I learned the average age for a first kiss is 15...
I'm 25 and haven't had my first kiss yet. I can't help but feel like I'm behind :( I feel hopless about my love life. Am I just doomed to be alone forever? How do I have my first kiss?
For your first kiss, take it easy and build up to the moment. Start with a little bit of light physical contact. You might start by massaging her hand, then moving up her arm. You're basically building up the level of intimacy and also seeing how comfortable she is, because if she's not comfortable with this physical touch, she's not going to be comfortable with you kissing her either.
To look for an opportunity for your first kiss, wait for a pause where there's a lot of romantic tension—you're looking into each other's eyes and there’s that kind of awkward smile when you're looking at each other. You might just want to go for it then! Reach over behind her head gently or lean up to reach her and then go for a kiss. You're going to find out very quickly if it's going to work or not because she's either going to turn her head or move away or respond well and lean into it.
Usually in that kind of moment, it's easy to feel that romantic tension. You're both looking at each other's eyes very intently. You're both smiling. There's a pause. Nobody's saying anything. That's a great time to just go for your first kiss!
To look for an opportunity for your first kiss, wait for a pause where there's a lot of romantic tension—you're looking into each other's eyes and there’s that kind of awkward smile when you're looking at each other. You might just want to go for it then! Reach over behind her head gently or lean up to reach her and then go for a kiss. You're going to find out very quickly if it's going to work or not because she's either going to turn her head or move away or respond well and lean into it.
Usually in that kind of moment, it's easy to feel that romantic tension. You're both looking at each other's eyes very intently. You're both smiling. There's a pause. Nobody's saying anything. That's a great time to just go for your first kiss!
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You NEVER have to kiss anyone if you don’t feel like it. Don’t feel pressure or behind. Take your time- you have your whole life ahead of you don’t do something you’re not ready for. When it’s right you’ll know!
Always make sure it is at the right time, with the RIGHT person
You're right
that's fine just wait for however long you need untill you feel comfortable
hi sorry if im late for this, but its okay to feel like that, if you're not ready, you should take your time
dude chill its fine
If you like someone romantically, and they like you, and you're just not feeling ready for that first kiss yet, I would recommend that you say, "I find you attractive, but I'm not ready for that yet." It's a very simple sentence, but it still indicates you're attracted to them so that they don't feel rejected. You're honoring your own boundary by saying, "I'm just not ready for that yet."
If you're not interested in them romantically, you just need to use your words. Politely decline by saying something like, "I'm sorry, but I don't want to," and then just go on with your day. And if you need to, you can say you're not interested in a romantic relationship right now or you're not interested in a romantic relationship with them ever, whichever is applicable. But if you're declining a kiss from someone, I'm assuming you've been on a date or something like that, and I definitely recommend that you be polite and gracious with the person.
If you're not interested in them romantically, you just need to use your words. Politely decline by saying something like, "I'm sorry, but I don't want to," and then just go on with your day. And if you need to, you can say you're not interested in a romantic relationship right now or you're not interested in a romantic relationship with them ever, whichever is applicable. But if you're declining a kiss from someone, I'm assuming you've been on a date or something like that, and I definitely recommend that you be polite and gracious with the person.
Hey, I'm 32 and I didn't have my first kiss until I was 26. It was with my very first girlfriend and she's now been my wife for 2 years! She makes me incredibly happy and I'm so grateful to have her in my life. It's easy to compare yourself to other people but know that trying to treat averages like guidelines for how to live your life will just make you miserable. Everyone goes through life at their own pace and when the time is right you'll have your first kiss.
I had my first kiss when I was 13 and tbh it was awful. He pressed his lips HARD against mine and kept them suuper stiff, it was so awkward. I didn't kiss again until I was in my 20s and in college and it was MUCH better. I think when you get older people are more mature and have a better sense of their bodies, so the kiss will feel better. Having your first kiss in your teens is not all it's cracked up to be.
yup
Uhhh i just had mine today and i had no clue what to do😭 anybody got advice??
