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Be a good party host from prep to parting gifts
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Whether you're throwing a raging party or a small gathering, you want your guests to have a good time. By making basic preparations and inviting a dynamic group of people, you can ensure your event will succeed. Hosting a good party is all about preparation, so if you get everything ready ahead of time, you can be assured that you and your guests will have a good time all night.

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Make your guest list.

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  1. Consider the type of party you want to have. If you want close conversation, limit your invite list to 8-12 people. If you want a large, raging party, go bigger.
    • You don’t have to invite everyone you know to every party. Consider what type of party it is (e.g., salsa dancing vs. a conversational dinner) and which guests would enjoy that event.
    • Try to include at least one person on your guest list who can be the “life of the party” and fill any awkward silences.
    • Assume everyone will say yes instead of inviting tons of people and hoping only a set amount can make it—you can always add more people later!
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Send out invitations that match your party’s vibe.

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Prepare a tasty menu.

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  1. Have enough food for the entire party, and make sure you have options for children and different dietary restrictions (if needed). Don't put out all of your food at once—fill up a few bowls, then refill them as the party needs.[8]
    • Focus on doing one thing well, and then forgetting the rest.
    • For example, if you spend your cooking time baking a delicious layer cake, don’t worry about also making the entree from scratch. Order take-out or buy something you can warm up in the oven!
    • Put the food options wherever you want people to be: living room, kitchen, or wherever you want guests to flock to!
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Personally greet each guest at the door.

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  1. Offer to take coats or jackets and direct them to the designated room. Let any guests who haven't been over before know where they can get a drink or some food, and point out the guest bathroom. If you can, take some time to talk and converse.
    • If you're cooking or moving around a lot, lead them into the party, hand them a drink, and excuse yourself with a smile.
    Ina Garten
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    Be a friendly host! "I try to greet my friends with a drink in my hand, a warm smile on my face, and great music in the background, because that's what gets a party off to a fun start."

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Check in with all your guests during the party.

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Provide fun and interesting activities for guests.

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  1. Choose an activity that best matches your party and your group of guests. Try a drinking game like King’s Cup, a classic board game like Monopoly, or a raunchier card game like Cards Against Humanity.
    • Put a sports game on TV or play a slideshow of photos, giving people something to talk about if the conversation lulls or if they aren’t as involved in the game.
    • Use a pool table or dart board if you have one.
    • Host tasting tests or contests with the appetizers.
    • Set up a karaoke machine with a computer playing sing-along videos.
    • Play Truth or Dare, Never Have I Ever, Desert Island, or similar conversational games.
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Let the party flow naturally.

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  1. Everyone may have been hitting the dance floor in the first half of the evening, but now they’re all sitting down and engaging in intimate conversations. Maybe you had an activity planned, like a movie marathon, but people seem much more interested in chatting than watching the film.
    • Let guests lead the way. Avoid constantly trying to make people dance, asking, "Are you having fun," or pushing games on people who just want to talk.
    • Remember that people really just like to be together, so relax and enjoy it!
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Have a clear end to your event.

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  1. Wrap up the conversation by mentioning some highlights from the evening: “I’ll never forget the story Aimee shared about her family parakeet” or “I know Flynn’s party trick will go down in Hanukkah party history.” Then, thank everyone and walk each guest to the door.[12]
    • Give each guest a small keepsake as you say your goodbye at the door, like a fancy chocolate bar or a Polaroid picture from the evening.
    • Bonus points if your party favor somehow relates to your theme!
    • If someone isn't taking the hint that it's time to leave, try making a light-hearted comment like, "You don't have to go home, but you can't stay here!"
    • Reader Poll: We asked 612 wikiHow readers who’ve had to kick someone out, and 54% felt that you should evaluate the situation and the person before using humor to ease the tension. [Take Poll]

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    I want to throw an end-of-school summer party, but I don't want too few or too many people there. What should l do?
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    First, determine the exact max number of people you want. This depends on many factors: budget, capacity of the location, how many people you can keep in line, etc. Next, make a new list of all the people you would hope to see there, ignoring your max for a moment. Next, compare the two numbers. If you have fewer than the max, you're fine. If you have more, you'll have to cut some people. Send out personal invitations, by name, so they know they can't just bring more people. If you feel bad for cutting some people, consider a pre-party, or an after-party at a bar where everyone is welcome and pays their own way.
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    I want to throw a party for the people at my school, but I'm not sure what to do, since I want a lot of people there. What do I put in the invitation to make sure they come?
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    If you want your party to be attended by a lot of people, make the invitation on Facebook or your social media accounts. You don't have to put anything special into the invitation, except for the date, time, theme (optional) etc.
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  • Turn up the air conditioning before guests arrive, especially if you’re hosting in hot weather. Having lots of people in your home can make temperatures rise quicker than you might expect.
  • Keep things simple. Don’t make your party process so complicated that you never want to do it again. Prioritize big impact items, like cleaning your bathroom over cleaning your pantry or serving up a homemade entree over a fresh-cut fruit tray.
  • Serve food and drinks on paper products. While this shouldn’t be done all the time (for environmental reasons), it can make your cleaning process much easier after a big party.
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  • Choose just ONE dish to make that will impress your guests. If you've traveled somewhere this year or watched a movie set in a different country, try making something from that cuisine, like homemade sushi or a jar of sangria.
  • It's easy to get stressed as a host, but try not to lose your patience or shout at anyone. This will quickly spoil the atmosphere of your party.
  • For birthdays or holidays, use themed banners that spell out things like "Be Mine" or "Another Year Older."
  • Make guests feel like they are at home. Give them plenty of space and seating so they feel comfortable.
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  • Ensure your guests are drinking responsibly. Stop serving if anyone’s behavior is becoming erratic, and make sure no one who seems inebriated is driving themselves home.
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This article was co-authored by Rachel Weinshanker and by wikiHow staff writer, Sophie Burkholder, BA. Rachel Weinshanker is a Certified Event and Wedding Planner and the Owner of San Diego Life Events, an award-winning wedding and event planning business based in San Diego, California. Rachel has over eight years of event planning experience, and her work has been featured in many notable publications. San Diego Life Events has been awarded the Wedding Wire Couple's Choice Award in 2018, 2019, and 2020. Rachel is a graduate from San Diego State University. This article has been viewed 302,772 times.
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To host a good party, send out invites ahead of time with a request for an RSVP so you can plan how much food and drink to buy. On the day, greet everyone warmly when they arrive and offer to take their coats so they feel welcome. Additionally, have upbeat music playing in the background to create a positive atmosphere. Once the party gets going, try to spend time with each guest to check that they're engaged and having fun. If you feel the conversation is dying down, mix up groups of people or introduce a shy guest to new friends. For tips on how long you'll need to prepare and how to tidy up after the party, read on!

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