion
Anonymous WikiLion
12/05/24 11:35pm
first you should look for signs that she like you too, once you have gathers enough evidneece, you should ask her out if she says no its OK maybe, you can still be friends.

have fun!
Anonymous WikiToad
Anonymous WikiToad
12/06/24 12:50am
I feel that, Personally I just say go for it, Its not like I ever could. Don't be like me go for it dude!
Anonymous WikiFlamingo
Anonymous WikiFlamingo
12/06/24 1:21am
ok I have enough courage to give my crush a note that says "Do you like me?" does anyone support this? I for one think this is a good idea,but what do you guys think?
Anonymous WikiLion
Anonymous WikiLion
12/08/24 10:24pm
It says that he thinks I’m an irresistible mystery, but 43% got that, so I’m not sure. Could you add some quizzes that are like “Does he like 2 people” or something like that, I had one but now I can’t remember it… But thanks for the quiz!
Anonymous WikiOwl
Anonymous WikiOwl
12/09/24 2:54am
If she's really your friend and she doesn't have the same romantic feelings she wouldn't stop talking to you for something like that.
Calla 2
12/10/24 12:06am
I had the same problem but once I told him he just got closer with our friendship, and after a few weeks he asked me out. Honesty is always the key in a situation like this.
Anonymous WikiTiger
Anonymous WikiTiger
12/10/24 2:45am
I like someone, but I am getting in trouble in class and sometimes make them nervous. So I've been trying, and I think they notice. We've been places outside of school, and she always laughs at me in a funny way. It's definitely flirting. But does she like me back? I need to know! This quiz helped somewhat, but...
Anonymous WikiCapybara
Anonymous WikiCapybara
12/10/24 5:03am
Tell her your feelings you don’t know maybe she likes you to and if she doesn’t have feelings then give her space for a few days then talk about it to her and make sure to respect boundaries
Anonymous WikiLemming
Anonymous WikiLemming
12/10/24 9:41pm
I have a rl big crush on this boy called theo,buttt we are not best friends and ,friends’ is an overstatement, im not really pretty and know i don’t stand a chance with him but i know i like him and its hard not to, any advice?
Ella😜
12/11/24 8:55pm
look if you really like this person and there's a chance of her feeling the same way, then take a shot in the dark man
Anonymous WikiDolphin
Anonymous WikiDolphin
12/12/24 4:38pm
I think you should tell a close friend but not her. I have got a friend tell them for me. Sometimes work.
Anonymous WikiFawn
Anonymous WikiFawn
12/12/24 10:51pm
OK so I gave a note to my crush and he did not like that at all sooo T-T T-T
Anonymous WikiChinchilla
Anonymous WikiChinchilla
12/13/24 3:21am
I had the same situation as you, bro, but it's much worse. Everyone know i used to have a crush on her but i just can say my crush for her is ended to hide my feelings. Recently, she has more skinships with me or it's just my imagination but i can't stop thinking 'bout it and don't know if we could be a couple, need advicesss
Anonymous WikiKangaroo
Anonymous WikiKangaroo
12/13/24 4:21am
i need help! i like my long time good freind but my girl bestie likes him too! i want to tell them
Anonymous WikiTapir
Anonymous WikiTapir
12/15/24 1:07am
I'm also in love with my best friend and told her about it. she said she liked me too. but i don't know about yours, they might find out so confront them about it
Anonymous WikiLemur
Anonymous WikiLemur
12/15/24 3:24am
I thought I had a crush but now it seems like love with my ex friend. We had a fight because he thought I was into him before. Now insulting him is the only way that makes me happy.
Anonymous WikiNarwhal
Anonymous WikiNarwhal
12/17/24 2:14am
I really like this guy who sits next to me, and I've kinda known him since 5th grade, but he thinks I like an eighth grader. Also, everyone says he doesn't date, even though he dated someone else.
Anonymous WikiFox
Anonymous WikiFox
12/17/24 2:29am
Talk to her about how you feel and maybe she feels the same about you depending on how she acts and how close she is to you.
Anonymous WikiLoris
Anonymous WikiLoris
12/17/24 7:30pm
If you two have a mature relationship I think that it will survive you confessing your feelings to her. I've been best friends with my best friend for over a decade now and when I confessed my feelings to her, nothing changed. We still see hang out all the time. The longer you hold onto these feelings the worse you will feel, it's better to get it off your chest. Good luck!
Anonymous WikiStoat
Anonymous WikiStoat
12/18/24 3:36am
What do i f I'm if he likes me and he just doesn't respond when people tell him and this other guy asked me out and I like both of them what do I dooooo
WikiTapirDancer529
12/18/24 4:19am
I know exactly how you feel.