One thing that sometimes works is saying something flirty, even a few days after like, "Geez, I feel like that kiss was so awkward," Try making a joking apology, and then follow up with something like, "Although, we can always try again and make it less awkward," This works for me, so I would recommend it.
Good idea, I use this sometimes too
If you had your first kiss with someone you really like, this is exciting! If you feel like you are ready, you can enter a relationship with that person. My advice is do not make it awkward unnecessarily. Just talk! If you find that you don't like that person anymore after kissing them, then talk to them and explain that maybe you're not ready or find that you're not interested. If someone kissed you that you never liked or never wanted to be kissed by, notify someone you trust and work it out, and talk to the person and say that kissing without consent is unacceptable. Otherwise, this is great! Just let it happen and embrace the natural!
well when I had my first kiss my girlfriend broke up with me the next day for some reason help but yea just try not to make anything to awkward lol
I would give you advice but I had my first kiss at 11 in a spin the bottle game and I'll always regret it, sooo
Agree with most of what's being said... Life is to be enjoyed and making good memories. Keep in mind, it's ok to push yourself a bit for what you want, just don't force it. BTW, DO NOT use Chapstick, that stuff becomes obsessive and addictive as much as using a puffer. Just lightly wet your lips by turning them in towards each other or very discretely using the tip of your tongue. You can practice that stuff in you own privacy very easily. Use what nature gave you.
i know man
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that is crazy
dude WHAT
i think its sweeter when both are enjoying
You will eventually have a first kiss, don't feel hopeless.
I have
It's okay, you can kiss me virtually. <3
me to?
Aww sweet <3
ew no you creep
exactly thank you
bro what no rizz were tryna be helpful here
youre amazing my fellow, we are the best humans. we dont need to kiss
hiya im freaking out rn basically im in middle school and EVERYONE IN MY YEAR is forcing me and my bf to kiss. im rlly scared cus idk how to kiss but i know he wants to kiss me and everyone in my entire grade would be annoyed if i said i dont want to kiss him. i kinda wanna kiss me tho but idk how tf to do it! all my friends r giving me tips but this is so hard! someone pls help me!
don't feel pressure if you don't want to kiss him you don't have too! it will be forgotten about also don't worry about being unaware of how to kiss it only has to be a short simple peck at your age :)
Thats what people call peer pressure im also in middle shool and have a bf,and everyone id saying we should hold hands and kiss(we are taking it slow cuz its our first relationship),if they are annoyed then they arnt real friends,
I'm no expert, but it depends on how you feel. If you want to kiss him, then try to do it in private, or only around trusted friends who won't go around telling everyone if you don't want them to. As a middle schooler with a gf, I'm kinda going through the same thing, mainly peer pressure. Not that I don't wanna kiss, but it's the same thing. If you don't want to, just tell him. He most likely will not get offended if you just tell him honestly.
I really want to kiss this girl at school, I am dating her but idk how to go about it. We flirt and stuff over text and in person, but idk how to get an opportunity.
I might be able to help because I myself have a gf, if you want to kiss her at school, try to not be around a lot of people. Maybe try holding her hand, maybe at lunch or something. Then, what I do, is just look at her, if she holds eye contact, then you can try moving in for a kiss. I would recommend a kiss on the cheek to start. Or just flat-out ask her about kissing.
Bro, yes. Speaking as a girlfriend I would definitely agree with what he said.
Start dating someone you like
I feel that, I'm 15 and my friends are joking and being somewhat rude about the fact that I'm 15 and haven't kissed anyone. Don't get me wrong I love my boyfriend, I just don't know the right time, I wish it could be easier. I trust my boyfriend, I just need advice on when the right time is to kiss.
wait are you a boy or a girl cuz I have different advice for each gender
Definitely get him when you’re alone or not surrounded by many people.
Just go to a room or close the door for a second and kiss him
sneaky but good
Don't worry, you're not the only one in the world. I promise you this: there are other people your age that is feeling exactly the same. You should just trust that your first kiss will come. As the saying goes: Good things come to those who wait. Everything happens for a specific reason.
