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An active sex life can be important for your physical, mental, and emotional health, as well as help strengthen the bond between you and your partner. But sometimes stress, aging, or mismatched sex drives can get in the way. Fortunately, there are all kinds of things you can do to increase libido, make sex more pleasurable, and reconnect physically with your partner, and we've rounded them up for you below.
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QuestionWhat helps erectile dysfunction?Klare Heston, LCSWKlare Heston is a Licensed Independent Clinical Social Worker based in Cleveland, Ohio. With experience in academic counseling and clinical supervision, Klare received her Master of Social Work from the Virginia Commonwealth University in 1983. She also holds a 2-Year Post-Graduate Certificate from the Gestalt Institute of Cleveland, as well as certification in Family Therapy, Supervision, Mediation, and Trauma Recovery and Treatment (EMDR).
Licensed Social WorkerMake sure there is actually ED and this is not just an isolated situation. A medical check-up is a reasonable starting place, especially if you are taking any medications or is receiving treatment for an ongoing medical problem. If it is age-related ED, seeing a urologist and discussing possible medications that can help would seem to be a reasonable way to go. But don't jump the gun.
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To improve your sex life, spice things up by focusing on exciting foreplay. For example, try massaging each other before you have sex to build up the sexual tension. Take your time and don’t rush sex so you can both enjoy the feeling of each other’s bodies. You could also explore your kinky side by dressing up in costumes and calling each other different names. In addition to spicing things up, try talking with your partner about what you both like in bed so you can make your sex life more pleasurable. Another way you could improve your sex life is to make time for sex. If you both have busy schedules, it can help to actually schedule a time for sex. For tips on how to initiate sex with your partner from our co-author, keep reading!
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