I’ve known this guy my entire life so far and I started having feelings for him.
But when we sort of ended up together, it started to feel like more of an older brother
WikiDugongTamer415
12/18/24 10:08pm
What do I do if I know my crush from both church and school and I catch her doing things such as : telling me the boy she likes and wants me to hint that she likes him without telling him and it sounds suspicious, staring at me as the last thing she sees before leaving, and also staring at me until i catch her. This girl is also in 7th grade. Please Help!!!
WikiDugongTamer415
12/18/24 10:21pm
What do i do if my crush goes to both my church and middle school and doing suspicious things such as : telling me the boy she likes and asking me to hint it to him suspiciously (this boy is friend of mine), staring at me as the last thing she sees before leaving the building, staring at me until i catch her, and acting shy around me. Please Help!!!!!
Anonymous WikiTiger
Anonymous WikiTiger
12/18/24 11:48pm
Yoo I've been there before and I know that having a crush on your best friend is such an awful situation! You have all these feelings eating you up inside but then you're worried about messing up the friendship if you say anything. Maybe if your best friend has another friend that knows them well you could ask them for advice or insights into how your best friend feels about you. I personally think you should go for it.
Isabella Bella
12/19/24 2:09am
I honestly think you should just tell her up front! Or maybe tell your other friends? I tried to do that, but I’m mega shy. If you’re less shy than me, tell your friends and ask them how to handle it.
wikiHow Expert
Kelli Miller, LCSW, MSW
Kelli Miller, LCSW, MSW
Psychotherapist
12/19/24 6:49pm
I’d first say, it’s wonderful that you are in tune with how you feel. Second, I’d ask whether you want to take the friendship to the next level. If so, I’d encourage you to tell your best friend how you feel. Yes, it’s scary and a risk but if the best friend feels the same, a deeper relationship can develop. If the best friend doesn’t feel the same, that’s ok, and you need to decide if you can handle just having a friendship or if it will be too challenging knowing your feelings.
Anonymous WikiBird
Anonymous WikiBird
12/20/24 4:34am
I know this goes against what most of the other comments are saying, but I'd caution you to really think before you confess your feelings, and if you're unsure about how it'll impact your relationship, it's safer to just not tell her (unless you're willing to sacrifice your friendship and have already come to terms with the fact that things may never be the same). Because what happened to me is I confessed my feelings to my best friend because all my other friends were encouraging me to open up to her. But when I did, she got really upset and thought that I was a fake friend who was just being friendly with her to get in a relationship with her. She said that she didn't want to be friends with me and then stopped talking to me. It was devastating...So yeah, just a word of caution.
Anonymous WikiButterfly
Anonymous WikiButterfly
12/20/24 12:26pm
I'm going through the same thing just that I am a girl and he is the boy
Anonymous WikiFerret
Anonymous WikiFerret
12/20/24 12:49pm
Ihave a crush on someone from the other class but i don't know that does he like me or not.Are there any signs that he might have a crush on me?

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If you're also a woman and your best friend has never hinted that she's a lesbian, bisexual, or curious about experimenting with girls, try to bring the subject up in a kind of subtle way to see how she reacts. If she goes, "ew, girls!" or something like that, skip telling her how you feel. If she seems open to the idea though, it could be a sign she's into you.
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Anonymous Reader
I think it's really important to stay calm when you have this conversation. There are going to be a lot of very strong emotions pulsing through you, and if things don't go perfectly you may potentially say or do something you regret. Take deep breaths and keep your cool.
Anonymous Reader
Anonymous Reader
If you have any hesitations whatsoever or you think there's any real chance your best friend won't say "yes," do not do this. Seriously. It is very likely to completely destroy your relationship forever if she isn't also in love with you.
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Anonymous Reader
If you've got a really good relationship with your friend and the two of you communicate well, consider just telling them how you're feeling. You don't even necessarily have to ask them out, you could just say, "You know, I had a crush on you and I'm trying to get over it but man, it's hard!" This could help alleviate some of the tension you're putting on yourself so that you can move on.
Anonymous Reader
Anonymous Reader
You might be surprised, but the odds are very high that your best friend knows you have a crush on them. It's actually pretty hard to hide something like that, especially if the two of you hang out for an extended period of time. If you want to get over it and you're really struggling, telling your best friend about what you're experiencing could be helpful.
Anonymous Reader
Anonymous Reader
If your best friend is a key member of your friend group, try to find another friend group to hang out with for a while. Even if it's just temporary, getting some space from the person you're trying to get over will help you get past the way you're feeling.