Its fine. Kiss is not everything. When you were a baby, you received a lot of kisses from parents and might still be receiving. The next part should start after marriage. So be relaxed. God didn't create you for just kisses from illegal partners. Do it legally; hopefully you will enjoy it.
I agree with what you said
But I’m not so sure about the illegal pat.
But I’m not so sure about the illegal pat.
You will find your main one
No I don't think you doomed to be alone forever.Just get to know the person and if they feel right to you and you guys been together for a while just lean in and kiss them.
you are just like my sister
Just go for it duh
take the shot
no youre not because theres so many others like you that feel the same way, itll take time to find your person. good things come to those who wait!!!
I had my first kiss when i was eight with a boy in the neighbor hood so your really behind but if you meet someone and he likes you try on the cheek firs and then go for the real deal
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wait how do you know ur first kiss is TOMORROW??
I’m not a expert it just happens and if he feels like the one go for it honestly life is about taking chances
have a crush mabye it could happen
Hi. My boyfriend says he wants to kiss me and he wants me to give him s hickey, I told him i want to do the same things but I have no idea how to do ether please help me
Y'all I'm in a tough spot there's this guy I like at my school and I'm feeling some like feelings coming back from him while I just don't know how to like tell him without it being awkward you know and also like go to get him in private
I think it might help to not be so desperate about it. Focus your attention on other things (hobbies, interests, etc.) as well as looking for someone. Don't feel like you're behind! First kisses are different for everyone. (Lowkey I actually don't want to have my first kiss until I'm married.)
I respect that.
No, you won’t be alone forever. But NEVER force yourself to kiss someone you don’t like.
girl im 60 and I have never had my first kiss nor partner nor kids
The winter dance for my school is coming up, and im taking my girlfriend. Ive kissed her on the cheek before, she was comfortable with that. Ive asked her about a normal kiss, and she only said "If its the right moment and noone sees, you may". But I have no idea how to kiss! I really like her, we never argue, and our conversations flow endlessly and effortlessly. This will be both of our first kiss! And I need to leave a good impression for a kiss, so she really knows how much I enjoy her company. Somebody please help me!
Just find sometime when she’s alone (not the dance) and ask for consent. You can tell if she wants to kiss you by watching for her face getting close to yours. If you see that, ask here if she’d like a kiss. It shouldn’t be any longer than four or five seconds.
My crush is moving away next year in 7th grade, and i am planning to kiss him before he leaves, but im not very confident
Aww it’s fine! I haven’t had my first kiss also lol! Here’s some tips maybe?: find someone you like, maybe a friend or someone you know, ask them out, if they say no then go find another lucky person, if they say yes then maybe kiss or something? (Idk if that helped)
no no no, its not like that. its just that, meet more people often. and try to explore. along the way, you will meet your significant other for sure.
Hey, you're not alone. I'm 24 and I haven't had my first kiss yet either. We're still really young, and it's not helpful to get down in the dumps about not having had our first kiss yet. Your first kiss will happen when it happens, and if you can make peace with that, that will make you feel a lot better.
If you want to take an a more active approach to getting your first kiss, try putting yourself out there more. Download some dating apps, join some local hobby groups or clubs, and work on yourself. Taking care of yourself will make you feel better, which will help your confidence and make you more attractive to others. Good luck!
If you want to take an a more active approach to getting your first kiss, try putting yourself out there more. Download some dating apps, join some local hobby groups or clubs, and work on yourself. Taking care of yourself will make you feel better, which will help your confidence and make you more attractive to others. Good luck!
Its ok tbh my first kiss at 14 was a mistake so wait till you find someone who will be right for you and not someone you wish you never did nun with.
I respect that.
Hey! There is no "being behind" in life when it comes to love. Some people fall in love with their high school sweetheart and then end up divorcing just a few years later. Others meet their soulmate when they're on the older side and cherish them for the rest of their life. You'll find love when the time is right for you. Sometimes it's nice to be older because you'll have more of your life sorted out and will have a better idea of who you are and what you want in a partner. The kiss will come!
