How to Get a Guy's Phone Number

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Last Updated: October 7, 2024 References

Whether you have no problem asking a guy for his number or you find it to be a nerve wracking experience, there are several direct and indirect methods you can employ to score a guy’s number. Instead of waiting for a guy to ask for your number, take a risk by asking for his number or simply giving him your phone number. Indirectly secure his number from a mutual friend or effectively use various social media platforms to get his number.

Method 1

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Taking a Chance

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Ask him for his number. Directly asking a cute guy for his number is more than little nerve wracking, but the risk is worth the reward. When you have worked up the confidence to ask for his phone number, consider using a cheesy pick-up line, a cute video, or a note. Your boldness may capture his attention and score you his number.^{[1]
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- When approaching a stranger for his phone number, you can be more bold, daring, and memorable. By him a drink and ask the server to write your name and phone number on the cup. Tell him you are playing the phone number game and you need his digits to beat your friend.^{[2]
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- When you ask an acquaintance or close friend for his number, there is more at stake because the chances of you encountering him again are significantly higher. Instead of asking him directly for his number, request his digits in a joking way. Ask him if you can check of his phone. After a few minutes, hand it back to him. Tell him “your phone is pretty cool but it is missing one thing: my phone number.” If he is interested in exchanging numbers, he will ask for yours.^{[3]
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- If you met him through work and it is not appropriate to ask directly for his number, consider asking for his business card instead.^{[4]
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Give him your number. One of the surest ways of getting a cute guy’s number is to offer up your own. This may prompt him to offer up his own number on the spot or he may choose to text or call you later. There are several ways you can pass along your number:
- Write your number on a napkin and give it to him.^{[5]
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- If you meet him while working at a restaurant or store, write your name and number on his cup or receipt.
- If he is your waiter, leave your number on a comment card or receipt.^{[6]
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When you meet an adorable guy and really hit it off, it is natural and acceptable to want to remain in contact. Express that you would like to get to know him more or want to continue the conversation. If he seems interested but doesn’t immediately give you his number, don’t panic. Consider handing him your business card, writing down your number for him, or asking him to put his number in your phone.^{[7]
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Getting His Phone Number Indirectly

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Ask a mutual friend for his number. Whether you are struggling to strike up the nerve to ask a guy for his number or you missed your window of opportunity to do so, consider asking a mutual friend for his number. When you contact the guy, tell him where you met and who gave you his number.^{[8]
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- If your friend asks you to explain why you would like the number, don’t be alarmed—it is normal for people to be protective of their own or their friend’s privacy. Provide your friend with a reasonable explanation, such as “I think he is cute,” “I want to get to know him better,” “he left before I could ask him myself,” or “I need it to invite him to a party.”
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Create a reason to exchange numbers. Sometimes, it is necessary to create opportunities to exchange numbers with a cute guy. Potential opportunities include:
- Asking him to study. After you express interest in reviewing for a test or exam with him, ask to exchange numbers so you can plan a study session.^{[9]
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- Making plans. Casually invite him to hang out with a group of friends or ask if he would be interested in doing an activity that just the two of you enjoy.^{[10]
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Call or text yourself from his phone. If the opportunity arises for you to have access to his phone, take advantage of it. Ask to use his phone to make an call or send a text. When he gives you his phone, ring or text yourself. Save his contract information in your phone.^{[12]
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- You could also ask to use his phone to help locate your “lost” phone. As you search for your phone, have him dial your number or text you. Once you find your cell, you can save his contact information.
- Never steal someone’s phone. Always ask for permission.

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Using Social Media

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After you meet a cute guy, don’t hesitate to send him a friend request on social media. When he accepts your request, you will have access to his profile, which contain his phone number. If his number isn’t listed, send him a message or chat with him online instead.^{[13]
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When people get new phones, they will often post a message on social media requesting their friends’ phone numbers. If your crush sends out a similar message, don’t hesitate to respond. It is the perfect excuse to exchange numbers with a guy.^{[14]
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Ask for his number via social media. It can be extremely stressful to ask for a guy’s number face-to-face. Fortunately, social media provides you with several alternative ways to communicate with your crush:
- Instead of asking for your crush’s number in person, send him a private message requesting his number.
- Chat with your crush online. After talking for a while, explain that you have to get going and ask if you can continue talking with him via text instead.
- Send flirty tweets back and forth with your crush. Once you capture his attention, ask for his number.^{[15]
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Always be confident.

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Guys want your number too!

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If he won't give it to you, don't keep asking for it as It can come off as Needy or Annoying, find another way to get his phone number.

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You can always say that you and your friend are having a contest to see who could get the most people in their contacts. Or, you could say that your friend is betting you that you'd never be able to get a hot guy's number if you want to make it a little flirty.
If you're really scared of rejection (which is totally normal!), there's nothing wrong with asking a friend if she can poke around to see how a guy feels about you. That way, you can get a read on whether he'll say yes or not before you ask for his digits.
Just ask for it. I know it feels really scary, but it's not.. It isn't that bad. Just walk up to him when he is alone and just ask. The worst thing he could say was no, in which case you can at least stop wondering "what if" when you go to bed at night.
If you go to school together, try to get paired up for a group project. At some point, ask for his number. If he asks why, explain that the two of you might need to connect after school to work on the project!

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