Good question. Here are some tips to have a good first kiss when you do have it: use tongue, tune in and attune to the other person while you're kissing them to really feel them so that there's a feeling of connection. Open your mouth and move your head. Also, you can do different things, like use your tongue in different ways. I would say that really aggressive kissing isn't good. The worst type of kissing is when a man pushes his tongue down your throat and you end up feeling overwhelmed by that. I think it's great if the man is leading the kiss. But he also needs to be tuning into the woman at the same time and not overly aggressively forcing the kiss.
It's easy to have your first kiss if you don't care who it's with. But since you are 25 and haven't had your first kiss yet, that tells me that you DO care about who your first kiss is with, and that's totally okay! In fact, I think that it's a good thing that you haven't had your first kiss yet. You are waiting to have your first kiss with someone who you are truly in love with, and I think that's great. There are definitely people out there who kiss a lot when they're young and don't even enjoy it. Just stay true to who you are and don't worry about when you'll have your first kiss. You've waited this long. You might as well enjoy the non-kissed life while you can still live it.
What! 15?? Who cares about that statistic... Everybody's situation is different. I'm 28 and I haven't had my first yet either, nor do I even think I want it! Don't pay mind to shallow societal 'statistics,' instead understand what you yourself want and if you want to be with somebody and kiss, do so under purely your own volition.
I went thru that mindset too not far from your same age, but I found out how toxic that mentality was. I hope you can understand it really isn't worth chasing society's "you should be here by now" ideals, they're horrible and just make you feel worse about yourself. Reject society, embrace your own knowledge & power!
I wish you the very best, I know this isn't easy. Self-comparison is just a rabbit hole to heck, honestly. Remember that it's okay if the anxiety isn't gonna disappear overnight, just keep what's said in mind.
PS: I feel strongly enough about this that you motivated me to create an account!
I went thru that mindset too not far from your same age, but I found out how toxic that mentality was. I hope you can understand it really isn't worth chasing society's "you should be here by now" ideals, they're horrible and just make you feel worse about yourself. Reject society, embrace your own knowledge & power!
I wish you the very best, I know this isn't easy. Self-comparison is just a rabbit hole to heck, honestly. Remember that it's okay if the anxiety isn't gonna disappear overnight, just keep what's said in mind.
PS: I feel strongly enough about this that you motivated me to create an account!
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Reader Tips from How to Prepare for Your First Kiss
It is completely okay to be nervous. Your first kiss probably feels like a very big deal, and there's nothing wrong with that. Just know that you've got this and your anxiety will dissipate as you get locked into the kiss.
Don't try to "steal" a kiss by going in for it out of nowhere. Make sure the other person feels comfortable and ask for consent if you aren't positive they're going to be into it.
Don't just touch lips. Embrace your partner by hugging them and pulling them in close. Be gentle, but confident.
Reader Tips from How to Kiss Someone for the First Time
If you know the other person likes you but the two of you are just too nervous to make the first move, there's nothing wrong with using a "game" as an excuse to push the moment. Seven Minutes in Heaven, Spin the Bottle, and Truth or Dare are all great excuses to smooch!
Test the waters by brushing up against your crush or throwing your arm around the back of their chair. If they lean into it and touch you back, it's a big sign that they're into you and would be open to a kiss.
It may seem weird to ask for permission, but it's important to make sure that the person is ok with kissing you. If you aren't absolutely positive they're down to kiss, ask for consent.
Smile before you go in to kiss them. It may seem like a small thing, but it'll really turn the energy on the moment up.
Reader Tips from How to Have a Memorable First Kiss
Even if you "screw up" on your first kiss and it isn't exactly what you wanted to happen, it won't matter in the end. A passionate kiss between two people who are into one another is always a good thing, and the kiss itself will be so exciting that the rest of it won't matter.
If you're super nervous about how everything is going to go, don't be. Trust me. No matter how everything goes down, you will look back on your first kiss fondly as an adult. It's pretty impossible to forget a moment like this.
Just be brave and gentle. Everything else will fall into place nicely if you're courageous enough to go for the kiss and gentle enough to avoid overwhelming your partner.
